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Frey Freyday – Circumstance

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

cir·cum·stance – [ˈsərkəmˌstans, ˈsərkəmstəns] a fact or condition connected with or relevant to an event or action.

I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition. Martha Washington  –

Things present themselves to you, and it’s how you choose to deal with them that reveals who you are. We all say a lot of things, don’t we, about who we are and how we think. But in the end it’s your actions, how you respond to circumstance that reveals your character. Cate Blanchett  –

He is happy whom circumstances suit his temper; but he Is more excellent who suits his temper to any circumstance. David Hume  –

You can have nothing and be sad, or you can have nothing and be, like, positive and look at it in a good way and try to make your circumstance better. Slim Jimmy  –

Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. Don Miguel Ruiz  –

Circumstance has no value. It is how one relates to a situation that has value. All true meaning resides in the personal relationship to a phenomenon… what it means to you. Christopher McCandless

Our experience of many life circumstances is a function of our personal perspective and not the circumstance itself. Unknown  –


Circumstance – You are not your circumstances.

People, myself included sometimes, worry. They worry about their circumstances.

When we worry, and worry over and over, you’re saying “I’m going to worry about XYZ and keep the thoughts and keep the worry and I’m not going to step back from those worried thoughts, …I am the thinker of my thoughts and I manage and control those those thoughts, yet I still choose to worry…..”

Most people worry, worry, worry each and every day about their circumstances; past, present, future, real or otherwise.

Essentially when this happens, someone is saying ‘I’m not powerful enough to even choose my own thoughts, but that the thoughts choose me.’ Worry comes to me and I can’t do anything about this.

“You are not your circumstances. Happiness is never based on circumstances.” -Jim Fortin

Think about this – this happens to everyone in some way or another:

When things in life go the way we want them to go, we probably are happy. When they don’t go how we want them to go, we are unhappy – we are also often angry, mean, tense, short with others, distracted, judgmental, grumpy, and it affects you, your work, your relationships, your health. Being unhappy is not good for your health, stress can cause illness and disease. Obviously an unhappy person is not going to be as good as a happy person in relationships and at work. Guess what? When you’re unhappy, you actually get even less of what you want, so it compounds. And again, you’re unhappy!

It is a catch-22, self-fulfilling prophesy.

You can’t let the external world affect you and your happiness. Happiness comes from the inside out, regardless of your circumstances!

Also, many of us say, “when I get XYZ (job/raise/relationship/house/car/etc.) I will be happy”. Most of us think circumstances will make us happy. The reverse is true!

Happiness creates/attracts better circumstances.

Money doesn’t make a happy life, a happy life makes more money.

I personally have seen this in my own life. I believe this stuff is true.

Be happy everyday.


Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Better ways to handle worry

If you’ve read any of my posts, you’ll know I think worry is something none of us should do at any time….but we all do it to some degree.

Here is something from TWO posts by Noah St. John about better ways to handle Worry

From Noah’s two posts (both below):

#1 -How to Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind (Video)

#2 – How to Break The Worry Habit (Video)



How to Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind (Video)

“I shall never forget one night when Marion J. Douglas was a student in one of my classes.

He told us how tragedy had struck his home, not once, but twice.

The first time he had lost his five-year-old daughter, a child he adored.

He and his wife thought they couldn’t endure that first loss; but, as he said, “Ten months later God gave us another little girl – and she died in five days.”

This double bereavement was almost too much to bear.

“I couldn’t take it,” this father told us. “I couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat, couldn’t rest or relax. My nerves were utterly shaken and my confidence gone.”

“But thank God, I had one child left – a four-year-old son. He gave me the solution to my problem.”

What did this four-year-old do to relieve this anguished father’s grief and worry?



How to Break The Worry Habit (Video)

“The great Nobel prize winner in medicine, Dr. Alexis Carrel, said…

‘Those who do not know how to fight worry die young.’

As Thoreau said in his immortal book, Walden:

“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestioned ability of man to elevate his life by a conscious endeavor…

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”

In today’s episode of The #AskNoahStJohn Show, I share how to break the worry habit…

Frey Freyday-Worry

( Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Worry?! Why? …..do you really think something could go “wrong”? Are you not eternal? Have you forgotten how much you’re loved? Don’t you see how far you’ve already come? Could you possibly be in better hands?
Is there not chocolate in every land?  The Universe/tut.com

You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.-Walter Hagen

When you begin to worry, go find something to do. Get busy being a blessing to someone; do something fruitful. Talking about your problem or sitting alone, thinking about it, does no good; it serves only to make you miserable. Above all else, remember that worrying is totally useless. Worrying will not solve your problem.-Joyce Meyer

There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever.-Mahatma Gandhi

Pray, and let God worry.-Martin Luther

Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.-Dale Carnegie

It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.-Wayne Dyer

Worry is a cycle of inefficient thoughts whirling around a center of fear.-Corrie Ten Boom

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.-Leo Buscaglia

Failure is an enigma. You worry about it, and it teaches you something.-James Dyson

Worrying is like praying for bad things to happen. – Unknown.

If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.-George Burns

Bonus: Ted Talk

Listening to Bobby McFerrin sing may be hazardous to your preconceptions. Side effects may include unparalleled joy, a new perspective on creativity, rejection of the predictable, and a sudden, irreversible urge to lead a more spontaneous existence.



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