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Frey Freyday – Circumstance

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

cir·cum·stance – [ˈsərkəmˌstans, ˈsərkəmstəns] a fact or condition connected with or relevant to an event or action.

I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition. Martha Washington  –

Things present themselves to you, and it’s how you choose to deal with them that reveals who you are. We all say a lot of things, don’t we, about who we are and how we think. But in the end it’s your actions, how you respond to circumstance that reveals your character. Cate Blanchett  –

He is happy whom circumstances suit his temper; but he Is more excellent who suits his temper to any circumstance. David Hume  –

You can have nothing and be sad, or you can have nothing and be, like, positive and look at it in a good way and try to make your circumstance better. Slim Jimmy  –

Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. Don Miguel Ruiz  –

Circumstance has no value. It is how one relates to a situation that has value. All true meaning resides in the personal relationship to a phenomenon… what it means to you. Christopher McCandless

Our experience of many life circumstances is a function of our personal perspective and not the circumstance itself. Unknown  –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Circumstance – You are not your circumstances.

People, myself included sometimes, worry. They worry about their circumstances.

When we worry, and worry over and over, you’re saying “I’m going to worry about XYZ and keep the thoughts and keep the worry and I’m not going to step back from those worried thoughts, …I am the thinker of my thoughts and I manage and control those those thoughts, yet I still choose to worry…..”

Most people worry, worry, worry each and every day about their circumstances; past, present, future, real or otherwise.

Essentially when this happens, someone is saying ‘I’m not powerful enough to even choose my own thoughts, but that the thoughts choose me.’ Worry comes to me and I can’t do anything about this.

“You are not your circumstances. Happiness is never based on circumstances.” -Jim Fortin

Think about this – this happens to everyone in some way or another:

When things in life go the way we want them to go, we probably are happy. When they don’t go how we want them to go, we are unhappy – we are also often angry, mean, tense, short with others, distracted, judgmental, grumpy, and it affects you, your work, your relationships, your health. Being unhappy is not good for your health, stress can cause illness and disease. Obviously an unhappy person is not going to be as good as a happy person in relationships and at work. Guess what? When you’re unhappy, you actually get even less of what you want, so it compounds. And again, you’re unhappy!

It is a catch-22, self-fulfilling prophesy.

You can’t let the external world affect you and your happiness. Happiness comes from the inside out, regardless of your circumstances!

Also, many of us say, “when I get XYZ (job/raise/relationship/house/car/etc.) I will be happy”. Most of us think circumstances will make us happy. The reverse is true!

Happiness creates/attracts better circumstances.

Money doesn’t make a happy life, a happy life makes more money.

I personally have seen this in my own life. I believe this stuff is true.

Be happy everyday.

 

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Better ways to handle worry

If you’ve read any of my posts, you’ll know I think worry is something none of us should do at any time….but we all do it to some degree.

Here is something from TWO posts by Noah St. John about better ways to handle Worry

From Noah’s two posts (both below):

#1 -How to Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind (Video)

#2 – How to Break The Worry Habit (Video)


#1

http://noahstjohn.com/how-to-crowd-worry-out-of-your-mind/

How to Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind (Video)

“I shall never forget one night when Marion J. Douglas was a student in one of my classes.

He told us how tragedy had struck his home, not once, but twice.

The first time he had lost his five-year-old daughter, a child he adored.

He and his wife thought they couldn’t endure that first loss; but, as he said, “Ten months later God gave us another little girl – and she died in five days.”

This double bereavement was almost too much to bear.

“I couldn’t take it,” this father told us. “I couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat, couldn’t rest or relax. My nerves were utterly shaken and my confidence gone.”

“But thank God, I had one child left – a four-year-old son. He gave me the solution to my problem.”

What did this four-year-old do to relieve this anguished father’s grief and worry?


#2

http://noahstjohn.com/how-to-break-the-worry-habit/

How to Break The Worry Habit (Video)

“The great Nobel prize winner in medicine, Dr. Alexis Carrel, said…

‘Those who do not know how to fight worry die young.’

As Thoreau said in his immortal book, Walden:

“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestioned ability of man to elevate his life by a conscious endeavor…

If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”

In today’s episode of The #AskNoahStJohn Show, I share how to break the worry habit…

How to Comfort Your Inner Worry Wart

How to Comfort Your Inner Worry Wart

 BY TANCIE LEROUX from tut.com

When my children were young, I’d tuck them in at night with kisses and a song. Every now and then their sweet little minds would be wrestling with a worry that was upsetting them.  Maybe someone was being mean; maybe they were nervous about an upcoming game; maybe they felt they’d disappointed their teacher.  Nothing too earth shattering but distressing to their little hearts.

I didn’t want them to go to bed with a troubled mind so I’d strike a bargain before they drifted off to sleep.  “You give me your worries for the night and I’ll take care of them for you.  If they get too big for me, I’ll hand them over to God.”

That seemed reasonable to them, so they’d place their troubles in my hand and float off to La La Land.

Wouldn’t you like to do that?

All of us spend too much time worrying about “what-ifs” and worst case scenarios that will probably never come true.  With the media informing us of every horrific global event and commercials alerting us to every “silent killer” lurking in our own bodies, the world can feel scary and unpredictable at times.

How do you stay calm when you’re worried about your money, your debt, your job, your health, your loved ones, your pets, your home, your country and a myriad of other fears and unforeseen events.  How do you stay at peace in a world you can’t control?

Being a title-holding worry wart, I’ve found 3 ways to manage troublesome thoughts.

1. Take Control of the Controllable.

Not all worry is useless.  It can serve you well when it drives you to take action and solve the problems at hand, but when you’re only fixated on the “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, chronic worrying can leave you emotionally drained.

The first step is to evaluate your problem by asking whether it’s solvable:  Is it a real problem or an imaginary what-if?  Is the concern realistic?  Am I killing off healthy loved ones in my imagination for no apparent reason? How likely is this to happen?  Can I prepare for it or is it out of my control?

Next is to take any action that’s needed right away.  If you’re anxious about debt, call your creditors and set up a payment plan.  If you’re having pain in your leg, make a doctor’s appointment.  If you’re concerned about the cold weather, move to Southern California.  Focus on the things you can solve rather than the things and conditions that are out of your control.

Whatever’s left, kick it to the curb and focus on ice cream.

2. Make a “God Box”.

I read about The God Box in Tosha Silver’s book Outrageous Openness and I knew I needed one.  Some of us like having something to DO when our nerves need soothing.

Get yourself a dedicated box that feels good to you.  Place it somewhere in your home that’s sacred and personal.  When you have a worry, write it down on a piece of paper and place it in the box.

As you put it inside, call on God (or whatever your divine source is) and release your personal focus and attachment.  Surrender it to your higher power and allow it to use anything and any way it wants to solve your problem and meet your needs.

There’s no “your way or the highway” allowed.  The Universe is more clever and magical than you ever thought possible and always finds the perfect way.

3. Do a Good Deed.

Doing a good deed not only makes you feel warm and fuzzy, it replaces rampant negative energy with positive.

Give needed attention to a loved one, help a sick neighbor, give a compliment to the store clerk or offer a meal to a homeless person.  Any kind act works.  Use your instincts to be led to the right opportunities.

The added benefit is that when you engage in good deeds, your body releases Oxytocin which reduces stress and makes you feel better.  Kindness also triggers feel-good chemicals like dopamine and endorphins which increase your overall well-being.

When you worry, you’re putting too much focus on the future and not enough on the here and now.  Bringing your attention back to the present by controlling what you can, releasing what you can’t and changing your focus to others, lessens your anxiety and puts you in a place of gratitude.

As adults, we have busy and full lives which can give us lots to worry about, but we still have the opportunity to hand it all over to a much wiser and loving power when it feels too big.

When you go to bed tonight and lay your head gently on the pillow, let your “Divine Mother” hold your worries while you sleep and maybe, just maybe, she’ll sing you a lullaby as you drift off to La La Land.

Rest well and sweet dreams.

– See more at:

http://www.tut.com/article/details/156-how-to-comfort-your-inner-worry-wart/?articleId=156

Frey Freyday – Worry (don’t worry)

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.-Leo Buscaglia

A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of work.-John Lubbock

You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.-Walter Hagen

To be a champion, you have to learn to handle stress and pressure. But if you’ve prepared mentally and physically, you don’t have to worry.-Harvey Mackay

I think my mother… made it clear that you have to live life by your own terms and you have to not worry about what other people think and you have to have the courage to do the unexpected.-Caroline Kennedy

Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.-Dale Carnegie

Worry is a technique you created to fill the moments of your life. –Wayne Dyer

Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It is already tomorrow in Australia.-Charles M. Schulz

WORD TO (not) LIVE BY:
Worry: [wur-ee, wuhr-ee] – to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; fret.

Worrying is a learned habit. (It can be unlearned) Worrying is almost always useless. It has been said that worrying is like praying for bad things to happen. Worrying makes us feel worse, it makes us focus on things we don’t want, it makes us tense and unhappy, it takes us away from what we do want or hope for. We can interrupt the pattern of worrying anytime we want. We can choose to think of good things, hope for good outcomes, or even simply stop worrying and take action instead!

In our society, sometimes some of us think that worrying shows love or caring for another. Traditionally our grandmothers and mothers would say something like, “I worry about you” and maybe they sometimes mean, “I care about you.” We can care about someone or love them without worrying about them.

Instead of worrying, think about good things for our loved ones. Instead of worrying, write a list of things you’re grateful for, happy about, hopeful for, action steps – or just go take action. Write someone a quick positive letter instead of worrying. Send out some good energy!

I’ve heard someone say that ‘Worry makes us immobilized in the present moment as a result of things that may or may not happen in the future, or things that have already happened and we can’t change.’ So why do it? Does it help? No! Is it useful, no.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).
Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also
a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would
raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other
children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.
Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,
sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.
with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one
word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and
they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images
with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and
references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS Article:

Worried? How Not to Let It Get the Best of You<http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Eliminate-Worry-From-Your-Life-Wayne-Dyer#ixzz3Vc6budu1>

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Eliminate-Worry-From-Your-Life-Wayne-Dyer#ixzz3Vc6budu1

Is it Useful?

“Adjust your habitual vocabulary—the words you consistently use to describe your emotions and sensations—immediately change how you think, feel and live.”

Did you ever notice someone who has some believe from long ago that seems to hold them back?

I know of someone that was once not afraid to fly, then one small thing seemed to happen once on a flight 15 years ago, and now this person is very afraid to fly. She holds onto the belief that she is scared to fly and it is part of her story. Is it useful to have that belief?

Maybe even one event happened in there lives and from that point on, they just hold this belief?
Sometimes we have a judgement, fear, perception, or whatever.

Or, do you ever see someone getting upset, angry, or emotional and it is hurting their judgement or how they are handling a certain situation?

Worrying is another thing that some people do – some people even believe that they ‘need’ to or ‘should’ worry.

Many of our mothers worry about things. There are people that stay awake at night worrying. Is this useful?

(Of course I know that none of the above items ever apply to you or I)

Here is a question to ask in any of the above situations:

IS IT USEFUL?

  • Is that belief, that story from the past, that judgement, fear, perception…..
  • Is it useful to get angry in all occasions or upset at all times?
  • Is worrying useful?
  • Maybe there are times when the above make sense, but asking the question ‘is it useful?” may make us more aware of those times when we have a belief that limits us.

Sometimes we have to be aware of our thoughts, beliefs and actions and be willing to let go of things that are not useful so that we can grow and move on.

 

Frey Freyday-Worry

( Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Worry?! Why? …..do you really think something could go “wrong”? Are you not eternal? Have you forgotten how much you’re loved? Don’t you see how far you’ve already come? Could you possibly be in better hands?
Is there not chocolate in every land?  The Universe/tut.com

You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.-Walter Hagen

When you begin to worry, go find something to do. Get busy being a blessing to someone; do something fruitful. Talking about your problem or sitting alone, thinking about it, does no good; it serves only to make you miserable. Above all else, remember that worrying is totally useless. Worrying will not solve your problem.-Joyce Meyer


There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever.-Mahatma Gandhi


Pray, and let God worry.-Martin Luther


Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.-Dale Carnegie

It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.-Wayne Dyer

Worry is a cycle of inefficient thoughts whirling around a center of fear.-Corrie Ten Boom

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.-Leo Buscaglia

Failure is an enigma. You worry about it, and it teaches you something.-James Dyson


Worrying is like praying for bad things to happen. – Unknown.

If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.-George Burns

Bonus: Ted Talk

Listening to Bobby McFerrin sing may be hazardous to your preconceptions. Side effects may include unparalleled joy, a new perspective on creativity, rejection of the predictable, and a sudden, irreversible urge to lead a more spontaneous existence.

Musician

http://www.ted.com/speakers/bobby_mcferrin

Simple Stuff – Fear

(Simple Stuff  is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.-Thomas Paine

I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.-Rosa Parks


Courage is never to let your actions be influenced by your fears.-Arthur Koestler


Everyone gets scared, everyone has fear. It’s what you do next that counts. It’s how you overcome the fear, or use it, that sets you apart. –L. James Frey

Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.-Marianne Williamson


Fear is static that prevents me from hearing myself.-Samuel Butler


To him who is in fear everything rustles.-Sophocles


Fear is excitement without breath.-Robert Heller


No good work is ever done while the heart is hot and anxious and fretted.-Olive Schreiner


If you can change your state of mind, then the fear will disappear. You need to change from a state of fear or uncertainty, to a state of certainty.-Tony Robbins

In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.-Bill Cosby


We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.-Eleanor Roosevelt


Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.-Mark Twain


I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.-Nelson Mandela
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