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Turn it around!

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THERE ARE LOTS OF TURN – AROUNDS…..

OK in business, there is a turnaround where someone steps in/buys it/whatever and takes a failing business, turns it around and makes it profitable  and successful again.

A movie star or rock star might turn around their career that’s been dormant or on the shelf. They can go from ‘has-been’ to overnight sensation in one movie or one album.

Those are more dramatic types of turn-arounds. However, more important turn-arounds are those in our every day lives.

A turn around that you make on your thoughts, on the self-talk you use, on the questions you ask yourself, and on the simple, daily habits you do each and everyday.

Those small things you do or say (or don’t do or say) are sometimes more important than the big turnarounds a celebrity or business person might make.

If you use the compound word “turn around” in a different way, I believe you’ll also have good results.

Here’s what I mean:

if you don’t like something, turn it around. For instance, you might say: “I hate my job.” Not empowering in any way, plus you’re focusing on what you don’t want instead of what you do want, you’re focusing on what isn’t working instead of what works. INSTEAD, say “I want a job that allows me to be creative, work as a team, and collaborate with others to help people…” (or whatever kind of job you want)
Now, when you say that, you’re focusing on what you want and a little more on what works.
To make it even better, turn it around into a question; “Why do I find jobs that make me feel fulfilled?”Why do I find team members at work that collaborate and allow me to be me?” Why do I find great opportunities that allow me to be creative and productive?” (or whatever you want) This way you’re asking your brain why you have what you want, and it will search for it.

If you ask, “Why do I eat so much junk food?” or “Why can’t I lose any weight?” you can’t turn around your life.

If you ask INSTEAD “Why do I eat healthy?” (and try to come up with at least one answer, then let your brain think about it), You’ll get a better result. You can also ask “Why do I lose weight and still enjoy it?” it might even be fun.

“Why do I find ways each day to lose weight, feel sexy, and have lots of fun?” Is even a better question that will lead to a turn around……

If you ask yourself bad questions, like “Why do I always get the short end of the stick?” or “Why is my boss such a jerk?” Your brain will search for an answer for those questions and also you’ll be focusing on what isn’t working. Turn it around with “Why am I so lucky?” “Why do things always work out for me?” “Why is my boss so understanding and supportive?” – then take a moment and try to find at least one little thing to answer it and leave yourself open for other answers. It gets better and easier.
Turn around the negative things into a positive question?
Turn around sayings what you don’t want into what you do want. Let’s face it, “I hate my job” is just an affirmation that makes life more miserable. If you ask “Why do I like my job?” you’ll focus on the good stuff. Maybe your boss won’t change but when you ask ,’why do I like my job’ your brain will look for what you like about it – maybe you like the desk, maybe you like the one guy in support, maybe you like other things you took for granted.
Turn around your life one little step at a time and incrementally you’ll build momentum.
Here are some other suggestions from Wayne Dyer http://www.waynedyer.com
TAKE THIS PHRASE       and               TURN IT AROUND INTO TO THIS ONE
It will be difficult …. into.…I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with ease and comfort. (then ask the same thing in a “why” question)
It will take a long time. into… I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny.
There will be drama…..into….I would rather be loathed for who I am than be loved for who I am not.
I don’t deserve it…..into… I am a Divine creation, a piece of God, therefore I cannot be undeserving.
I can’t afford it…..into…….I am connected to an unlimited source of abundance.
No one will help me…..into …..The right circumstances and the right people are already here and are showing up on time as needed.
I am not smart enough……into …..I am a creation of the Divine mind, all is perfect an I am a genius in my own right.
I’m too old (or not old enough)…..into ….I am an infinite being. The age of my body has no bearing on what I do or who I am.
I don’t have the energy….into…..I feel passionately about my life and this passion fills me with excitement and energy.
It’s my personal history (or my family history)….into…I live in the present moment by being grateful for all of my life experiences as a child until this day.
I’m too busy…..into….. As I unclutter my life, I free myself to answer the callings of my soul.
I am too scared…..into…..I can accomplish anything I put my mind to because I know that I am never alone.

(Remember to ask the same thing in a “why” question)

A small turn around will result in a tsunami of positive changes.

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The Wizard Within….

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I am reading a book by Deepak Chopra called “Twenty Spiritual Lessons for Creating the Life You Want”

It is quite good.

It is something that I have written about on occasion and sometimes try to put into practice in my own life, but often do not.

The Wizard can represent a number of things or beings – it could be our own Spirit, the Universe, the Source, God, the Universal Intelligence, the Higher Self….or whatever you might refer to the power, love, force, and spirit that runs through us all. The Wizard is a metaphor….

The Wizard is that force or spirit that we all have, the true self that never really changes, the person that remains the same as we grow, as we face challenges, as we worry about materialistic things – the Wizard knows what is really important, the Wizard helps us stay on the course when we’re worried, concerned, or chasing the “Joneses”.

The Wizard is that voice inside that helps you make a decision, that helps you stay on track, and that provides you a foundation of strength, serenity, and guidance. The Wizard in us sees the real world, the real person in others – not the beautiful or ugly skins and bones, but the spirit inside.

  • There are some great lessons in this book; some new and fresh, some are things we all probably already know but are definitely good to be reminded of…..
  • Spend time pondering not what you see but why you see it.
  • The Wizard exists in all of us. This wizard sees and knows everything.
  • The Wizard is beyond opposites of light and dark, good and evil, pleasure and pain.
  • Everything the wizard sees has its roots in the unseen world.
  • Nature reflects the moods of the wizard.
  • The body and mind may sleep but the wizard is always awake.

For someone like me who has a difficulty making time for meditation, I found the quote “Without silence, there is no room for the wizard.” very helpful and meaningful…”without silence ther cannot be any real appreciation of life, which is as delicate in its inner fabrics as a closed rosebud.”

…also, Wizards don’t live in fear…when asked “How do you manage this peace of mind?”, the Wizard says, “Look within where there is only peace.”

Lastly, Chopra writes this….”The mind may succeed in making you intelligent, but it is poorly equipped to make you happy, fulfilled, at peace with yourself.”….”the Wizard is inside you and only wants one thing: to be born.”

…..I’ll share more good thoughts from the book as I come across them….

Best wishes for some magic from your inner Wizard today…

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Simple Stuff

A smileMoney doesn’t change everything, it reveals everything – Noah St. John

Good news! Feeling lost does not make one so.
In the palm of my hand,    The Universe, tut.com, Mike Dooley  

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  • “The key to your universe is that you can choose.” – Carl Frederick
  • “I  always tried to turn every disaster into an opportunity.” – John D. Rockefeller
  • “You  must be single minded. Drive for the one thing on which you have decided.” – George S. Patton     

“If you’re prepared, then you are able to feel confident…” – Robert J. Ringer

It’s easy to become seduced by urgency—the belief something needs to be completed. Often we’re trying to complete things that don’t even really matter. We take little things that don’t matter and make them seem important—after all, if we’re doing important things then we must have very dramatic and powerful lives, right? We must learn to break this pattern and not react to the demands of our environment. Tony Robbins

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Sharing a reflective thought…

A short one for the weekend….

2009 was a tough year in my life. Maybe you heard me say that before. During that summer I was pretty low on myself and about a lot of things. Looking back, I am so grateful for the friends, family and various things that came into my life at that time.

Believe it or not, looking back, as tough as it was to go through all of those things and as unpleasant as it was then, these things did make me stronger and I gained wisdom and experiences that have helped me to help others. I appreciate life more. I simplified my life. I now enjoy things that I previously overlooked. I enjoy friends, family, and laughter more than I did before. I have less ‘stuff’ but I am happier.

But , at that time and when I was in that state of mind, I remember having some really tough days. I also remember making some bad decisions, which made life even more unpleasant.

It was summer and I was struggling. Again, looking back, I remember lots of little things that came into my life that year for the better.

Recently I came across this blog by Wayne Dyer that I had printed out in 2009 and stored away. I forgot about it until now. I initially read it a few days after it was written – just before the Fourth of July 2009. At first I blew it off. Then I thought about it. Then I started to do it.

I found that thoughts like this, as well as others by other authors, friends and mentors really helped. It is all about Focus. It is about Momentum – building small successes, then larger ones, then more and more. Looking at and recognizing the good things in life, the things that work, the things that we have and want.

Maybe this blog will mean something to you too. I hope it helps. I hope you have a great weekend……

From Wayne Dyer’s site

How May I Serve? http://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/archive/2009/6

6/26/09 at 7:45 am |   by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

If you could have any job in the world what would it be? Here’s how I have handled the getting of jobs and how I have advised others to go about it. First, get a really sharp, clear vision of what you would like to see yourself doing. Then go to a quiet place in meditation and make conscious contact with God. The beauty of meditation is that you begin to get answers. Instead of asking for something for yourself, put all of your energy and attention into visualizing yourself in a capacity of serving, offering, or creating. It’s then that doors begin to open for you.

Lao-tzu says that doors don’t open while we have attachment to physical things for ourselves. What he calls the angelic guides or Source energy doesn’t enter our lives until we take the focus off “what’s in it for me?” or “what kind of job am I going to get?” or “how much money am I going to make?” and instead focus on “how may I serve?” Get that inner picture of yourself serving in the capacity of your choice and then be at peace with it. Take the focus off scarcity and lack and visualize service. That’s how Spirit works—when we’re letting go, when we’re not trying, not chasing. “Let yourself be lived by it,” says Lao-tzu. Go within and trust Divine timing. That’s how it’s always worked for me and I’ve always had more work than I could handle.

Namaste, Wayne

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Why not just quit? Throw in the towel…

Last week you may have seen that I did some simple blog posts of the CNN Heroes. I did find the show and event to be a great one again this year and I know it takes away from my typical blogs but I thought it was important. I didn’t want it to seem like I was phoning it in – the blogs, that is.

Sometimes I do question if I should/want/can continue the daily blog posts. Do people read these? Do people care? What can I do better? Why bother?

The goal of this blog was to help you and help others benefit from my mistakes and challenges. There are times in my life when I’ve been disciplined and focused on the right stuff and other times when I have not been. My thought was that sharing tried and true – as well as the new – ideas on life, you might benefit and I’ll be reminded of some good stuff – we’ll all benefit.

So here I am this weekend. Challenged by a few things and considering a future venture, the start of which has dragged on too long. I have considered stopping the blog, or doing it much less, I have considered quitting this or that – you know the feeling right?

 We’ve all felt like quitting or somehow withdrawing right? Maybe you’re outside your comfort zone or taking a risk. Maybe you’re just feeling the routine a little too much. Maybe its the bills, health, whatever! The economy, other people, media, politics…etc!

When you feel like quitting, you have to keep going. Often intuition is right and our feelings can guide us but this feeling – quitting – is not intuition, it is fear. That’s OK but just realize that if you quit now, you won’t grow. If you keep going, you will build so much new and grow so much. You’ll show yourself and others how you can keep going. You’ll progress a lot more by moving ahead.

We have all considered or thought it would be easier if we could just run away. It would be nice to give up the responsibilities. Maybe you’d would be free of the never-ending deadlines and the constant barrage of requests from people that wanted to take some of their time, energy and resources. Maybe it is something else.

I read an article recently by Craig Ballantyne , the editor of Early to Rise. In the article he poses the question,  “What’s the worst case scenario in my life? What if I didn’t go back (to work)?”

He said that he’d end up living in a simple home in the beautiful countryside, with space for the dog to run around, and all the time in the world to read the dozens of books he has ordered but has no time to read.

What is the worst thing that can happen?

Also ask this – what “bad” things in your life would possibly be considered “great” things to others? In other words, I was once unemployed for some time. I remember one time while I was unemployed and at a school function; Another parent was complaining because he had to do some mundane things to get paid for it – and he mentioned the amount. I recall thinking that I would do those things for half that amount. Often we take some things for granted and even complain about them – until we lose them. Are you complaining about things others wish they had?

We all feel like quitting, we all make mistakes and fail. In no order, many people have failed big time; Donald Trump, Abe Lincoln, Mother Theresa, Colonel Sanders, Steve Jobs, …lots and lots of people. They didn’t quit but they DID think about it. We all do. We all go through tough times.

Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul. Douglas MacArthur

Quitting seems like the best and easiest choice from time to time. Give up and go take a nap, right?

Let’s just say you did “Quit”. What next?

How would you feel? Ok, maybe you’d feel a little relieved at first. Then how would you feel about quitting? It is true, at first, we might feel like we were free. But would that feeling last?

What about our value and worth? What about our own self-respect?

Learned helplessness is the giving-up reaction, the quitting response that follows from the belief that whatever you do doesn’t matter. Arnold Schwarzenegger

As Craig Ballantyne  put it in his article, “It’s not about us.”  It’s about delivering something to others. It is about contribution. Your value – what you give to the world – is valuable. hope, relief, and love to the people that look to us to end REAL problems.

Personally, Even if I can just help lift one person on one day, it is worth it right? You don’t know what waves you’re creating by your ripples today. You are planting  seeds, and they take time.

When you feel like quitting; “Remember that this is not about you and your worries, it’s about fixing other people’s problems.” Craig Ballantyne

Never stop, never give up, never run away and never give in to the negative self talk or society’s resistance and lack of support.

There is a book “Three Feet From Gold.” It is an allegory that talks about how we can be so close to success and if we quit, we won’t succeed. If we just keep digging a little more, we’ll hit gold. Tony Robbins said it in such a great way once, and I paraphrase ‘when you feel frustration, when you feel like quitting, keep going because that’s when you’re going to grow the most.’

There is another quote I’ve heard, but I can’t credit who said it… “Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever. “

We all go through tough times. Reach out to a friend and ask for a little support. Better yet, offer support to someone else and it will come back to you. Keep moving, take action.

That one additional step, that extra bit of effort, that small action will build your mental and emotional ‘muscles’ so that you’ll be stronger next time, you’ll grow, you’ll mature. You will also likely open another door, help or contribute in some way to the world. You may be setting an example for someone ‘watching you’. You will inspire others and build esteem and confidence within yourself. That simple extra effort towards excellence is something most of the population just won’t do.

Quitting is the easiest thing to do.  Robert Kiyosaki

“Do the work,” as Steven Pressfield says, no matter how tough the work is.

Everybody loves a story….make sure it is a good story

You know, we often get caught up in stories.

Stories can be so very powerful. Think about your favorite movie….the story line is often the power. Even if you don’t like Star Wars, you have to admit that there is power of the story there. Despite all of the special effects and interesting aliens, technology, powers, and gadgets; without the story it would have been forgotten about by now. Star Wars continues to be popular because the story is powerful and connects us. We feel good and identify with the story. We see ourselves in parts of the story and want to see ourselves in other parts.

We connect with people, organizations, brands, cultures and TV shows because of the story. Have you ever had the experience of not knowing someone or some organization, then you hear their story, and you’re suddenly connected? We do have more of a connection if there are similarities in our own lives or stories, but even if not, when we hear a story, we understand, we paint a picture in our heads and we know.

Did you ever notice how some people have a story? Maybe they talk about an injury, about a person that hurt them, a job they lost, or something in their past? What’s your story? Our story often discuss who have helped us and who  hurt us. We get really attached to our own stories, don’t we? Sometimes we feel comfort in our stories. Stories connect us because they simply the complex, they highlight the emotions, they make experiences real, and they allow us to become part of the story. Stories can create metaphors.

However, I think that we all lose sight on how our stories can limit us, restrict us, and how they can basically become an excuse for why we are not doing better. Too many times, our stories essentially say, “This is how it is for me, this is my reality.” We get lost in the past too much and we then think that we’re caught in the past. I don’t think that we even realize that we are getting caught up in our stories.

“I was in a car wreck and…” or “I was in a divorce and…” or “I had this failure/loss and…” or “I lost this person from my life and…” We can hear other’s stories like this, right? We can hear our own stories too, right?

We all fail to realize that there are two sides to every story. We can easily change our story. We are not ‘telling it like it is’ — there is always another way to tell our story. Instead of telling the same old story, I bet that you can go back and highlight other parts of your life and experiences.

“We can not change anything until we first accept it.” Carl Jung

“You can not change your life until you accept responsibility for creating it.” Andy Dooley

A story can be empowering or it can be limiting. Unfortunately most of us unknowingly tell ourselves and people around us stories that do not empower us. Do your stories talk about “what happened to you” or what went well? Do your stories talk about what was right/what worked – or what went wrong?

We create our state of mind, our interpretation of the past, and we create our present and future by our stories.

Think about your story for a moment – you know the one that you tell a friend, a stranger, and especially the one that you tell yourself. Does it highlight how things happened to you and explains why you are “here” and not “there”?  Does the story talk about being overwhelmed? In some way does it highlight what didn’t work?

If you believe in creating your own vibrations in life, in the Law of Attraction, in anything like that, then you want your story to create the correct reality for you. Because whatever your story is – good / bad /happy/sad – that will be your reality. Your story is how you perceive life, it is what you focus on….so focus on what you want and focus on what feels good.

If you focus on what’s wrong with you, what’s wrong with the world – you will be unhappy and if you believe in the Law of Attraction, you will create “that” reality.

Author Andy Dooley uses this as an analogy; think of a rocket ship. Picture it. Think of a rocket ship for each of your desires right now. See the rocket ship for each. Think of your emotions as rocket fuel.  The rocket doesn’t go anywhere with fuel – without the emotion…without the right emotion. That is why it is so important to create a good story going forward as if it has already happened – as if your goal/desire has already been accomplished. When you get a good story; it should talk about good things in the past and in the future. Add emotions and the rocket will blast off and fly far.

“Imagination and emotion are  the most concentrated forms of energy that you possess as a physical creature.” Jane Roberts

For a long time I was stuck in a less than empowering story. I lost my job, I lost both my parents, and experienced losses from investment properties – all within 6 months or less during 2009. All that is true, sure, but my story focused on those events alone. There were good things along the way that I ignored. The way I interpreted the past certainly didn’t help my future.

Honestly, I believe that part of those events came about because ‘my story’ before 2009 was incredibly negative. Before I lost my parents and my job and thousands of dollars, I was unhappy with many aspects of my life, a life that I really should have enjoyed and appreciated. I was unhappy with a great job that I had. I was unhappy with my wife and life in general.

I had some very nice income, a very nice home, a great job that I really wanted back (after I lost it) and a wonderful wife. But I focused on what wasn’t working.

Working from home, I complained about not interacting with others as much. (I actually was on the phone all the time and I went out and visited with people but that was my focus.  Plus, how many people would love to work at home and make a nice income?) My home was/is very nice but I focused on silly things that weren’t working instead of the beauty and nature of it. My wife and I had and have a great relationship, I was simply focusing on little things she did wrong – that any of us do – and ignored the many great things she did. I was unhappy with so many wonderful things…then I lost most of them or felt the threat of losing them.

For a few years I had been telling a story about my job that highlighted the bad parts. Then after I lost my job and my parents, I finally realized how much I really liked my job and my life before – yet I still told a story that didn’t empower me. My story was about how these things ‘hit me’ and how I felt like I was down for the count, how the wind was knocked out of me, how I was spun for a loop, how my head wasn’t on straight. I actually could picture myself sitting down, holding my head as if I had been hit or shaken. Not very empowering.

You see, in my story to others, I used those phrases and cliches. I recall feeling like I was in a prize fight and got knocked around and got knocked down- it was because that’s how I described the experiences to those around me. Do you think that someone in this state can make good decisions? No.

I made decisions like I was smacked around. My decisions were filled with panic, desparation as if I was under duress. My decisions worsened my situation in many cases and added to a weak story.

Also, my story was almost completely looking into the past only. I wasn’t looking forward. This isn’t healthy. Think when you graduated high school or college – or another time when you were young and excited. You were looking into the future. Your story was about tomorrow. My story – and many of us do this as we age – was locked in the past. We can’t create a future by looking into a dreary past.

During that time period, I had accomplishments, I had lucky things come my way, I had made some good relationships, I did some good stuff and good stuff happened to me – but my story rarely if ever spoke of it. How about your story?

It does take a lot of energy for a rocket to take off. It does take a lot for a dream/desire/goal to take off. But if you add emotion, imagination, and empowering thoughts, you can fuel the dream. If you allow fear, desparation, and negative emotions to fuel your rocket, it will take off in the wrong direction.

So – does your story make you feel good? When you tell it to yourself or someone, do you feel drained? Empowered? Abused? Victimized? Does the other person just feel sorry for you? I know with my story, I got lots of sympathy and shared sorrow. People did offer love and support and that was great but it was if I was like a wounded soldier in a hospital bed. People reached out and offered kindness but I wasn’t the guy that they came to to make things happen, I wasn’t a leader, I wasn’t confident, charismatic, happy, or anything good with the story I was telling.

I think the life of an actor can be good or bad – but one aspect would be really great – living the life of someone else. But guess what? We can create that ‘someone else’, at least create it in little ways in our own life.

Whether you know it or not, you are living your life according to your story. If you want to change your life, you must first accept your current situation, realize what story you’re using now – and then change it. Make your story powerful, empowering, happy, grateful – make it more about how you feel good, about good emotions – than about materialistic things. Create a story that builds you up, that brings things to you, that sends out good vibrations. Create a story that you want.

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Simple Stuff – happiness edition

(SIMPLE STUFF is a short bit of ideas, quotes, phrases, and ‘stuff’ to help you stay focused, stay loose, ask better questions, and laugh a bit.)

 Neither a promotion, losing weight, finding a soul mate, writing a book, nor becoming a billionaire, will ensure happiness.
Nothing ensures happiness. No destination is great enough. No dream come true will do.
Because happiness that’s not present at the start of a journey will not be present at its end. – Mike Dooley – tut.com

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