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Frey Freyday – extra mile

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

go the extra mile – (phrase) -To go beyond what is necessary or expected in order to please someone, achieve something, or get something done

You can start right where you stand and apply the habit of going the extra mile by rendering more service and better service than you are now being paid for. Napoleon Hill –

It’s never crowded along the extra mile. Wayne Dyer –

Heroes have a rough time because they stand up when they ought not to, they speak when they ought not to; they always have to go that extra mile. George Foreman –

WORDS TO LIVE BY:

Go the extra mile – To do a little more than asked, to put forth a little more effort, to inject a little more passion, to extend yourself, to push a little more.

The world is full of average people. The world is full of people that are ‘good’ at something. In many ways I include myself in some categories like that, at least in some cases.

We have all said something like, “I’m a good father”, or “I’m a good employee (or insert your job)”. That’s true, you and I may be good – but if we’re honest, good doesn’t go that far. Good is OK. Think about someone at your job that is ‘good’. Not bad, right? Not great either, right?

But we all know a few great fathers, we know who is great at work, who is a great story teller, someone who is great at something. Often there is some talent but more often there is extra effort and passion. We also know those people that go the extra mile.

If we want to be extraordinary, if we really want to contribute, if we really want to make a difference or leave a legacy, we need to go the extra mile.

What if we asked ourselves, each day, how can we be doing more and delivering better results not only for work, but for our relationships, our health, and other important aspects of life?

I wish that I could recall the speaker, once I heard someone say something to this effect, ‘if you put forth below-average effort, you get poor results; if you put forth average effort, you get below-average results; if you put forth good effort, you get average results; but if you put forth extra-effort and go the extra mile, you get extraordinary results, you get excellence’.

It’s not easy but that’s why they call it the extra mile.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Quick thought

Leadership is producing a standard in someone that they will live by to produce higher level results consistently.

Tony Robbins 

Frey Freyday – Charity / Giving

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

char·i·ty-[ˈCHerədē]-NOUN-the voluntary giving of help, typically in the form of money, to those in need

Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance. Francis of Assisi –

I’m going to give away a lot more than half my money. I’d be happy to give that to the government if the government put together programs that were like I’m giving away to charity, in which I believe the money is effectively used to help people. Ray Dalio –

If you haven’t got any charity in your heart, you have the worst kind of heart trouble. Bob Hope –

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love. Lao Tzu –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

CHARITY/Giving – giving to others obviously helps the recipients but it also helps us connect to others, it helps us focus on others rather than ourselves, and actually it helps us ‘feel’ better.

I read an article once “Why Giving Makes Us So Happy” that stated: “Giving is not just a verb. At its essence, it is also a noun. More than something we do, giving is who we are in each moment of our lives, exemplified by the choices we make — sharing a laugh with a neighbor; paying a compliment to the checkout person at the grocery store; passing a warm greeting to someone on the sidewalk; attending carefully to the story our child is telling us rather than chatting on the telephone; relinquishing the need in discussions with our spouse to always be right. These are the behaviors of giving that generate inner happiness.” https://www.huffingtonpost.com/donna-rockwell-psyd/how-giving-is-the-root-to_b_4484075.html

Sometimes during this time of year, society might nudge us towards the commercialization of the holidays, the sales, the buying, what gifts that we want and that we’re giving. I feel it is important to remind myself that it is supposed to be about giving and charity and similar things. It is especially during this time of year that people donate to charities – often due to the season, sometimes just because it is year-end.

Some people donate to the same charity each year, that’s fine. There are so many great charities out there, I don’t think that you can go wrong donating to any one, and it is good to keep an open mind.

If you’re going to give to a charity, don’t you want to make sure that they are well-rated and that they use your money wisely? Check out Charity Navigator (who are they? Charity Navigator is America’s premier independent charity evaluator.)

If you’re looking for a charity or more to donate to, consider these….The exceptional charities on this list execute their missions in a fiscally responsible way while adhering to good governance and other best practices that minimize the chance of unethical activities. Each has earned perfect scores for its Financial Health and its Accountability & Transparency. Those two scores then translate into a perfect 100 point overall score. Less than one percent of the thousands of charities rated by Charity Navigator have earned perfect scores.

Here are selected, very high rated charities, I tried to pick one from each category:

https://www.directrelief.org/ Direct Relief is a humanitarian aid organization, active in all 50 states and more than 80 countries, with a mission to improve the health and lives of people affected by poverty or emergencies. Nongovernmental, nonsectarian, and not-for-profit, Direct Relief provides assistance to people and communities without regard to politics, religion, ethnic identities or ability to pay. Direct Relief’s assistance programs – which focus on emergency preparedness and disaster response and the prevention and treatment of disease – are tailored to the particular circumstances and needs of the world’s most vulnerable and at-risk populations. Direct Relief honors the generosity of its donors by following a firm policy of full transparency in all of its operations.

http://www.seo-usa.org/ SEO was founded in 1963 with a mission to provide talented and motivated young people from underserved and underrepresented communities with access to superior educational and career opportunities. Today, SEO runs three programs: SEO Scholars is an eight-year academic program that gets low-income public high school students to and through college-with a 95% college graduation rate; SEO Career is the nation’s premier summer internship and training program for underrepresented college students, specializing in banking, private equity, corporate leadership, law, and non-profit; SEO Alternative Investments provides education, exposure, training and mentoring opportunities to talented professionals traditionally underrepresented in the alternative investments sector.

http://www.kidsalive.org/ Kids Alive International is a Christian faith mission dedicated to rescuing orphans and vulnerable children – meeting their spiritual, physical, educational, and emotional needs – raising them to be contributing members of their society and witnesses to their family and community. Founded in 1916, Kids Alive International began providing homes for homeless children. Since that time, Kids Alive has expanded to include not only children’s homes but also care centers and schools. These programs provide orphans and abandoned children with an education, clothing, food, medical care (in some cases), and most importantly, the love of Christ.

http://www.lcanimal.org/ Founded in 1984, Last Chance for Animals (LCA) recognizes that animals have the ability to experience pain, and as such they deserve certain basic rights protecting them from pain caused by humans. LCA believes that non-human animals should not be subjected to suffering and exploitation by humans because alternatives exist for nearly every traditional usage of animals. LCA opposes the use of animals for scientific curiosity, entertainment, clothing, and food. LCA recognizes the use of non-human animals in medical experimentation as both immoral and of questionable scientific validity due to the tremendous biological difference between species. LCA’s work advocates conscious and informed lifestyle decisions, and LCA is committed to disseminating truthful information about societal animal abuse to improve the treatment of animals.

https://curealz.org/ Cure Alzheimer’s Fund was established to fund targeted research with the highest probability of slowing, stopping or reversing Alzheimer’s disease through venture based philanthropy. All organizational expenses are paid for by the Founders and Board, allowing all other contributions to be applied directly to Alzheimer’s Disease research. Our foundational research is focused on identifying all the genes and gene mutations that are linked to Alzheimer’s Disease. We can then use this genetic information to reliably predict, early in life, those at greatest risk for the disease (with legal safeguards and genetic and psychological counseling). Our foundational research projects include: Alzheimer’s Genome Project, Alzheimer’s Genome Map, Alzheimer’s Brain-Genetic Study, Alzheimer’s Clinical-Genetic Study, Alzheimer’s Gene Database, MicroRNA’s and APP, and Alzheimer’s Gene Discovery Project.

http://www.fisherhouse.org/ Fisher House Foundation, Inc. is an international not-for-profit organization established to improve the quality of life for members of the military, retirees, Veterans and their families. The Foundation builds comfort homes at military and VA medical centers and gifts them to the government. It assists with the coordination of private support and encourages public support for the network of comfort homes known as “Zachary and Elizabeth M. Fisher Houses.” It works to educate and inform the military and Veterans’ communities, their families and the general public about Fisher Houses and provides necessary support to individual Fisher Houses as needed. Other quality of life programs include scholarship programs, a grants program for volunteer organizations with innovative plans for quality of life projects, the Hero Miles and Hotels for Heroes programs and individual assistance to members of the military and their families during a crisis.

https://www.eji.org/ The Equal Justice Initiative is a private, nonprofit organization that provides legal representation to indigent defendants and prisoners who have been denied fair and just treatment in the legal system. We litigate on behalf of condemned prisoners, juvenile offenders, people wrongly convicted or charged with violent crimes, poor people denied effective representation, and others whose trials are marked by racial bias or prosecutorial misconduct. EJI works with communities that have been marginalized by poverty and discouraged by unequal treatment.

https://wildearthallies.org/ Wild Earth Allies, Inc. (formerly known as Fauna & Flora International, Inc.) joins forces with local organizations and individuals to protect the wildlife and habitats that are so critical to our global biodiversity and sustainability. Our mission is to protect vital areas of our natural world for the benefit of wildlife, habitats, and people by inspiring collaborative action. Our organization is built on important values-optimism, cultural respect, shared learning, and integrity.

The following did not get a 100% but did receive a strong 92.25%-94.13% and I personally recommend it:

https://www.shrinershospitalsforchildren.org/shc Shriners Hospitals for Children is a one-of-a-kind international health care system of 22 hospitals dedicated to improving the lives of children by providing specialty pediatric care, innovative research and outstanding teaching programs. Children up to age 18 with orthopedic conditions, burns, spinal cord injuries, and cleft lip and palate are eligible for care and receive all services in a family-centered environment at no charge – regardless of financial need.

http://www.feedingamerica.org/ Feeding America is the nationwide network of 200 food banks that leads the fight against hunger in the United States. Together, we provide food to more than 46 million people through 60,000 food pantries and meal programs in communities across America. Feeding America also supports programs that improve food security among the people we serve; educates the public about the problem of hunger; and advocates for legislation that protects people from going hungry. Individuals, charities, businesses and government all have a role in ending hunger. Donate. Volunteer. Advocate. Educate. Together we can solve hunger.

https://uwswpa.org/ United Way of Southwestern Pennsylvania leads and mobilizes the caring power of individuals, the business community and organizations to help local people in need measurably improve their lives. United Way creates long-lasting change for the betterment of our community. United Way focuses on solving the pressing issues you care about by bringing together the entire community — policymakers, corporate leaders, excellent agency partners, and people like you who want to help – to assist our neighbors in need and develop long-term solutions. No other single local non-profit can mobilize all of these partners and bring them together to achieve results. Together we have the opportunity to transform the lives of so many people throughout Pennsylvania and accomplish long- lasting impact.

Honorable mention:

(I’m in lending and finance, right? So why not help others through lending and finance?)

https://www.grameenfoundation.org/ Grameen Foundation (GF) USA supports technology and microfinance, commonly known as banking for the poor. Microfinance provides small loans, savings, and other financial services so poor people can launch businesses. As an entrepreneur’s business grows, so does her self-esteem, her family’s well-being, and jobs in her community. GF was founded in 1997 by individuals inspired by Muhammad Yunus and Grameen Bank, Nobel Peace Prize laureates. Our mission is to enable the poor, especially the poorest, to create a world without poverty. GF’s work has helped families across Africa, the Americas, Asia and the Middle East.

And

https://www.fredrogers.org/ Family Communications was founded by Fred Rogers in 1971 as the non-profit producer of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood for PBS. In the years that followed, the company not only created hundreds of episodes of this much-loved program, but also extended Fred’s values and approach to other efforts in promoting children’s social, emotional, and behavioral health and supporting parents, caregivers, teachers and other professionals in their work with children. Now, we honor Fred by carrying on his work under our new name – The Fred Rogers Company. We’re proud to be building on Fred’s legacy in innovative ways through a wide variety of media, and engaging new generations of children and families with his timeless wisdom.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

Giving…

You may have heard of Black Friday and Cyber Monday. There’s another day you might want to know about: Giving Tuesday. The idea is pretty straightforward. On the Tuesday after Thanksgiving, shoppers take a break from their gift-buying and donate what they can to charity. Bill Gates

Vote Down Your Crazy Uncle

Vote Down Your Crazy Uncle


America’s most visible political activists remind us of that distant uncle who spouts the most outrageous opinions and is immovable from his decidedly out-of-the mainstream viewpoint. Tune into any political news program and you are likely to see a replication of the arguments that took place around the Thanksgiving table. Facts don’t seem to matter, and those with the strongest opinions are the least likely to accept different points of view. Unfortunately, it is these Americans – the most partisan and ideologically driven citizens our nation has to offer – who determine the outcome of our elections and set the political course for the country.


[ OPINION: Primaries Are a Good Thing ]


According to a comprehensive survey by the Pew Research Center, a majority of Americans identify more toward the political center. However, according to Pew, “the most deeply partisan and ideological groups…also are the most likely to vote, pay attention to politics and to be invested in the outcome of the 2018 congressional elections.” In addition, “these highly partisan ideological groups also donate money, contact elected officials and discuss politics with others at the highest rates.” These are the voters to whom candidates must appeal in order to win elections.



That’s why your crazy uncle and his hyper-partisan brethren have a distinct advantage at the ballot box. The voters in elections – especially primary elections – skew heavily toward the ideological extremes. Until this changes, we are likely to continue to send to Washington candidates who owe their political fortunes to America’s most partisan and uncompromising citizens. As a result, compromise has become a dirty word on Capitol Hill, and thoughtful moderation is scorned. That is why there are so few centrists remaining in Congress, and why Americans have become so frustrated with the dysfunction they see at all levels of government.

When we leave the task of voting and political activism to partisan ideologues, we cede our electoral outcomes to their whims and their biases. Research has proven that all humans exhibit cognitive bias that clouds our judgment and impairs our ability to think rationally. The problem is, those on the partisan extremes have been shown to have the highest levels of bias and to be the least likely to change their minds, no matter how strong the evidence to the contrary.

Social science research is awash with bewildering examples. University of Illinois professor James Kuklinski asked respondents in an experiment their level of confidence in answers they gave during a test of basic facts about America’s social welfare system. Although a majority believed they had passed the test, only 3 percent of respondents got even half the questions right. The more certain the respondents were in their answers, the worse they did on the test. Similarly, researchers in a separate experiment provided accurate information to previously misinformed respondents about immigration in the United States. Even after being told the facts, many participants in the study refused to amend their political views about the issue.


[ GALLERY: Cartoons on Congress ]


Research has also shown that partisans will go to great lengths to avoid learning alternative viewpoints, even if that information is made available to them. This “motivated ignorance” results in a situation that has become all too familiar in political discourse today – partisans exhibit extreme confidence in their own opinions even though those partisans are entirely unfamiliar with the facts supporting the viewpoints of those with whom they disagree. Sound like anyone you know?

Wondering which political ideology displays the greatest bias? A team of seven political scientists recently published the results of a comprehensive research project analyzing 41 different experimental studies of partisan bias involving more than 12,000 participants. The result? The researchers concluded that liberals and conservatives “showed nearly identical levels of bias across studies.”

How does this apply to your crazy uncle? In short, you are not going to change his mind. But you can neutralize him at the ballot box. Instead of continuing with the system of closed primary elections that has given great advantage to the ideological extremes, some states have switched to open primaries, thereby expanding the electorate to a much wider spectrum of viewpoints. Instead of appealing only to the extremes, candidates running for election in open primaries – where all candidates for an office appear on the same ballot – must tailor their message to appeal to centrists and even voters from the opposing party. The results have been encouraging in states, like California, that have instituted these types of voting reforms.


[ PHOTOS: The Big Picture – November 2017 ]


In recent congressional and state legislative elections in California, extremist candidates who in the past would have easily won their party’s nomination in closed primaries have been forced to moderate their message in order to appeal to the wider voting bloc which decides the outcome of open primaries. For the first time in decades, California has seen numerous ideologically driven incumbents lose re-election because they could no longer compete in the broader primary electorate.

Until more states implement similar voting reforms, ideologically extreme voters like your crazy uncle will continue to have a disproportionate influence in our nation’s elections. You can’t change your uncle’s mind, so this holiday season don’t even bother trying. Instead, think about how you might help move your own state in the direction of open primaries, which would level the playing field and give more thoughtful voters a much greater voice in choosing America’s leaders. Such an endeavor would be time well spent.

Frey Freyday – Gratitude

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Gratitude – [grat-i-tood, -tyood] – the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful:

No person was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave. – Calvin Coolidge

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. Denis Waitley –

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. Brian Tracy –

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Melody Beattie –

‘Thank you’ is the best prayer that anyone could say. I say that one a lot. Thank you expresses extreme gratitude, humility, understanding. Alice Walker –

Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for. Zig Ziglar –

Give yourself a gift of five minutes of contemplation in awe of everything you see around you. Go outside and turn your attention to the many miracles around you. This five-minute-a-day regimen of appreciation and gratitude will help you to focus your life in awe. Wayne Dyer

You can’t be grateful and angry simultaneously. You can’t be fearful and be grateful simultaneously. So gratitude is really the reset button.-Tony Robbins –

Most of us never stop to consider our blessings; rather, we spend the day only thinking about our problems. But since you have to be alive to have problems, be grateful for the opportunity to have them. Bernie Siegel –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Gratitude – Give thanks for everything, big and small, good and bad.

I know that this sort of thing has been covered before by me and by others. In many ways we all know that giving thanks and showing gratitude makes sense and that we should do it, but many of us don’t consistently do it. It does work…..

If you take just a moment to count the little things as blessings, you will make your life more abundant.

There are so many things that we take for granted. We live in a free country, we have food, shelter, education, safety, we have beauty in nature and in each other, we have so many people in this world that want to help, heal, give, teach and share. Look at your coffee cup in the morning. Someone made that, glazed it, created it so that you could enjoy the coffee. Someone took great pain to package your coffee in a secure, healthy, clean, sanitary container. People worked years to improve the freshness and flavor.

Most of us have so many people that care for and about us….friends, family, co-workers – you’d be surprised who cares for you. Think about all of the people, strangers included, that somehow touch your life each and everyday.

When we have what we call a ‘bad day’ we are often in a negative mindset or one of fear or scarcity. We are looking at, focusing on what we don’t have, what we lost, what we are lacking.

It has been said that wherever there is appreciation, there will be duplication. It can be said that what we focus on expands – so if you are grateful for something, you will have more of it.

If you have gratitude for challenges and ‘bad’ things in life, it helps to re-frame them. An experience that we could say is ‘bad’ can instead be thought of as experience, education, wisdom. We learned from the situation, didn’t we? We are wiser and stronger for making it through. Because of that experience, we are better people, and that’s worth being grateful. Think about it, we all have things in life that we we may have considered ‘bad’ as they were happening to us. If you instead think that life is there happening for us rather than to us, and once we gain some perspective on it, we can see that that same event may in fact be a good thing for our life. When you look at a problem like that, it is no longer a ‘bad’ one.

Gratitude helps us re-focus. We can’t be fearful if we’re grateful. We can’t be angry if we’re grateful. We can’t feel scarcity if we have gratitude.

Do you think that you’re “too busy” to give thanks and show gratitude? Well, I do too, sometimes, but that is a load of you-know-what. It is a must to show gratitude! Here’s a quick version if you are really pressed for time

It’s not complicated or time consuming… a few minutes less on news, television, Facebook. Tony Robbins refers to it as priming or meditation. The purpose of this daily exercise is to train the mind to focus on finding things to be grateful for in our daily lives – apparently we can’t be simultaneously stressed out, angry, or frustrated – and grateful… the mind doesn’t work this way. So his daily practice is all about conditioning your mind to alter your state.

TONY’S 10 MINUTE GRATITUDE RITUAL

  1. 5 Minutes on what he’s grateful for – people close to him, loved ones, people that he suggest to make one or two of these micro focused – the wind on your face.
  2. 3.5 Minutes thinking about 3 things you want to create in your life – today or in the future. Anything you want to create.
  3. 3.5 Minutes Strengthening Healing – focusing on healing power for the day
  4. Obviously you can go longer but take time. I know when I do, my day goes far better than when I do not.

Author Christian Mickelsen recently wrote a book that discusses using gratitude to get abundance in money, in relationships, in good health – or whatever. Actually, the first chapter of Abundance Unleashed is actually called Thank God We’re Rich. The reason for that is because a handful years ago, h really focused on gratitude for the year. It helped him increase his income significantly, and improve other areas of his life.

Personally I’ve had long periods of time where I was not grateful for much of anything, and I was unhappy, less people seemed to want to ‘hang’ with me and work with me, and I had more challenges with income, health, etc. Other times when I’ve been grateful – even if there were challenges in life – I was happier, people reacted better to me and with me, I had more opportunities at work, etc.

To help me ‘be grateful’ I often think of pleasant memories, I think about all of the gifts that I have to help others, I think of the fun and exciting times in my life, I think about all of the cool, fun, caring people in my life, and I think about people helping others. I may even just pick some random object in my life, even something small and simple, and think about all of the people that designed it, financed it, made it, sold it, and all those who helped bring it to me so that I could own it and use it.

I am grateful for you.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

Frey Freyday – Story

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

sto·ry-[ˈstôrē]-NOUN stories (plural noun) an account of imaginary or real people and events told for entertainment: ALSO: an account of past events in someone’s life or in the evolution of something:

Authenticity is everything! You have to wake up every day and look in the mirror, and you want to be proud of the person who’s looking back at you. And you can only do that if you’re being honest with yourself and being a person of high character. You have an opportunity every single day to write that story of your life. Aaron Rodgers

Technology can be our best friend, and technology can also be the biggest party pooper of our lives. It interrupts our own story, interrupts our ability to have a thought or a daydream, to imagine something wonderful, because we’re too busy bridging the walk from the cafeteria back to the office on the cell phone. Steven Spielberg

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. Maya Angelou

Every human is an artist. And this is the main art that we have: the creation of our story. Don Miguel Ruiz

Don’t forget, you are the hero of your own story. Greg Boyle

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Story – something we tell ourselves and others. Something we tend to believe is true, regardless of the facts.

When you think of a story, it immediately paints a picture in you mind.

If it is a good story, you can feel the emotions, smell things, sense different things.

Good or bad, stories are very powerful. Stories emotionalize information.

So there are our internal stories…the stories we tell ourselves and others. These stories can be helpful, empowering, or totally the opposite. Sometimes we aren’t aware of the story we’re in, sometimes we’re comfortable where we are.

For instance, and I’ve discussed this before, one year I lost both parents in a short time frame. My wife lost three relatives, too. We lost 5 great people in one year – and I was unemployed! It was a tough year!

I told that story to others and it became ‘my story’. It was all true but guess what, that story did not help me or empower me in any way. It is true that sometimes we have to be aware of where we are in life and we have to accept it, but if we keep telling ourselves the same old story, we won’t grow, progress, or move on…..

I kept telling myself a similar story for much too long. I was in an emotional hole and I couldn’t get out. After a while, I could see that people didn’t react well to that story – sure they felt sorry for me and cared, many were quite kind but it wasn’t healthy and I wasn’t someone that many people wanted to ‘hang with’ or work with…..I literally had to abandon that story and create a new one. Quite frankly, my story was partially ‘pretend’ at first – in some ways I did have to fake it until I made it.

By the way, my new story included being happy regardless of what happened in life, and trying to be kinder, mostly by volunteering and contributing more. I must tell you that these aspects really helped me in my life and career in that next phase.

Our stories determine our perspective, our focus, our motivations, and many factors in our lives.

Our story is basically our identity – but it can also be who we want to be.

Never underestimate the power of your story.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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