As I may have mentioned, several years ago I had a challenging year, and I felt that it set me back in many ways.
I lost both parents within 5 weeks of each other, I was temporarily unemployed, and I had losses with my investment property.
I was grieving, sad, depressed, I felt like I wasn’t living up to being a man, a father, etc.
My self talk and thoughts were probably the biggest problem. I worried a lot, thought negative thoughts, went over bad things in the past, focused on what wasn’t working.
Looking back now, trying to learn from the experience, the things that helped me the most were these items:
1. having a vision of how I wanted things to be – and thinking/talking about that vision as if it was already done, already here.
2. asking great, positive questions – like “Why am I so happy?” instead of “Why do I feel so down?”
3. Focusing on what is working, what I have that is good, instead of what doesn’t work, what isn’t good.
I adopted little habits that I tried to do each day –
- I would write down my vision and when I could, handwrite it/copy it again.
- I would write down my powerful questions on index cards and read them, even copy them whenever I could. I would pick one each day to really focus on.
- I started using passwords that were meaningful and helpful to changing my thinking. So instead of some random password like shoe$1lace I might choose whydoIwin6 or whatisgr8, Iamgr8ful and so on. Think about how many times you put in different passwords each day. We type them over and over. What if these were little empowering questions, messages or reminders? wouldn’t that help a little?
Have a good week!