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Frey Freyday – extra mile

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

go the extra mile – (phrase) -To go beyond what is necessary or expected in order to please someone, achieve something, or get something done

You can start right where you stand and apply the habit of going the extra mile by rendering more service and better service than you are now being paid for. Napoleon Hill –

It’s never crowded along the extra mile. Wayne Dyer –

Heroes have a rough time because they stand up when they ought not to, they speak when they ought not to; they always have to go that extra mile. George Foreman –

WORDS TO LIVE BY:

Go the extra mile – To do a little more than asked, to put forth a little more effort, to inject a little more passion, to extend yourself, to push a little more.

The world is full of average people. The world is full of people that are ‘good’ at something. In many ways I include myself in some categories like that, at least in some cases.

We have all said something like, “I’m a good father”, or “I’m a good employee (or insert your job)”. That’s true, you and I may be good – but if we’re honest, good doesn’t go that far. Good is OK. Think about someone at your job that is ‘good’. Not bad, right? Not great either, right?

But we all know a few great fathers, we know who is great at work, who is a great story teller, someone who is great at something. Often there is some talent but more often there is extra effort and passion. We also know those people that go the extra mile.

If we want to be extraordinary, if we really want to contribute, if we really want to make a difference or leave a legacy, we need to go the extra mile.

What if we asked ourselves, each day, how can we be doing more and delivering better results not only for work, but for our relationships, our health, and other important aspects of life?

I wish that I could recall the speaker, once I heard someone say something to this effect, ‘if you put forth below-average effort, you get poor results; if you put forth average effort, you get below-average results; if you put forth good effort, you get average results; but if you put forth extra-effort and go the extra mile, you get extraordinary results, you get excellence’.

It’s not easy but that’s why they call it the extra mile.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Frey Freyday – Potential

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

potential-adjective po·ten·tial \ pə-ˈten(t)-shəl \ -existing in possibility :capable of development into actuality

A word of encouragement from a teacher to a child can change a life. A word of encouragement from a spouse can save a marriage. A word of encouragement from a leader can inspire a person to reach her potential. John C. Maxwell –

Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit. We are all the same in this notion: The potential for greatness lives within each of us. Wilma Rudolph –

With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world. Dalai Lama –

Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential. Bruce Lee –

Everybody has a creative potential and from the moment you can express this creative potential, you can start changing the world. Paulo Coelho –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

POTENTIAL – talents, gifts, and good stuff that all of us have inside of us, ready to go, ready to be shared, ready to benefit the world.

I was traveling this week out of state. I had multiple items to mail, some personal notes, birthday notes, etc…..and sometimes when I travel to a different town, I’ll mail things from there so it has a different postmark, for those who notice the details.

I put the mail in my backpack and carried it to and from my destination. When I arrived home in Pittsburgh airport, I still had the mail. I finally mailed it with Pittsburgh’s boring postmark on the way home.

Simultaneously, I was having thoughts about some things I wanted to accomplish in life. I feel that I have some talents inside me and I want to get busy doing these things. Many of us want to do things; write a book, take a class, help others, and generally use our talents in some way or another.

I thought that it was simple metaphor – I was carrying around this mail in my backpack and no one, including me, would benefit from the notes and messages in the envelopes until I mailed them. There were times that I thought about the envelopes, and other times that I didn’t.

Similarly, we all carry around talents – potential – inside of us. Sometimes we are aware of what we can offer, sometimes these are hidden talents. In either case, like the envelopes full of good stuff, if we don’t put our talents out there, if we don’t exercise our potential, our brilliant, creative talents may just be a simple old ordinary envelope.

About a week ago, there was a guy sitting behind me talking to his friends, I didn’t know him. He was talking a lot! But he was talking and talking about all of the talents he had and how he was naturally good at this or that. But it became clear in his conversation that he wasn’t using these talents, he wasn’t using his potential.

In my mind, I was casting judgement on him, judging him that he wasn’t using his talents, that he was just talking about it. But I’m the same way with certain things, we all are. We all have at least one or two things that we know that we can do, that we may even know that we’re called to do, but we’re ‘just too busy’ or ‘will do later in life’ or something else like that.

I had a revelation one Saturday morning; I woke up early, lying in bed in a hypnopopic state, sort of half away, half asleep. I was thinking about something I wanted to accomplish for many years and thought, I’ll do that later in life. Then I woke up suddenly and thought about how long I’ve been telling myself that. I think it has been over ten years, in reference to this one item. I’ve been putting myself off for over 10 years! I wouldn’t accept that from my boss, my friends or a stranger but I’ve allowed me to do that to me. Sometimes we have to take a stand, make a decision and take a step.

Let’s go out and ‘mail’ our talents and potential. Let the world, let us see what we can really do, what we really have inside.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

 

Frey Freyday- Hope

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Hope- [hōp]- hopes (plural noun)-a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen:

Where there is no vision, there is no hope. George Washington Carver –

Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth. Bradley Whitford –

Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. Desmond Tutu –

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. Martin Luther King, Jr. –

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

HOPE- Hope is about keeping perspective. We’ve all had good and beautiful days before and we need to remember that they will come again. It is the remembering, the perspective and the focus on the good stuff that sustains our hope.

Remember…..if you’re in a tough spot and struggling, think about those times when things did go well. Remember those you surprised yourself with how well you did something. Remember how kind you were or how kind others were to you. Recall those good times, those times that there was success, those times that good things did happen. Give yourself some credit. Give others some credit, too.

Author Brendon Burchard says, “Look at nature and realize how lucky we are to be here. Go for a stroll outside and look at people as they smile and realize how lucky you are to be here. Walk into a restaurant and see people flirting with each other and having fun at dinner or celebrating, and you start getting a different sense of life. Sometimes you have to get out of your house to feel hope, to keep perspective.”

From time to time we can all become myopic to our own ego, emotional reality, and little worlds. We can miss world all around us.

In my own instance, when I feel down or lose hope, I step back, and really try to look at my life and give thanks. You can’t be both grateful AND hopeless. Also, it helps immensely if I go and do something to help someone else. I see that others may not have it as good as I do, and my actions create good feelings, goodwill and by my own actions, I create hope.

Remember one more thing: Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people, just like you, who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. –

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

  BONUS: Ted Talk: Street art with a message of hope and peace

https://www.ted.com/talks/el_seed_street_art_with_a_message_of_hope_and_peace

Frey Freyday – Music inside

 

( Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

 

Music inside you  – whatever you think about, your interest, passion, purpose- regardless what your ‘job’ is……

Don’t die with your music still inside you.Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul. – Wayne Dyer

WORD TO LIVE BY:

 

So what does it mean, “Don’t die with your music still inside you”? -Basically, it means to listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs you.

This means that maybe you always wanted to paint, write a book, go travel somewhere, start a business, talk to someone, resolve something, achieve something – whatever! Go do it. Now.

Can you imagine being on your deathbed knowing that you always wanted to write a book and not having even tried? (to try and fail is OK) Some say the regrets from not doing something are much greater than regrets from doing something. To have a dream or passion and ignore it will eat at you until you die.

But sometimes fear stops people. Fear of failure, embarrassment, even fear of success.

If we feel fear, a few things a person can do to erase fear include: being thankful, thinking from the end as if you already have it, put ourselves in a good emotional state and focus on action steps that we can take Now, today.

It’s been proven that the thoughts we choose have everything to do with our emotions. I can tell you that a commitment to feeling good can take away a stomach ache, fear, depression, sadness, anxiety—you name it.  .

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).  Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS:

Video and article

https://www.drwaynedyer.com/video/dont-die-with-your-music-still-in-you-wayne-dyer-and-daughter-serena/

 

Frey Freyday – Stress

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

STRESS- [stres] -physical, mental, or emotional strain or tension

If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days. Kris Carr

Putting in slightly less effort in times of high stress doesn’t mean you don’t care about your job; it means you care about yourself more. Kelly O’Laughlin

In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive. Lee Iacocca

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. William James

Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it. Hans Selye

Your mindset matters. It affects everything – from the business and investment decisions you make, to the way you raise your children, to your stress levels and overall well-being. Peter Diamandis

Research shows you get multiple tasks done faster if you do them one at a time. It also decreases stress and raises happiness. Shawn Achor

If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it. George Burns

Word to Live By:

Stress – strain, tension – often perceived or self-imposed – about a situation or thought

For achievers, stress is the word for fear. Typically fear of failure, fear of not meeting expectations, fear of not completing the task.

Sometimes when people ‘get stressed’, they prefer not to think, they avoid the situation, even escape in some manner. However, it is at that time when they need to focus and think.

Many people, and myself included, sometimes let ‘life run them’. Sometimes we left life happen to us, instead of having a plan or strategy and going out there and making things happen and taking some control over what we can control. Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management.

Sometimes we also get stressed about things that we can’t change. We get stressed by the weather, for instance. It is something we all have to deal with but we can’t change – so really why bother?

Also, being prepared helps reduce stress. If you have to do something without practice or preparation, you’re stressed. If you prepare and practice, you’ll feel more comfortable, confident and have less stress. (All things that we already know but it’s good to remind ourselves, from time to time.)
I think that it is helpful to distinguish between stress and stimulation. Having deadlines, setting goals, and pushing yourself to perform at capacity are stimulating. Stress is when you’re anxious, upset, or frustrated, and these things dramatically reduce your ability to perform.
Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible and allows us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.
Decades ago, most workers faced all sorts of stress – what I refer to as ‘real stress’ – physical labor, long hours, lack of safe conditions, more trying times. Today, many of us really don’t experience this same stress – we have time stresses, self-imposed stress, achiever’s stress, and more perceived stress. I think it is important to be aware of when you’re stress; be aware, accept it, and then ask what you can do to improve the situation or handle it differently.

Exercise, meditation, being aware and interrupting the stressful thoughts are easy ways to release stress. Next time you get stressed about something, catch yourself. It’s OK. Now interrupt that thought, take some deep breaths and think about something else.

To put things into perspective; think about something that you stressed about several years ago. Was it really that bad or important? Tony Robbins said something like, “Ten years from now you’ll laugh at whatever’s stressing you out today. So why not laugh now?”

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

BONUS  : How to make stress your friend

 

Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal urges us to see stress as a positive, and introduces us to an unsung mechanism for stress reduction: reaching out to others.

https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend

Frey Freyday – leader series-Bruce Lee

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

This ‘leader-series’ is a sub-set of Frey Freydays – celebrities, influencers, icons and other people that are well-known that, although not perfect, have led an inspirational life in some way or have made some contribution to society, etc. and people from which we can learn. In no order and certainly the list is un-ending.

-BRUCE LEE

If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.

I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.

Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless and add what is specifically your own.

To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.

Real living is living for others.

The more we value things, the less we value ourselves.

Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger or faster man. But sooner or later the man who wins, is the man who thinks he can.

If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.

Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.

Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow, or it can crash. Be water, my friend.

WORDS TO LIVE BY:

“Be like water….” – Be flexible, resilient, learn, adapt, be open-minded, do not concern yourself with labels.

July 2017 marked the 44th anniversary of Bruce Lee’s death. Bruce Lee lived a short but very impactful life. He is remembered today as the figure who popularized Kung Fu and Jeet Kune Do around the world.

Most people think of Bruce as just a movie star and/or someone ‘who did kung fu’. I found out that he was more than that….

As a young adult I learned about Bruce Lee from “karate movies”. One day I bought a book that he wrote. I was surprised to find that it was quite good and contained content about philosophy, life, and principles for living life. Bruce was a philosophy major in college and spent a lot of time thinking about this sort of thing.

Some people may know that the form of “Kung Fu” he developed, called Jeet Kune Do has been referred to as  “Using no way as way” and “Having no limitation as limitation”.

He was often asked if he formed a new form of martial arts.  Bruce said, “On the contrary, I hope to free my followers from clinging to styles, patterns, or molds.”

So in other words, Bruce learned many different types of karate, fighting, wrestling, grappling, even American-style boxing, etc. Bruce then tried to ‘combine’ and pick the best traits out of each of those for his style, to put it very simply. So his fighting style did not have the rigid, formal limitations and they were not bound by certain guidelines. His point: in one situation you may need traits of one style, another situation will require different traits.

Similarly, in life, Bruce formed a great philosophy with this in mind. He studied many philosophies and religions and learned from each of them. He tried to incorporate the best of each into his life without getting caught up in the limitations of each.

If you reference the quote above “Absorb what is useful, ….” It implies that one should study and learn, and use the best of each to make oneself better.

As he stated it, “The extraordinary part of it lies in its simplicity.” This applied to his fighting style and to his philosophy in life. Again in life or fighting, Bruce Lee emphasized that every situation is different. To obtain victory in life or in a fight it is essential not to be rigid, but to be fluid and able to adapt to any situation.

In reference to the famous quote above, “Be like water…”,  Bruce’s theory behind this was that one must be able to function in any scenario one is thrown into. As he said it, ‘One should know when to speed up or slow down, when to expand and when to contract, and when to remain flowing and when to crash. It is the awareness that both life and fighting can be shapeless and ever changing that allows one to be able to adapt to those changes instantaneously and bring forth the appropriate solution.’

Lee did not believe in “styles” and felt that every person and every situation is different and not everyone fits into a mold; one must remain flexible in order to obtain new knowledge and victory in both life and combat. One must never become stagnant in the mind or method, always evolving and moving towards improving oneself.( Little, John (1973). Bruce Lee: In His Own Words (DVD). Warner Brothers.)

 

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

Frey Freyday: Avoiding Pain

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Pain – a distressing feeling often caused by intense or damaging stimuli, or the perception of it

Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Kevyn Aucoin

To be a champion, I think you have to see the big picture. It’s not about winning and losing; it’s about every day hard work and about thriving on a challenge. It’s about embracing the pain that you’ll experience at the end of a race and not being afraid. I think people think too hard and get afraid of a certain challenge. Summer Sanders

Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave. Mary Tyler Moore

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Khalil Gibran

We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. Jim Rohn

Change is never a matter of ability, it’s a matter of motivation. If change is a “should” will people change? No. Change has to be not a ‘should’ but a ‘must’. The way people are motivated, the reason that they do what they do is that this: the desire to avoid pain or the desire to gain pleasure. Tony Robbins

WORDS TO LIVE BY:

Pain – something we avoid, even though sometimes it helps us grow/makes us stronger/better/happier in the long run.

Pleasure – something we seek, something we sometimes get comfortable with, enough so that we don’t pursue our dreams, improve ourselves, or simply take that next step we’ve been pondering so long.

Here in American, in this time, many of us are very comfortable. Unlike poor areas, poor countries, or our ancestors decades and generations ago, even those of us with lower incomes have a comparatively nice life.

Most of us have homes, most of us have food, most of us have access to all of the basic needs of life. We have our phones, laptops, televisions; all portals to the world, entertainment and connection. We have games, books, hundreds of channels, millions of websites to distract us. It is easy to be comfortable, complacent and content. Not that there’s anything wrong with being happy with what you have or being content, accepting your current situation – often that is good – even necessary.

What I mean is that all of us, at one time or another, get comfortable with our lives because, let’s face it, our lives are often pretty good. We can experience pleasure in some ways with our lives as they are now. Yet to grow, to get better, to improve, to reach our goals and dreams, we have to go ‘do something’ and experience pain, in one way or another.

I’ve had it happen to me many, many times. I wanted to lose weight. I wanted to create, learn something, save, earn more, go after a new opportunity, pursue a dream, change a habit, yet I either don’t take the action, or I slip back into the ‘old way’, probably because the pain of the new experience is seemingly harder than the pleasure and safety of the ‘now’, of my current ‘easier’ situation.

92% of the 17 million people that try to quit smoking each year fail. 95% of people who lose weight each year fail to keep it off long term. It is said that only 10% of the population have specific, well-defined goals, but even then 7 out of ten will reach their goals only 50% of the time.

Why do we sometimes not take that ‘next step’? Why do we sometimes not follow through?

We avoid pain and seek the short term pleasures, in many cases.

As stated above, These are the two forces that motivate people to do what they do: the desire to gain pleasure or the desire to avoid pain.

If we want to change something, make it better, improve, pursue a dream, then we must associate Massive Pain to not changing now, and Massive Pleasure to changing immediately. It must be a “Must”. Not a should, not a question of ability, skill, or will power. Pain is a short-term motivation but we all need the pleasure side for long-term motivation. Use pain and pleasure to your advantage to grow and change.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

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