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I thought this one was good enough to just offer up by itself.

 

I know I need reminded….FYI

 

The ultimate waste of time is to waste your thoughts, your focus, and your emotions stressed about things you cannot control. Those who are fulfilled have one thing in common: When an even happens that affects their lives, they quickly discern “Is this something I can control? Is this something I can influence? Or, is this truly something I cannot control and cannot influence?”  – TONY ROBBINS

 

Finding meaning in unpleasant jobs and situations

Have you ever been in a job or situation that was just unpleasant?

Maybe you were working with, or working for, someone that you didn’t like.

Maybe it was a boss that was imposing, micromanaging, etc. Maybe he couldn’t make a decision – or changed his mind a lot.

I look back to a position I got myself in….I was working for a guy who did have talents, yet he was not really a guy that you’d want to hang out with…..or work for….

It all started good. We both had plans and ideas. We came up with a strategy. But little by little I began to see him differently.

He didn’t make decisions – he always needed to think about it…but no amount of information or research on my part seemed to help him. When he did make a decision about something, he would soon change his mind. These changes not only wasted time, it wasted his own money, and soon began to erode morale.

He would walk around the office and huff a lot. He got upset by all sorts of things – little things. When we got a project he would get worried about it instead of getting excited by the possibilities. He often was short and rude with others.

At first I thought he was just a schmuck. Then I began to understand him. And I even began to feel for him. Most of his actions, or lack thereof, were based on fear. He was an older guy, he felt like he was unprepared for somethings, and he probably sometimes felt inferior.

He, like any of us, probably felt all sorts of emotions in business and life. But, unlike many of us, didn’t appear to have the tools or support network.

When you and I get scared, upset, anxious, we may vent or express some of it. But often we can deal with it. I believe he struggled with expressing his feelings. Without sounding disrespectful, he became a sad figure. I began to feel sorry for him. Once I disliked him and wished to be elsewhere. Then I began to notice his weaknesses and I saw that he didn’t have a choice to do much better.

Previously I had worked for him for a while and came to a point where I asked myself “Why am I here, what do I have to learn from this?”

Then I realized ‘why I was there and what I had to learn.’…..I was at home when I caught myself – caught myself huffing, getting impatient, getting negative. I don’t think that I was as bad as my boss was but I was still like him. And I don’t think that I was acting like that because of him. I think that I had acted like this for a long while. I knew that I got impatient and in some ways, this anger or grouchiness was my “thing”.

Victor Frankl wrote the wonderful book “A Man’s Search For Meaning”. We can find almost any kind of meaning in our lives about big or small things. The meaning we assign to something can inspire us or discourage us. The choice is mostly up to us, we assign the meaning.

So back to my job – I suddenly realized that I had meaning here – meaning to in some way help my boss handle things differently – or at least support him. I also realized that there was additional meaning – that I discovered more about me and that I needed – I wanted to change.

Suddenly a job that was sort of depressing, meaningless, and discouraging became better. I had skills, strategies and ideas that could help my boss. I had skills, strategies and ideas that could help me improve myself. I had the opportunity to see him, to see myself, and to realize that if I didn’t change, I might be like him someday.

Before, I wanted to get out of that job as fast as possible. I couldn’t wait and I was anxious about it. After I came to the above revelations, I no longer felt anxious about moving on. I still wanted to move on, and I knew I would in due time. But for that moment, I was there to learn, to improve myself, to improve my environment.  I was there to keep moving, not to wait for something better. I had patience.

I changed my focus and showed gratitude for a situation that I almost dreaded before. Things did improve. Things seemed easier. He was still huffy and impatient and indecisive but I tried to help. I think he noticed.
Guess what? It was the right thing to do. I think we both grew because of it. It was the loving thing to do. It wasn’t the easiest thing but I’m forever grateful for having that revelation. I have no regrets. I had faith, followed my heart, gave, and worked at doing what felt right.

Best wishes to you and your growth. Be aware of the meaning that you assign to events in your life.

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Words to Live By: Enthusiasm

(This is one of a part of a series of WORDS TO LIVE BY. This series grew out of a workbook I first made for my young daughters and discussed at the dinner table. These Words include values, good ideas, and Words to aspire to….and learn from….enjoy!)

Enthusiasm – a : strong excitement of feeling : ardor <did her work with energy and enthusiasm> b : something inspiring zeal or fervor <his enthusiasms include sailing and fishing>

Enthusiasm comes from the root words meaning “in theos” or with/in God. So someone with enthusiasm is said to be ‘with God’ or have ‘God within’.

If you are religious, spiritual, or if you believe in God, the Universe, Source, Creator, Nature, whatever – you may consider trying to be more connected to that ‘Source’. If you believe good things come from your creator, whoever or whatever it is, you want to be connected or be a part of that thing, right?

A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm. Charles Schwab

Someone with enthusiasm is connected. Someone with enthusiasm may also be called passionate – or they have passion for that task or idea, right?

Generally, I am a low key guy. That is good in many cases throughout life. I am good with it. But it is sometimes not in my nature to get excited or enthusiastic about something. I have to work at it.  I recall once, as a young boy, my dad was trying to tell me that I needed to approach something with enthusiasm.

He defined the word in his own way and explained that when you’re enthusiastic, things go quicker and easier, people respond better, and you do a better job. He said that I needed to be enthusiastic. He wasn’t scolding me or otherwise; I could tell that he was sincere in trying to relate a life lesson. It was good stuff. At that time I thought about it but I wasn’t entirely on board.

(by the way, this one discussion with my dad planted the seed for me to start the Words to Live By series years ago for my daughters – I wanted a way to convey important ideas – like enthusiasm – to my kids, and have them able to be referenced later).

We’ve all been really pumped about something important in our lives. What was the last thing you were enthusiastic or passionate about? Try to recall the passion that you feel deep within you. It sometimes isn’t easy to explain or define.

“Enthusiasm is just a state of mind…an emotion…which you control. By control, I mean you can create it. If you want to be enthusiastic right now, this very second, you can create it. To start, just think about the work or service you like to do best. Can you feel a change, maybe a smile on your face?” ~Thomas D. Willhite~

This enthusiasm moves you in a direction that seems motivated by a force beyond your control.  As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “It’s the inner excitement of being on the right path, doing what feels good to you, and what you know you were meant to do.”

Were you ever enthusiastic about something and you tried to ignore it and “it” just kept coming back? That’s probably because you feel or know in your heart and mind that it is the right thing for you in life at that moment.

“A mediocre idea that generates enthusiasm will go further than a great idea that inspires no one.”- Mary Kay Ash, businesswoman

Enthusiasm is feeling and knowing that it doesn’t matter what other people say. It means that this is the right thing to do. It means that there are no real challenges. There are no excuses. It means that the journey will bring joy.

Think of a child when he or she is enthusiastic. They ask for something or they believe that they can accomplish something. You believe that they’re going to hit hurdles and obstacles and you think “Just wait and see.” Sometimes they do hit the hurdle, sometimes I think they’re discouraged by adults like us. Regardless, their enthusiasm is pure – they just know that they can do “it” and they move ahead with joy and passion.

“The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results.” ~Anthony Robbins~

When did you feel like that? Do you remember how it felt when you were passionate? It was powerful, right? You felt happiness and joy. Even when you hit obstacles, if you still had that passion, you still enjoyed it, right?

I look back at things I’ve done – some easy things I did without enthusiasm looked bland and fell flat. Another task was actually quite difficult in retrospect but I was excited and passionate, and it was a joy the whole time.

“Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

I once was promoted to a new group at a large bank. I suddenly got intimidated about the challenges ahead. So I hired a coach. She helped me find the “why” and find what I was enthusiastic about. I moved ahead fine and I did well. It was fun too!

TO quote Wayne Dyer again, Enthusiasm is “the greatest gift you can receive. And when it’s aligned with Spirit, treat it as a miracle, doing everything you can to hold on to it.

The presence of passion within you is the greatest gift you can receive. And when it’s aligned with Spirit, treat it as a miracle, doing everything you can to hold on to it.”

Enthusiasm seems to make the world cooperate with you, even co-create with you, doesn’t it?

Did you ever see the movie “Hairspray”? My daughters like it. In the beginning the main character is so enthusiastic about singing and dancing. She walks around the streets of Baltimore and sees all good stuff – all things seem to be encouraging her. In real life we’d say that she was naive or foolish. But simply put, she is passionate and enthusiastic and that’s what she sees in her life.

Do you remember when that happened to you? How did you feel?

Deepak Chopra said, “If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It’s very important to be aware of them every time they come up.” This is what happens when we are enthusiastic.

“It’s faith in something and enthusiasm for something that makes a life worth living.” Oliver Wendell Holmes

So next time you face a task, take a moment, take a step back and think of how you can be enthusiastic about it, think about the “Why”.  What are you enthusiastic about in life? How will this small task help that “big idea”?

Use enthusiasm in your daily ‘hum-drum’ life and it won’t be so hum-drum, you’ll enjoy it more.

Enthusiasm is something you have when you found or decided that you have found you true calling, your purpose, your joy.

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