Frey Freyday – Useful

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.-George Bernard Shaw

Choose the life that is most useful, and habit will make it the most agreeable.-Francis Bacon

Always desire to learn something useful.-Sophocles

Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.-Margaret J. Wheatley

We should not look back unless it is to derive useful lessons from past errors, and for the purpose of profiting by dearly bought experience.-George Washington

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Words To Live By:

use·ful –[ˈyo͞osfəl] – being of use or service; serving some purpose; advantageous, helpful, or of good effect:

We all do lots of things, think a lot of things, we have beliefs, we have habits that we have done for years.

Maybe we’re scared of something and we’ve been scared for a long time.

Maybe it is a more recent belief.

For instance, the belief, “I am scared of flying. Therefore I rarely fly. I avoid flying.”

So what? Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?

By not flying, does it negatively affect my life? Who is losing out on something because of my fear? Family? Experiences? Maybe my children won’t experience something, I won’t build a relationship, I won’t meet someone, see something, broaden something – you don’t know what you don’t know. What kind of example do I set for others, my kids? Does it affect my career? What am I missing?, etc. etc…..

We can change our beliefs. Being scared to fly isn’t useful. Change the belief. Or work with it, overcome it….

OR, maybe we have a daily habit. Something we do each day.

Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?

For example: We get worried or anxious every morning before arriving at work. Is it useful? Does it help? Probably not ever, right?

We may already know worry doesn’t help but asking the question makes us aware, perhaps in a different way, and we can address the issue differently.

Some people like to be in control. Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?

How does it affect others? Can you let go and have faith? Letting go let’s us act more naturally, more inspired, closer to God even, perhaps. Being in control also takes away the chance for others to lead or be independent.

Other things? Drinking soda? Eating sweets? Not Exercising?

Being right in an argument? Making sure you get the last word? Being in charge?

We all had an experience, learned something, had a belief or feeling in our childhood. Many of those things were not accurate, many of those things were our mind’s reaction (as a child) to something. Often this was based in fear and emotion. Some of us still have these childhood beliefs, fears, and habits – and they are not serving us well. They are not useful in many cases.

Lastly, how about that self-talk we all do?
You say thousands of things to yourself each day.

You have thoughts, images, mini-movies playing all day, everyday in your head.

You ask yourself many questions each day.

Catch yourself next time later today and tomorrow and be aware of the thoughts.

Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?

We often make it harder on ourselves don’t we?

Habits, beliefs, thoughts, actions…..

Asking the question “Is it useful?” can help us be more aware, which helps us correct and adjust things, if we desire it.

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Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By”(WTLB).
Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,sometimes accidentally.
……So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….
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Frey Freyday- Habits

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

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Repetition of the same thought or physical action develops into a habit which, repeated frequently enough, becomes an automatic reflex. Norman Vincent Peale
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Moral excellence comes about as a result of habit. We become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts. Aristotle
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Food is not rational. Food is culture, habit, craving and identity. Jonathan Safran Foer
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Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. Jim Ryun
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To change a habit, make a conscious decision, then act out the new behavior. Maxwell Maltz
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Until you have formed the habit of looking for the good instead of the bad there is in others, you will be neither successful nor happy. Napoleon Hill
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Make it your habit not to be critical about small things. Edward Everett Hale
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WORD TO LIVE BY:

Habit- noun–hab·​it | \ ˈha-bət  \-an acquired mode of behavior that has become nearly or completely involuntary

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Did you ever notice how hard it is to break some habits?

It has been said that as much as 95% of what you do all day long is habit. Habits happen in your brain and you have no conscious thought about it. Many say that Habits CONTROL you.

(Yes, habits can be ‘good’ or ‘bad’)

In fact, research done at the Max Planck Institute in Leipzig Germany, one of the foremost research institutes in the world, discovered that 95% of everything that we do on a daily basis is brain-based and habit-based. We go through our entire days on automatic autopilot. As a matter of fact, we go through most of our days on brain-based automatic autopilot or on unconscious autopilot.

Habits are not personal. They come from the reptilian part of the brain. By the way, the reptilian part of the brain doesn’t know right or wrong, good from bad. It just works from habit.

“You don’t get in life what you want, you get what/who you are (habits).” Jim Fortin

Habits have to do with our identity also. If you ask someone, “Are you a smoker?” – they will answer yes or no. Obviously if they are a smoker, they’ll say yes. Their identity is a smoker. But we all have other little identities, many we’re not aware of; ‘a messy person’, ‘someone who is always late’, ‘victim’, ‘hard-worker’, ‘generous person’, ‘funny person’, etc. etc..

You could also state that everything you have in life is a habit and everything you don’t have is a habit so it’s vital that you master your habit management.

·         willpower only works to some degree to change habits ·         everything is about training yourself; good or bad

 With a habit, there is first the cue or urge to do something. Often we don’t know this happens. So we have the urge to do something – the habit, then we do the habit, which is often like a reward. Example; I have an urge, I say, “I want a diet soda”. I often break and have one in that moment.

So let’s say you want to stop a habit; essentially your willpower and your reptilian brain battle it out. Usually your reptilian brain wins.

But there are strategies to overcome the reptilian brain. Here is one from a guy named Jim Fortin:

When you get an urge for a habit, say “This is just a habit, it is not me.”

1. Then say, “This urge will go away if I dismiss it.”
2. Then say, “It is just my habit ‘voice’, it’s not me!”
3. Then say, “I Choose to dismiss this urge and this ‘voice’ now!”
4. Say one more thing; “I’ve moved my attention elsewhere.”

Remember, we are usually where we are in our life where our attention is. If we move our attention, we can more our lives.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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BONUS  :

Why/what and more about habits and Steps to break habits

Podcast by Jim Fortin “Why It’s So Hard To Break Your Bad Habits”

https://www.jimfortin.com/podcast/episode-45-why-its-so-hard-to-break-your-bad-habits-part-2/