A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.-George Bernard Shaw
Choose the life that is most useful, and habit will make it the most agreeable.-Francis Bacon
Always desire to learn something useful.-Sophocles
Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.-Margaret J. Wheatley
We should not look back unless it is to derive useful lessons from past errors, and for the purpose of profiting by dearly bought experience.-George Washington
Words To Live By:
use·ful –[ˈyo͞osfəl] – being of use or service; serving some purpose; advantageous, helpful, or of good effect:
We all do lots of things, think a lot of things, we have beliefs, we have habits that we have done for years.
Maybe we’re scared of something and we’ve been scared for a long time.
Maybe it is a more recent belief.
For instance, the belief, “I am scared of flying. Therefore I rarely fly. I avoid flying.”
So what? Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?
By not flying, does it negatively affect my life? Who is losing out on something because of my fear? Family? Experiences? Maybe my children won’t experience something, I won’t build a relationship, I won’t meet someone, see something, broaden something – you don’t know what you don’t know. What kind of example do I set for others, my kids? Does it affect my career? What am I missing?, etc. etc…..
We can change our beliefs. Being scared to fly isn’t useful. Change the belief. Or work with it, overcome it….
OR, maybe we have a daily habit. Something we do each day.
Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?
For example: We get worried or anxious every morning before arriving at work. Is it useful? Does it help? Probably not ever, right?
We may already know worry doesn’t help but asking the question makes us aware, perhaps in a different way, and we can address the issue differently.
Some people like to be in control. Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?
How does it affect others? Can you let go and have faith? Letting go let’s us act more naturally, more inspired, closer to God even, perhaps. Being in control also takes away the chance for others to lead or be independent.
Other things? Drinking soda? Eating sweets? Not Exercising?
Being right in an argument? Making sure you get the last word? Being in charge?
We all had an experience, learned something, had a belief or feeling in our childhood. Many of those things were not accurate, many of those things were our mind’s reaction (as a child) to something. Often this was based in fear and emotion. Some of us still have these childhood beliefs, fears, and habits – and they are not serving us well. They are not useful in many cases.
Lastly, how about that self-talk we all do?
You say thousands of things to yourself each day.
You have thoughts, images, mini-movies playing all day, everyday in your head.
You ask yourself many questions each day.
Catch yourself next time later today and tomorrow and be aware of the thoughts.
Ask this: IS IT USEFUL?
We often make it harder on ourselves don’t we?
Habits, beliefs, thoughts, actions…..
Asking the question “Is it useful?” can help us be more aware, which helps us correct and adjust things, if we desire it.
Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By”(WTLB).
Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,sometimes accidentally.
……So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….
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