Frey Freyday – Rejection

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

rejection -[rəˈjekSH(ə)n] –NOUN the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea,

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We all learn lessons in life. Some stick, some don’t. I have always learned more from rejection and failure than from acceptance and success. Henry Rollins

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The biggest hurdle is rejection. Any business you start, be ready for it. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is the successful people do all the things the unsuccessful people don’t want to do. When 10 doors are slammed in your face, go to door number 11 enthusiastically, with a smile on your face. John Paul DeJoria

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I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat. Sylvester Stallone
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Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions. Harvey Mackay
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 WORD TO LIVE BY:
Rejection – a necessary thing that we all go through, it’s how you frame it that matters.

Some of us may think rejection is this thing that happens all the time, so what happens is that so many people guide their life based on this fear that they’re going to be rejected, so they don’t take action and don’t start new things or chase their dreams because they’re worried about what other people are going to think. It may be love, sports, business, education, whatever….

They’re going to be rejected and deemed unworthy, unlovable or not adequate in some way or another and you think, that’s so sad, because rejection, the actual form of rejection that shapes people’s identity and hurts them, happens so rarely. If you don’t believe it then that’s an internal fear, not the reality of the universe.

According to Brendon Burchard, there is some real, basic data. Brendon has traveled around the globe, well over most of the globe now, and here’s what he found out over and over again.

He always do this little simple activity where he says, ‘if you’ve ever been rejected in a way where it hurt, it actually hurt and formed and shaped your identity in a way, it was a significant hurt that you felt and it changed how you felt about yourself and what you might want to accomplish in the world. If you’ve ever felt that before would you raise your hand?’ Everyone raises their hand.

Then Brendon says, ‘if you’ve ever been rejected by, let’s say, three people, who really rejected you in that way that you were shot down, hurt and it changed who you are and what you wanted to accomplish in life. How many times has that ever happened with three people?’.. A bunch of people raise their hands again and he starts escalating that number from three, to five to seven, to ten, fifteen, twenty. and thirty.

Here’s what’s amazing. Brendon states that he has done this all over the world with audiences with thousands of people in them and here’s the average across all those audiences, all around the world, it doesn’t matter the culture. The average number is about seven.

So anywhere between five and seven, meaning, people say between five and seven people hurt their feelings enough with a real rejection, not one of those, “Well I’m sorry I can’t go out with you I’m washing my hair” stuff. I mean someone who really criticized you and rejected you in a way that it hurt. The average person says five to seven people rejected them like that.

There are some people who have more than that. I’m saying the average is five to seven and yet so many people when this is asked, how many of you are so scared of rejection that almost everyone raises their hand.

It’s like wait a second, we’re scared of something that barely ever happens?

 

If you think about it, we get rejected all the time – from when we were a baby. Rejection is a necessary way of learning, improving, making our approach better. Too often we get scared of the simple idea that we may get rejected and overlook the benefits of the experience, what we’ll learn from the rejection, the efforts, the new relationships, the new steps we’re taking, etc. – and we often lose sight that we may not get rejected at all and we may succeed. It is worth the risk.

 

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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BONUS  :

TED Talks to help you shake off rejection

Everyone faces rejection, sometimes on repeat. These speakers experienced a barrage of ‘no’s, but were able to push past the disappointment and keep on going. May their resilience inspire you.

https://www.ted.com/playlists/234/talks_to_help_you_shake_off_re

Frey Freyday – Freedom

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect,
smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

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free·dom-[ˈfrēdəm] NOUN
– the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint

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Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue
to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Kevyn Aucoin
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A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself. Jim Morrison
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The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage. Thucydides
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Every human has four endowments – self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The
power to choose, to respond, to change. Stephen Covey
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Money won’t create success; the freedom to make it will. Nelson Mandela

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If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter. George Washington
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Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor
E. Frankl
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Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you. Jean-Paul Sartre

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Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, None but ourselves can free our minds. Bob Marley
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We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among
these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Thomas Jefferson

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WORD TO LIVE BY:

Freedom – we all define it differently but in so many ways…basically freedom is the ability to do what we want; to go where we want, to be what we want, to say what we want. We take many freedoms in this country for granted – free speech, the ability
to earn a living as we please, to travel where and when we want, and generally to live as we want.

 

We might feel ‘enslaved’ or trapped by a job, relationship, a situation. Maybe its freedom from a bad habit. Free from sin? Guilt? Disease? Often we discuss
financial freedom – what does that specifically mean? What have others done to get out of similar situations? Others have become ‘free’, can we follow their success? How can you be free of that thing?

 

We all want freedom – or at least we say it. Many times I know I’ve said that I wanted to be free of something so that I could really go for it. But then
I actually get a chance to really go for it and that freedom is a little scary.

 

We all say we want freedom but sometimes the security of limitations is comforting and freedom is intimidating.

 

With freedom there is growth and change. This is good for us. We are living, growing beings and growth and change is good and natural. Depending on our
perspective and how we frame it, these can be good things or things that make us uneasy.

 

What if you had freedom to do exactly what you wanted to earn a living? Would you do it?

What if you had financial freedom so that all your bills were paid – what then would you do with your time? Your life?

 

Often we believe that we’re tied to one thing or another and that we have no freedom.

Often our own beliefs limit us and take away freedom, consciously or unconsciously.

 

Did you ever take just a moment to define what freedom means to you? What does freedom look like?

How can you pursue it if you don’t define it? 

Also take a moment to distinguish between what it means for us to be
free from something and to be free to do
or be something.

 

Maybe freedom is just a state of mind? Like Bob Marley sings above, “None
but ourselves can free our minds”

 

Best wishes for freedom and happiness to you and yours…..

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Frey Freyday was actually born
out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise
my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes
intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s
input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got
older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from…