Monthly Archives: February 2019

Frey Freyday – Advice and Wisdom

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Good advice is always certain to be ignored, but that’s no reason not to give it. Agatha Christie

To profit from good advice requires more wisdom than to give it. Wilson Mizner

My mother gave lots of good advice and had a lot to say. As you get older, you realize everything she said was true. Lenny Kravitz

Good advice is something a man gives when he is too old to set a bad example. Francois de La Rochefoucauld

To think well and to consent to obey someone giving good advice are the same thing. Herodotus

 WORD TO LIVE BY:

 Good advice and wisdom – the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise

While watching a documentary on Warren Buffett, I heard Warren Buffett’s son, Howard, say something that reminded of a piece of advice that I believe is universal and applicable to all of us at any age.

I have tried to offer this advice to my daughters, to a friend, and frankly I try to remind myself at least once a year….

Listen, no matter what weaknesses you may think you have, you have some talents, some strengths, some unique ‘things’ that you can contribute to others and ‘stuff’ with which you can build a nice life. You may be bright, talented, you may have a great personality, people like to be with you, you mayhave a sense of humor, you probably are a hard worker, and you have a huge potential- probably more than you realize. In many ways, we all easily forget that the future is open wide.

As I’ve tried to explain to my daughters, as I try to remind myself; make sure about one thing; Define the life that you want. Create a vision for YOUR life. Only you can find that. You’ll get feedback, good and bad, from friends, family, society, even parent. Some of those people only know their own world. Some are fearful and protective of you. Some of us may not even understand your vision. But ultimately it is you who will live your life and you are the one who will live with the consequences, good or bad. (by the way, it is never too late to create a vision for your life!)

Whether you live by someone else’s rules and expectations, or whether you create your own vision and follow your own path, someday you’ll be older and look back upon your life. At that point you will either be very satisfied with your life or partially or completely dissatisfied. I’m not super old but when I look back, there are choices that I made because I worried what other people thought – and I’m not totally satisfied with those things. There are other choices where I am satisfied and I feel at peace. A large number of people in the world look back on their lives with regret because they did (or didn’t) do something because of someone’s opinion/ideas/whatever.

Also, another great piece of advice; In baseball, perfection is referred to as batting 1000. I don’t expect anyone to, or want you to try to bat 1000. No one should expect to be perfect – in fact I hope that more of us do fail a little, and what I mean by that I hope that more of us are willing to take chances! Take sensible risks! You can’t satisfy everyone, so that’s futile. Take risks and don’t be afraid to fail and you will learn and grow in your failures more than most of your successes. Be at peace with making a mistake, be at peace with taking a risk, be at peace with others disagreeing with you and let go of the concern of others opinions. I try to remember that each day.

If you think about what humans can do and be, if we’re bold and focuses, it is exciting.

With love,

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

Frey Freyday – Self-Awareness

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

self-a·ware·ness -[ˈˌself əˈwernəs]- NOUN-conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, actions, and desires.

Working together on solving something requires a high level of humility and a high level of self-awareness. Paul Polman

Self-awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad. Debbie Ford

People need to know that they have all the tools within themselves. Self-awareness, which means awareness of their body, awareness of their mental space, awareness of their relationships – not only with each other, but with life and the ecosystem. Deepak Chopra

I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing towards being a champion. Billie Jean King

Yeah, it’s disturbing when someone has no self-awareness. Mike White

If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. Daniel Goleman

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Self-Aware – to be aware of oneself, not in a narcissistic way but in an introspective manner so that we can recognize things, separate us and the environment, etc. To be self-aware, we’re more in the moment, more focused, more intentional.

I think we all know some people that are not self-aware about a few things. We all are that person sometimes.

I remember that I went to a networking event and I decided the day before that I really wanted to focus on being outgoing. On the day of the event, I forgot about that and I remember catching myself half-way through the event, looking at two people who were in the corner not talking to anyone. I was judging them for being introverted, whatever. Then I realized that I really hadn’t talked to anyone either! I was just as bad or worse than they were and didn’t realize it until that moment. I was in my head thinking about others, judging, and not networking. I was not self-aware.

We all do things like this often.

Being self-aware helps us ‘live in the moment’ more. If we’re in our heads, if we’re worried about yesterday, tomorrow, or some possible event that might happen, we’re not seeing life right before us. We’re not paying attention to all sorts of things, including how we are acting and reacting to things around us. We’re missing things, too.

Think about every good memory that you have. You were present and self-aware in that moment. If you weren’t, you wouldn’t have that memory. Are you missing the chance for a memory right now?

Why should we be self-aware?

  • Become more at peace with yourself. …
  • Become better able to communicate with clarity. …
  • Decision making is simplified. …
  • Clear purpose and direction. …
  • An enriched life experience. …
  • Find true fulfillment and contentment. …
  • Optimism rises. …
  • Reduction of guilt and regrets
https://iamandco.com/blog/10-benefits-of-self-awareness

How to develop and increase self-awareness

  1. Look at yourself objectively. …
  2. Keep a journal. …
  3. Write down your goals, plans, and priorities. …
  4. Perform daily self-reflection. …
  5. Practice meditation and other mindfulness habits. …
  6. Take personality and psychometric tests. …
  7. Ask trusted friends to describe you. …
  8. Ask for feedback at work.
https://www.developgoodhabits.com/what-is-self-awareness/

 

Other benefits of self-awareness:

  • Your basic understanding of yourself constantly grows deeper. …
  • You can be proactive rather than reactive. …
  • You tend not to take things personally. …
  • You think of mistakes as tools for growth. …
  • You know why you do the things you do. …
  • You have better relationships. …
  • You pursue your goals and dreams. …
  • You let go of past hurts.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

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