Frey Freyday – Communication

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

A man’s character may be learned from the adjectives which he habitually uses in conversation.-Mark Twain

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.-George Bernard Shaw

Truthful words are not beautiful; beautiful words are not truthful. Good words are not persuasive; persuasive words are not good.-Lao Tzu

Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn’t listening.-Emma Thompson

To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.-Tony Robbins

Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.-Jim Rohn

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.-Peter Drucker

Of all of our inventions for mass communication, pictures still speak the most universally understood language.-Walt Disney

First learn the meaning of what you say, and then speak.-Epictetus

Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart.-William Wordsworth

Communication works for those who work at it.-John Powell

It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it – Unknown

Speak clearly, if you speak at all; carve every word before you let it fall.-Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

By and large, language is a tool for concealing the truth.-George Carlin

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WORD TO LIVE BY:

Communication – \kə-ˌmyü-nə-ˈkā-shən\ – the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc., to someone else

Recently I read in an article by Brendon Burchard that stated almost everything good that has come into your life happened because of how you communicate. On the flip side, it is also mostly true that every relationship that was ruined, every pitch that didn’t go well, or every opportunity to influence that fell flat, all came because of the way you communicate?

Any career or vocation benefits from good communication; healthcare, sales, auto mechanic, manufacturer, artist, education, management, whatever. Do you want a surgeon that doesn’t communicate (or listen) well? If your mechanic has poor communication skills, that might not work out well. Today, schools are helping students learn and improve their ‘soft skills’, also called emotional intelligence, as part of a necessary set of abilities that all students need as they move on to college and career.

We discount our communication skills because it is something we do every single day. It doesn’t matter how smart or skilled someone is, if they can’t communicate effectively, it doesn’t matter.

And with a lack of attention comes a lack of progress. Communication is a skill that needs ongoing attention and improvement. We can learn new things and reinforce good habits. By being aware and focused on good communication, we won’t just be going through the motions, we can communicate in effective, memorable, striking ways so that we connect better with those around us.

One of the best ways to communicate better is to see the situation, issue or circumstances from the other person’s point of view. If you make the message about them, from their point of view, it will carry a lot more weight. Ask ‘how do they perceive this?’ and ‘what’s really important to them now?’.  Remember that emotion is a big part of communication; infuse your message with the right emotions and it will work better. Don’t just communicate, communicate better.

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Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.
So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from..

Bonus: Communication tips from PETER DIAMANDIS:

How Should We Communicate?

We are social animals, and we communicate A LOT through the intonations of our voice and our facial features.

Basic rules:

If there’s something critical to communicate – close a deal, raise capital, tell someone you love them or want to break up – do it in person.

If you can’t meet in person, then do it by Skype (or Beam, see below).

If you can’t do it by Skype, then do it by phone.

Everything else (today) is basically inadequate for anything really important. That being said, if you have to email, see below.

Where Will Technology Help in the Future?

The good news is that technology under development leapfrogs the current technology in place, and will create a more meaningful and intimate level of communications.

In the decade ahead, there are three key areas that will drive meaning capabilities:

Telepresence/Beam: While Skype is okay, it’s static and limiting. If you follow my work, you’ve heard me speak about Suitable Technologies and their Beam telepresence robot. Some call it Skype on Wheels, but it is much more. I have 15 Beams across all of my companies and one of them at home. Telepresence robots like the Beam (and its future derivatives) are the next best thing to being face to face. It really gives you the ability to move around and participate, as if you were there in the flesh. Even better, in the very near future this technology is going to give you superpowers. You will have the ability to pull up details on your screen about the person to whom you’re speaking. But it could get even stranger. Imagine having the ability to use the sensors on your robot to measure the heart rate and pupillary reaction of the person you’re speaking to during a negotiation. Technologies like the Beam will expand our sensory experience when we communicate.

Virtual Worlds: The next step in technology-enabled communication comes when we’re able to skip meeting in person, and instead meet inside of a high-resolution virtual world. A world in which two individuals can have their near-perfect avatars have conversations and interactions not possible in the real world. In these virtual worlds, the avatar’s facial features mirror your exact facial features using the same technology James Cameron pioneered in his moving Avatar. This is the direction companies like Philip Rosedale’s High Fidelity is taking us.

Brain-Computer Interface: The ultimate form of communications will materialize in the following decade, as we develop Brain Computer Interface (BCI) — the ability to connect mind-to-computer and computer-to-mind. This will enable the most intimate level of communication conceivable, whereby you have the ability to understand a person’s most personal thoughts and feelings.

 

Frey Freyday-Enough

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

You are absolutely enough the way you are. Laurieann Gibson
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You are important enough to ask and you are blessed enough to receive back. Wayne Dyer
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You alone are enough. Oprah Winfrey

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You are enough, which I believe is critical for any human being to get in their bones. KaDee Strickland
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Try your hardest to be confident in who you are. You are enough – you are beautiful. Meagan Tandy
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WORD TO LIVE BY:

Enough – Today we all strive to be better, to learn, grow, expand, and take in the heaps of information around us. We want to improve for our family, our career, to keep up with the Joneses, etc. etc.

We sometimes need to stop and remember that what we have inside us is enough.

Stop waiting for it to be perfect – or for you to be perfect.

Stop looking for that next book, or show, or program or whatever it is so that you can learn that new thing or ‘get just a little better’. You have all you need inside right now. Put down that new book and go out and do something.

Believe in yourself, you are enough, you have enough.

I don’t remember who said it but there was someone who once that said we need to remind ourselves “all I need is within me now”. This doesn’t mean that we give up learning or growing, but it does mean that we need to recognize that we are powerful beings capable of magic, growth, love, and things beyond what we really understand. We just need to believe and then go do it.

 

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

the Come-Home program

RE: FYI – Scholarships and attracting/keeping people in our area- the “Come Home Award”

I attended the Leadership Westmoreland program in my area and was exposed to the fact that our area, like others around the U.S, have a need to skilled labor, blue collar jobs, and also, in some areas, a need to keep people/get people to return to their ‘home towns’.

Here is one unique solution that I thought you’d find interesting.

I hear this first on the radio/podcast at https://wamu.org/story/18/10/18/why-some-states-are-experiencing-a-labor-shortage/

In St. Clair County, Michigan, some recent college graduates from the area who return home to work are offered up to $15,000.

(Below is From the article http://www.voicenews.com/life/community-foundation-of-st-clair-county-announces-more-come-home/article_43c354c0-a6fd-11e8-9469-87a8676be109.html  )

“Efforts to improve talent attraction and retention programs are continuing as three new Come Home Award recipients have been named in St. Clair County and U.S. Sen. Gary Peters has announced plans to introduce legislation to support initiatives nationwide.

The Community Foundation of St. Clair County’s Come Home program pays recent college graduates with STEAM, or science, technology, engineering, arts and math, degrees up to $15,000 to move back to St. Clair County to live and work. The latest award recipients are Brad McDougal and his fiancé Lindsay Payton, as well as Shane Gamrat.

“Programs like the Community Foundation of St. Clair County’s Come Home Award fund helps attract talent for employers in need of workers and reduces the financial burden on graduates whose skills are in high demand,” Peters said in a recent release.

(It seemed like an idea worth considering, FYI ONLY)

Frey Freyday – Reciprocity

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

The Law Of Reciprocity is: To get you must first give……But…if you don’t have it to give, so then you don’t give, then you are further repeating your cycle of not having to get. –Jim Fortin

Social peace requires reciprocity. Ralph Peters

My father said there were two kinds of people in the world: givers and takers. The takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better. Marlo Thomas

To be what you want to be, you must give up being what you are. Cat Stevens

You’ve got to give more than you take. Christopher Reeve
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WORD TO LIVE BE: RECIPROCITY I believe that, in life, to get what you want in life you must BE the person you need to be to create what you want. After you’re ARE the kind of person you need to be you then HAVE it. When you have it then you can then give it….and here is where the magic happens, when you have it to give, you can then receive more of it. –Jim Fortin Most of us work backwards. They say, “If I had it, I’d give and if I could give I could get more.” Another way to say this is you can’t get peace of mind or happiness or whatever if you don’t first HAVE it in you. This is about relationships, opportunities, wealth, etc. If you want people to act a certain way – or if you want to interact with certain types of people, then you must be that type of person and/or give out that vibe. If you want people to ask you out to social events, for example, then you first must be the person to do it. If you want to find opportunities in a certain niche, you must be that person, the habits, attitude, etc. If you want others to be warm, friendly, giving to you, you must do it to others first.

Everything in life comes from within you, not from without.

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Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

 

This post inspired by Jim Fortin of Mind Authority