Frey Freyday – When No One is Looking

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

 Quality means doing it right when no one is looking. Henry Ford

Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking. H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Golf is a game of ego, but it is also a game of integrity: like life, the most important thing is you do what is right when no one is looking. Tom Watson

Do your best when no one is looking. If you do that, then you can be successful in anything that you put your mind to. Bob Cousy


When no one is looking…. still do your best.

It was said once to me that integrity is what you do when no one is looking.

That certainly makes sense if you’re an employee at work and you’re spending your day committed to work-related things, rather than personal things. We all get that.

Then there is the integrity with our friends and loved ones. We may agree as a group to do something – maybe lose weight together- but then we sneak a donut when no one is looking.

But I think a lot of us forget about integrity to ourselves. We say that we want to accomplish a goal or that we’re committed to change or something of that sort. But then when no one is looking, we do something contrary to that – or we don’t do something to follow through and commit. Maybe it is something as simple as setting a goal. Then during a weak moment we either skip a step, don’t do something towards the goal, or we do something against the goal when no one is looking. Even though ‘we’re looking at ourselves’ we feel like we may be getting away with something because no one sees us, but we’re not being committed, honest with ourselves, we lose the integrity we have with ourselves that way. This is sometimes the toughest, and most important thing in life.

I don’t think that we need to judge ourselves or beat ourselves up when we are weak when no one is looking – I think that we just need to be aware, catch ourselves, ask why it happened and do better next time. We are human and life happens, we just need to adjust and improve.


Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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