Monthly Archives: June 2018

Frey Freyday – Brave/Bold

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

BRAVE – [brāv] -ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage:

BOLD-[bōld]-of a person, action, or idea) showing an ability to take risks; confident and courageous.

I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but they whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves their conduct, will pursue their principles unto death. -Leonardo da Vinci

Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.-Indira Gandhi

We could never learn to be brave and patient, if there were only joy in the world.-Helen Keller

Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.-Paulo Coelho

People often fool themselves into the comfortable life by reasoning that taking “baby steps” are sufficient. But if we are forever taking baby steps — living life without bold steps and those chancy bets of courage that are the mark of greatness — then our character and dreams will forever languish in their infancy. To live a fully charged life, we must allow the risk and vulnerability of those great leaps into the unknown. Let us be so brave.- Brendon Burchard

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Be brave enough to live life creatively. The creative place where no one else has ever been.-Alan Alda

Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are often stiffened.-Billy Graham

Fortune and love favor the brave.-Ovid

WORDS TO LIVE BY:

Brave/Bold – someone who exhibits bravery or boldness can fully live life, they can help others, they can do well in their careers and in relationships. They can look back at their lives and know that they tried, they lived. Someone with bravery/boldness AND some compassion can evolve to the next level and help others too.

WHATEVER YOU CAN DO OR DREAM YOU CAN DO, BEGIN IT. BOLDNESS HAS GENIUS, POWER AND MAGIC IN IT!

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

This is dedicated to the men and women that have helped make and continue to keep this Country independent with their brave actions.

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Bonus: TED Talks

http://www.ted.com/playlists/268/talks_to_help_you_claim_your_i

Claim your independence

Brave, personal stories of people who make bold moves to claim a better life.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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How to have a better relationship with money

http://money.cnn.com/2018/06/22/pf/improve-your-relationship-with-money/index.html

How to have a better relationship with money

Relationships with money can be complicated.

Most of us worry about our finances, but on the spectrum of money worriers, some people ignore their financial problems, while others focus on them too much.

“Either people are avoiders and they stick their heads in the sand, or they are worriers and those tend to be the people who want all the detail, and over-plan and over-analyze everything,” said Amy Mullen, a certified financial planner and vice president of Money Quotient.

To get your money back in balance, experts offered the following tips:

Identify your money story

We all have a money story. You just might not know how it started.

Much of how we interact, manage and talk about money stems from lessons we learned (intentional and unintentional) as a child.

How parents and other role models approached money rubs off on us and influences our money decisions as an adult. It’s important to evaluate why we take a certain approach to saving, spending and investing.

“A lot of people aren’t even aware of their beliefs and how their behaviors form, and when you are not aware of these automatic behaviors, you aren’t really in a position to make a decision to change them,” said Mullen.

Set your goals

A major source of money anxiety stems from not having goals and a plan to achieve them.

Take the time to identify your goals — and get very specific, recommended Steve Martin, a certified financial planner and director at BKD Wealth Advisors

It’s not enough to want to retire early. Calculate when you want to leave the workforce and how much savings you will need to fund your desired lifestyle.

“When you have a specific goal, now it’s a math problem of how you can get from where you are now to where you want to go,” he said.

Schedule a weekly 20-minute money date

Having a little face time with your money will help foster a stronger relationship.

Sit down every week for about 20 minutes to review your checking and savings accounts, credit card balances, check in on your budget, and make any changes to help improve your finances.

“Being able to see where you are can improve your finances and be realistic with changes,” said Stephanie Genkin, a certified financial planner and founder of My Financial Planner.

Ignore the Joneses

When it comes to you and your money — three’s a crowd.

“Don’t compare yourself to others,” said Martin. “When you do that, you are chasing goals that aren’t your own and aren’t tied to what is going to make you happy.”

Make small, but effective changes

Small changes can lead to big improvements with your financial security.

“Automate savings, even if it’s a small amount to come out of your paycheck and right into a separate account,” said Genkin. “Try to participate enough in your 401(k) to get an employer match to reduce your taxable income.”

Reduce your dependency on plastic

Putting everything on your credit card can lead to overspending and a debt spiral.

But you don’t need to cut credit cards completely out of your life.

“Remove all the credit card information you have saved online,” suggested Genkin. “Take the numbers out to make it a little less convenient for you to spend.”

 

http://money.cnn.com/2018/06/22/pf/improve-your-relationship-with-money/index.html

 

Frey Freyday – feeling bad

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

 feel bad- Also, feel bad about. Experience regret, sadness, embarrassment, or a similar unpleasant emotion. For example,-

Nobody ever wants to really make someone feel bad. Patrick Wilson

When you feel bad on the inside, you wind up wanting to do things to make others feel bad. In contrast, when you feel happy on the inside, you want to do things to make others feel happy. Karen Salmansohn

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Feel Bad (don’t) – a saying that many of us use all the time that probably isn’t good at all.

So I hear this saying all the time, and I still say it too; “I feel bad for….”

Someone will see a friend sick, something sad on the news, an animal, a sad person, or any number of things like that and we’ll say “I feel bad for them”.

Or perhaps you did or said something – or didn’t – and there is some negative result to a person and you say “I feel bad that this happened”. Sometimes it is just life happening to each of us and we express the same sentiment, “I feel bad for you”.

Let’s look at the language. So we could be having a good day or a bad day – and they you see this person/animal/whatever and you say “I feel bad for….” –How do you think that you’ll feel for a period of time? Bad, right?

While I know that it is important to be compassionate for others, to care for them, to be concerned for them – I want to also and it is necessary and important to all of us – but think about it – you feeling bad won’t help that person/animal/situation!

Actually you feeling bad, might not help, it might hurt. Let’s think about it. Someone’s in the hospital, let’s say; You ‘feel bad for them’. Does it help them recover? No. It actually could make you and/or them feel sadder/more depressed. Feeling sad or bad for someone does not help them.

Think of when someone ‘felt bad’ for you. You knew they cared, sure, but it really didn’t help much otherwise, right? It may have even made you feel sad/bad/pitied – certainly not empowered.

When we’re saying that phrase, “I feel bad”, even in self-talk, it tells our mind and body to feel bad. Not helpful in any case – and it also puts you in a worse state of mind to help that person!

So what to do? Next time you say “I feel bad”, don’t beat yourself up – just be aware, catch yourself and think – what I can do help them? Is there actually something that I can do/say to help this person? How can I show them that I care without feeling bad? What compassionate thing can I do or say that can improve the situation? Sometimes it is just saying, “I care.”

You can care about someone or something even without ‘feeling bad’ for them.

Think of a new and different way to express your care and compassion.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS:

Words as Self-Sabotage

Stop inflicting damage on yourself with the words you use. Writer, Rishawn Biddle, shares 3 simple steps to stop sabotaging yourself with your words, and how to prime yourself for success.

Read Article »

 

The Science of Words

Why are words and self-talk so powerful? How can they help lead better lives? Writer, Erin Wildermuth, shows you the surprising benefits of self-talk and how they’re backed by science.

Read Article »

Speak Well of Your Spouse

The health of your marriage affects the impact of your leadership. So it’s important to speak well of your spouse. In this article, Michael reveals 5 reasons why it’s important to create a habit of speaking well about your spouse, and how it will affect your leadership.

 

Read Article

 

Retirement – you gotta think about it

Let’s face it, no one really likes to discuss retirement.

Maybe you don’t even want to ‘retire’ but you probably want to be able to have choices and still enjoy a certain lifestyle – or maybe leave a legacy for kids, or help a charity, or other things.

We all need to spend more time thinking about it. But where to start?

  • You gotta start somewhere – and now!

Here are two good, easy to understand, step by step articles you should check out.

https://www.fool.com/retirement/index.aspx

and

https://www.fool.com/retirement/2016/12/19/the-perfect-retirement-strategy-for-40-somethings.aspx  

(other age groups also available)

Take action now!

 

Frey Freyday- Adaptation

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Adaptation – [ad-uh p-tey-shuh n] – usually an unconscious modification of individual and social activity in adjustment to cultural surroundings.

Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change. –Stephen Hawking


All of us need to begin to think in terms of our own inner strengths, our resilience and resourcefulness, our capacity to adapt and to rely upon ourselves and our families.-Steven Pressfield


Enjoying success requires the ability to adapt. Only by being open to change will you have a true opportunity to get the most from your talent.-Nolan Ryan


A true champion can adapt to anything.-Floyd Mayweather, Jr.

Fortunately for me, my parents were not poetic. They were pragmatic. They understood that ignorance and fear were but matters of the mind, and the mind is adaptable. They believed that I should grow up to enjoy the same freedoms and responsibilities as everyone else. –Daniel Kish (a blind man that ‘sees’ by clicking with his tongue)


We are a party of innovation. We do not reject our traditions, but we are willing to adapt to changing circumstances, when change we must. We are willing to suffer the discomfort of change in order to achieve a better future.-Barbara Jordan


Adapt or perish, now as ever, is nature’s inexorable imperative.-H. G. Wells

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Adaptation – How we respond and change to our situation, environment, those around us, things ‘happening to us’, etc. Some people are flexible and can bend like the palm tree, which bounces back. Some people are rigid like a hardwood tree – strong, but at some point, it can break and crack apart.

Organisms face a succession of environmental challenges as they grow and develop and are equipped with an adaptive plasticity.

 So we all face challenges, and we all face the dark unknown, which is endemic to most challenges, which is what most of us fear. But we all have brains that activate to allow us to navigate the journey through these challenges. We have the power to adapt. Sometimes it is a little scary or outside of our comfort zone.

We face a challenge. Something happens. How we react and how we adapt is up to us. What you do next separates you from someone else.

Adaptation is necessary in relationships too. A lot of us have been conditioned to think that once we find the person who we believe is perfect for us, then the hard work is over. Everything should be smooth sailing from that point on. After all, if they are perfect for us, shouldn’t everything just fall into place? But that couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, once you find the partner you are ready to commit to, that’s when the real work begins. And any healthy relationship will require a certain amount of flexibility from each partner. Because change is inevitable. And in order for a relationship to grow and prosper, it is critical that you and your partner be able to adapt to the changes, finding your way through the good and the bad together.

Sometimes adaptation leads to creativity and better solutions. Example: Kevin Systerom invented an app called Burbn, however, it was not exactly a hit with the users. The app was just too complicated. But Systrom was undaunted. He brought on another programmer and together, the pair determined that while users were not utilizing Burbn’s check-in features, they were using the app’s photo-sharing features. And after months of tweaking and experimenting, Systrom and Krieger released a pared down version of Burbn that was essentially a simple photo-sharing app. They called it Instagram. So they simplified it, made it interesting/useful/successful by adapting.

Evolution is adaptation – it is a trait with a current functional role in the life of an organism that is maintained and evolved by means of natural selection. Therefore in some cases, adaptation can be do or die. If we don’t adapt and eat in a healthier manner, maybe we’ll die from heart disease or diabetes. If we don’t stop smoking, we may die earlier, right? If we don’t adapt to a compromise that works, our relationship may die. If we don’t adapt to our job or career, that opportunity may die.

In the world of psychology, those who more easily adapt are typically happier. The adaptation process is a critical part of cognitive development. Through the adaptive processes of assimilation and accommodation, people are able to take in new information, form new ideas or change existing ones, and adopt new behaviors that make them better prepared to deal with the world around them. This is something that can happen unconsciously but also something we can choose to do – we can be open to other ideas, approach new things in a reasonable manner and decide if the new information might help us.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS: Ted Talk Summaries @ Adaptation

http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/455904076/adaptation?showDate=2015-11-20 – Humans adapt to physical and creative challenges in remarkable ways. How do we do it, and what happens when we can’t? In this episode, TED speakers share inspiring stories about our capacity to adapt.

 

Frey Freyday – Questions

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

question-[kwes-chuh n] –a matter for discussion or under discussion; a matter for investigation. to dispute; challenge; to explore, investigate, ponder

–(This is a favorite one of mine and I believe one of the things that have helped me be happier and do better in life)

New Year’s Day. A fresh start. A new chapter in life waiting to be written. New questions to be asked, embraced, and loved. Answers to be discovered and then lived in this transformative year of delight and self-discovery. Today carve out a quiet interlude for yourself in which to dream, pen in hand. Only dreams give birth to change.-Sarah Ban Breathnach

Culture makes people understand each other better. And if they understand each other better in their soul, it is easier to overcome the economic and political barriers. But first they have to understand that their neighbour is, in the end, just like them, with the same problems, the same questions.-Paulo Coelho

Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.-Henri Nouwen

Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.-Voltaire

– Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions – Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead.-Chanakya

– To raise new questions, new possibilities, to regard old problems from a new angle, requires creative imagination and marks real advance in science.-Albert Einstein

– I don’t pretend we have all the answers. But the questions are certainly worth thinking about.-Arthur C. Clarke

– The wise man doesn’t give the right answers, he poses the right questions.-Claude Levi-Strauss

Word to Live By:

QUESTIONS- Something you ask yourself each day, everyday, all day, whether you realize it or not. These questions affect your focus, they ‘prime” you, and shape your perspective. You can ask weak questions, empowering questions, sad questions, happy questions. Why not ask good ones?

The words you speak can either speed up your success or halt them. In this issue, you’ll discover how to recognize the power of your words, and how to use them to produce the outcomes you want…. Michael Hyatt

Are you a leader somewhere or in some way? As a leader, how aware are you of the words you’re using to build your organization? If you’re not careful, the words you use can hurt your organization’s culture.

The quality of your life is not necessarily based on the quality of your circumstances, it is based upon our perception – and the questions (and self-talk) we ask each day.

Here is a good question for when you have a ‘bad day’:

“What’s great about this situation you’re not seeing right now?”

Your brain is very much like a computer. When you ask a question, you will get a response. Submit negative questions and you will get negative responses.

We all ask ourselves questions each and every day, all day, whether we realize it or not. They say we have up to 60,000 thoughts running through our minds each day, and many of these are questions. Are they good questions? Are they useful? Do they empower us?

When we ask “What is wrong with me?” or “What can’t I be ___?” or “Why am I lazy?” or “Why do I struggle?” – these questions almost never help us. Remember, part of your brain is like a computer. It is a wonderful problem solving organ/tool. We can ponder on a problem, sleep on it, and when we least expect it – maybe in the shower, while driving, often in some relaxed state of mind, boom- the answer pops into our conscious mind.

So when you ask your unconscious something, it goes out and looks for the answer. When you ask yourself, “Why can’t I “ …do something OR “Why do I struggle?” your brain will search for an answer or answers. So why don’t you change those around and ask empowering questions instead?

 

  • So …..we really need to catch ourselves each and every day -…..interrupt the pattern…..stop the disempowering thoughts and questions….then replace it with an empowering question…….

“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.”  – Tony Robbins

  1. What is something I can do for someone else today?
  2. What is something I can do to add value to the world today?
  3. What is something that I have to offer other people?
  4. Why am I happy?
  5. What do I enjoy about this…?

Parting questions, for fun…..

Why do you think that “Frey Freyday” is so good? Why do you want to email a great comment?

Why do you want to tell your friend about this email series?

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS:

Words as Self-Sabotage

Stop inflicting damage on yourself with the words you use. Writer, Rishawn Biddle, shares 3 simple steps to stop sabotaging yourself with your words, and how to prime yourself for success.

Read Article »

 

The Science of Words

Why are words and self-talk so powerful? How can they help lead better lives? Writer, Erin Wildermuth, shows you the surprising benefits of self-talk and how they’re backed by science.

Read Article »

Speak Well of Your Spouse

The health of your marriage affects the impact of your leadership. So it’s important to speak well of your spouse. In this article, Michael reveals 5 reasons why it’s important to create a habit of speaking well about your spouse, and how it will affect your leadership.

 

Read Article
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