Frey Freyday – Suffering

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

suf·fer·ing-[ˈsəf(ə)riNG]-the state of undergoing pain, distress, or hardship:

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Helen Keller

Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for. Bob Marley

Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals. Martin Luther King, Jr.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars. Khalil Gibran

God wants us to know that life is a series of beginnings, not endings. Just as graduations are not terminations, but commencements. Creation is an ongoing process, and when we create a perfect world where love and compassion are shared by all, suffering will cease. Bernie Siegel

SUFFERING- a result of our circumstances, situations, focus and framing. We can languish in it, learn from it, grow from it.


We, as a race, endure suffering – emotional, physical, mental, etc. Our health, our relationships, our environment – there is suffering.

From suffering, we learn from our mistakes. As a human, suffering is part of our life, we know that we’re alive and living.There are perhaps a few times when we may focus on our suffering too much.


There is a book called, “The Art of Living” by Thich Nhat Hanh

One of the things stated by the author goes like this: We should not be afraid of suffering. We should be afraid of only one thing, and that is not knowing how to deal with our suffering. Handling our suffering is an art. If we know how to suffer, we suffer much less, and we’re no longer afraid of being overwhelmed by the suffering inside. The energy of mindfulness helps us recognize, acknowledge, and embrace the presence of the suffering, which can already bring some calm and relief.


So what? Often most of us, when a painful feeling comes up, we may try to suppress the pain. For all sorts of reasons, we may feel guilty or embarrassed or we don’t feel comfortable when our feelings of suffering surface. Many of us cover up the feelings, resist them, ignore them. Instead, the author and others suggest that we should just accept those feelings, allow the suffering to surface so we can clearly identify it and embrace it. Don’t judge it or label it. When we recognize and accept our difficult feelings and emotions, we begin to feel more at peace. Accept the feeling, learn what it may really mean, and then just release it.


Again, as the book’s author states, “We shouldn’t run away from it or cover it up with consumption, distraction, or diversion. We should simply recognize it and embrace it, like a mother lovingly embracing a crying baby in her arms. The mother is mindfulness, and the crying baby is suffering.”


Our society and our race is wired to focus on suffering and fear. We need to be aware of that and work to focus on better things.


As a nation, we definitely overly compensate in regards to physical pain and suffering. I recently read that the U.S. has 14% of the world’s population but we use 80% of the world’s pain killers (mostly opiods). We also use alcohol, we use social media and our devices, we escape our feelings in different ways, sometimes without acknowledging or accepting them. If we don’t accept and face the suffering, we can’t move on.


There are a few of us that also get caught up in the suffering from time to time. We all do it. We get self-centered and see our suffering first. We may blow it out of proportion at times.

Too much self-centered attitude, you see, brings, you see, isolation. Result: loneliness, fear, anger. The extreme self-centered attitude is the source of suffering. Dalai Lama


Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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 BONUS: a quick video about suffering and stress

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