Frey Freyday-Reality

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

re·al·i·ty-[rēˈalədē]-NOUN-the world or the state of things as they actually exist

Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live! Bob Marley

Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced. Soren Kierkegaard

Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. Les Brown

It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean. We create our own realities.Tony Robbins

There is hope in dreams, imagination, and in the courage of those who wish to make those dreams a reality. Jonas Salk


Reality- something we create

Some say we create our own reality. “The best way to predict the future is to create it.”  I have read many times that our thoughts determine the present and future of what is contained within our lives.  It’s all about our choices.  How and what we choose to do, remember, upon what we focus, concentrate, or direct our attention, and where we spend our mental and emotional energies.

I’ve also heard people say “Our thoughts are prayers, and we are always praying.  Our thoughts are prayers, listen to what you’re saying.” Again, we create our reality.

I was in a room with a large group of people once. Two men were in the room who were in the Army in Vietnam, and both were in a specific battle where many people were killed. Few survived. One man reflected on the battle as horrible, seeing the worst in humanity, remembering the terrible things that happened and he did not seem to let go of the pain. He appeared to be old, frail, angry, lonely, and fearful. Another man, basically the same age reflected that even in such a horrible battle, he remembered his fellow soldiers trying to help him and others. He even remembered when an enemy acted honorably in one instance. While he still had emotional and physical scars, he didn’t seem to let that story hold him back. He seemed to be younger, happier, more successful, with a family and friends. Two men with similar backgrounds, ages, circumstances created different realities.

It’s scientific. “We do actually create our own reality. Studies have shown many times that what you see impacts how you feel, and the way you feel can literally change what you see. For example: if you’re asked to estimate the walking speed of a man in a video, your answer will be different if you are told to think about a cheetah vs. thinking of a turtle. If you’ve just exercised, a hill appears steeper, a landmark appears farther away, and a backpack feels heavier. What you see is a complex mental construction of your own making, you experience it passively as a direct representation of the world around you. You create your own reality and you believe it.” Isaac Lidsky in his TED Talk “What Reality Are you Creating for Yourself?”

Fear distorts your reality. Fear makes us choose the awful over the unknown. Fear warps logic so that we make assumptions rather than use reason.

Your excuses, justifications, rationalizations, your surrender come to you in the form of fears, critics, villains. Be responsible for every moment, every thought, every details. See beyond your fears. Revisit assumptions you have about the world, love, success, good luck, life, and about reality. Be open-minded and open-hearted. Choose to see through fears and let them go. Create a better reality.

I’ve seen some people re-create their reality for the better. I know someone who had bad experiences with his father and for many years reflected on his assumptions about reality. After his father died, he found out that his assumptions were wrong. All of those years he created a story, a reality, that he was living by and it was holding him back – and it wasn’t even true.

Think about your reality – I bet that at least some of your beliefs were created when you were a young child. You interpreted things and made assumptions as a child and those became your reality. Here’s a question: was your brain, wisdom, experience, intelligence fully developed? Isn’t it possible that your brain as a child (any of our’s) might not interpret everything correctly? Isn’t it possible that the belief you created as a child might actually be wrong?

And if it is true, you can still create a reality based upon faith and hope. We constantly create a reality based on fear and anger, so why not create something better?


Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….




Reality isn’t something you perceive; it’s something you create in your mind. Isaac Lidsky learned this profound lesson firsthand, when unexpected life circumstances yielded valuable insights. In this introspective, personal talk, he challenges us to let go of excuses, assumptions and fears, and accept the awesome responsibility of being the creators of our own reality.


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