(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)
As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives. -Henry David Thoreau
What matters is to live in the present, live now, for every moment is now. It is your thoughts and acts of the moment that create your future. The outline of your future path already exists, for you created its pattern by your past. -Sai Baba
Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes our self-image. -Denis Waitley
I’ve puzzled over the difficulty that students have with editing, and I think I’ve identified its source: It’s their self-talk. We all talk to ourselves, inside our heads. That’s what consciousness is. -Richard Rhodes
Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. -Aristotle
Man is made or unmade by himself. By the right choice he ascends. As a being of power, intelligence, and love, and the lord of his own thoughts, he holds the key to every situation. Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bear bad fruit.-James Allen
WORD TO LIVE BY:
Call it thoughts, psychology, self-talk, whatever – I’m referring to what goes on in each of our minds each and every day.
Mastering your mind, your habitual thoughts, the questions that you ask yourself, your vocabulary that you use – this is a fundamental element to living your best.
Many people have good intentions, but just can’t seem to overcome the negative thought patterns that overtake them and hold them back. Many people have a desire to improve, do better – but they just don’t know how or why.
I recently read something written by Brendon Burchard that helps here:
“So, let’s talk about how your thoughts are generated. According to psychologists, we have two systems of thought.
System 1 is our unconscious, immediate thoughts and impulses that arise automatically from the body. If you had fears and challenges in the past, and a similar situation arises, your body generates those fears and says, “We’ve been through this before. Stop what you’re doing, don’t take risks, let’s protect ourselves.”
These thoughts are automatic, but they often are not helpful.
It’s just your brain saying, “this is the easiest route we know.”
The reality is that the brain loves to optimize itself. It doesn’t like to have to do a lot of thinking. It just likes to say, “What do we already know? How can we apply it to this situation and stay super safe?”
Many of us are dominated by System 1.
System 2 is the hallmark of a more mature, conscious enlightened person. It’s the conscious dashboard on our mind that regulates our ability to directly work, control, generate, and create our own thoughts and behaviors in the moment, not relying too much on automatic responses.
The world’s most successful people have tapped into this dashboard. Even when they have automatic negative thoughts – and they certainly do — they know how to discipline their mind to transform them.
People have negative recurring thoughts and feelings in their life because they are giving the negative thoughts more attention than positive ones. In other words, the relative weight that they give those repetitive thoughts is quite high.
The downside of this is clear: if you keep obsessing about negative things, your mind will be conditioned to bring them up automatically.
But there is a bright side. We can use this same rule and apply it to our positive thoughts. Focus on positive thoughts over a period of time, and they get sealed in the brain. After you’ve given relative weight to these thoughts, the brain says, “that’s easy,”and automatically thinks about those positive things.
How do you make this switch?
First, place awareness on your thoughts.
Then, redirect your negative thoughts to positive ones using visualization. Give your thoughts a sensation, feeling the positive thoughts and outcomes in your body. Use repetition to encourage your mind to engrain them into your mind. With focus, we you create an entirely new thought paradigm.
Every single person has unconscious thoughts. But most of us have extreme power to overtake them. Even those with mental disorders can work with psychologists and therapists to re-condition their mind by allowing them a different way of attaching meaning to past incidents and, ultimately, to making healthier decisions in the Now.
No matter who you are or where you’ve been, you can use the power of the mind to direct itself into positive orientations, to make healthier decisions, and to enact healthier behaviors. This is personal power” – From: Brendon Burchard
Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.
So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from..