Frey Freyday – Emotion

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.-Joel Osteen

– Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.-Gretchen Rubin

– Emotions are contagious. We’ve all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.-Daniel Goleman

– No man has the right to dictate what other men should perceive, create or produce, but all should be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative spirit.-Ansel Adams

– What you believe is very powerful. If you have toxic emotions of fear, guilt and depression, it is because you have wrong thinking, and you have wrong thinking because of wrong believing.-Joseph Prince

– Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.-Brian Tracy

– The advantage of the emotions is that they lead us astray.-Oscar Wilde

– Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge.-Plato

– When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.-Dale Carnegie

WORD TO LIVE BY emotion-[ih-moh-shuh n] /ɪˈmoʊ ʃən/ – an affectivestate of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.

Being Aware of, Using, Controlling, your emotions are something each of us can benefit from doing. Most people go through life never controlling their emotions, perhaps not even being aware of them – instead they are controlled by emotions, and they ride a draining, unsatisfying roller coaster.

It’s ok to feel an emotion – let’s say you’re scared. OK that’s a valid emotion. Be aware that you are scared. Why are you, really? Is it real or perceived? Can you change the situation? Are you being rational? Can you re-frame the situation? Can you use that fear to motivate yourself in a positive manner?

Everyone has negative emotions – it is what we do with them that determine the path of our lives. We can control how we handle an emotion even if we can’t control the situation.

I don’t recall where but recently I read that it might be helpful to think of your emotions as a garden. With that in mind, one way to ensure a great harvest from this garden is to plant seeds like love, warmth, gratitude, and appreciation —instead of seeds of desperation, disappointment, anger and fear.

  • Passion/Hunger/Desire – These are not emotions that many refer to in life. I think that we can benefit from them . Benjamin Disraeli, “man is only truly great when he acts from passion.” This can mean that passion gives us the juices, the fire or the force that wakes us up and keeps us moving at a great speed. In many ways, I think that Hunger can be one of the most important emotions ever. If you hunger to be better, to help others, to love, to do anything then that hunger keeps you going despite your age, success, status or wealth. Hunger gives you that commitment, drive, fire to make change happen.
  • Acting in a loving manner can help remove conflict, stress and other negative emotions. Think about a recent stressful situation or tense moment with another person. Did you or that person act in a loving manner? What would have happened if you just reached out or spoke in some caring manner? How can you do so in your everyday life with both strangers and those close to you? We often overlook how simple, small loving gestures can mean a lot.
  • Happiness/Joy/Cheerfulness – whatever you call it, when you’re happy, you radiate happiness. If you’re happy, you face life in a better way, you probably will attract others that are happy, and you’ll likely face challenges better. Being happy doesn’t mean you’re ignoring that challenges in life, you’re just happily moving ahead. Reality is still there but you’re OK with it. Humor is certainly part of the equation.
  • Gratitude is typically not considered an emotion. We can argue if it really is – but I challenge you – next time you’re scared, fearful, or desperate, take a breath and try to be grateful. List things in your mind, in your life, on a piece of paper. Deepak Chopra describes gratitude as an “immensely powerful force that we can use to expand our happiness, create loving relationships, and even improve our health.” If you are grateful and showing gratitude about something, then you can’t fear. It changes your focus.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By”(WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally.

……So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.

with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one

word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and

they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images

with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and

references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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