Monthly Archives: March 2015

quick question….

You are not a manager of your circumstances, you are a creator of your life.

What do you want to create?

What can you do right now to do it – or work towards it?

Frey Freyday – Worry (don’t worry)

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.-Leo Buscaglia

A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of work.-John Lubbock

You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.-Walter Hagen

To be a champion, you have to learn to handle stress and pressure. But if you’ve prepared mentally and physically, you don’t have to worry.-Harvey Mackay

I think my mother… made it clear that you have to live life by your own terms and you have to not worry about what other people think and you have to have the courage to do the unexpected.-Caroline Kennedy

Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.-Dale Carnegie

Worry is a technique you created to fill the moments of your life. –Wayne Dyer

Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It is already tomorrow in Australia.-Charles M. Schulz

Worry: [wur-ee, wuhr-ee] – to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; fret.

Worrying is a learned habit. (It can be unlearned) Worrying is almost always useless. It has been said that worrying is like praying for bad things to happen. Worrying makes us feel worse, it makes us focus on things we don’t want, it makes us tense and unhappy, it takes us away from what we do want or hope for. We can interrupt the pattern of worrying anytime we want. We can choose to think of good things, hope for good outcomes, or even simply stop worrying and take action instead!

In our society, sometimes some of us think that worrying shows love or caring for another. Traditionally our grandmothers and mothers would say something like, “I worry about you” and maybe they sometimes mean, “I care about you.” We can care about someone or love them without worrying about them.

Instead of worrying, think about good things for our loved ones. Instead of worrying, write a list of things you’re grateful for, happy about, hopeful for, action steps – or just go take action. Write someone a quick positive letter instead of worrying. Send out some good energy!

I’ve heard someone say that ‘Worry makes us immobilized in the present moment as a result of things that may or may not happen in the future, or things that have already happened and we can’t change.’ So why do it? Does it help? No! Is it useful, no.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).
Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also
a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would
raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other
children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.
Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,
sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.
with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one
word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and
they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images
with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and
references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS Article:

Worried? How Not to Let It Get the Best of You<>

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The dumber you are, the less you know it….

There is an interesting study out there that we all should think about – where are you in this study and in society?

………….the Dunning-Kruger effect — has at least halfway filtered into public consciousness. In the classic 1999 paper, Cornell researchers David Dunning and Justin Kruger found that the less competent people were in three domains — humor, logic, and grammar — the less likely they were to be able to recognize that. Or as the researchers put it:

We propose that those with limited knowledge in a domain suffer from a dual burden: Not only do they reach mistaken conclusions and make regrettable errors, but their incompetence robs them of the ability to realize it.

Some people believe that this helps to explain phenomena like vaccine denial, in which medical authorities have voiced a very strong opinion, but some parents just keep on thinking that, somehow, they’re in a position to challenge or ignore this view.

A new related study says that many people relate in a different way in some cases……Yes, that’s right — we’re all right, nobody’s wrong, and nobody gets hurt feelings.

The new study, just published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, is by Ali Mahmoodi of the University of Tehran and a long list of colleagues from universities in the UK, Germany, China, Denmark, and the United States. And no wonder: The research was transnational, and the same experiment — with the same basic results — was carried out across cultures in China, Denmark, and Iran.

Basically it reports the study authors, “the worse members of each dyad underweighted their partner’s opinion (i.e., assigned less weight to their partner’s opinion than recommended by the optimal model), whereas the better members of each dyad overweighted their partner’s opinion.” Or to put it more bluntly, individuals tended to act “as if they were as good or as bad as their partner” — even when they quite obviously weren’t.

The researchers tried several variations on the experiment, and this “equality bias” didn’t go away. In one case, a “running score” reminded both members of the pair who was faring better (and who worse) at identifying the target — just in case it wasn’t obvious enough already. In another case, the task became much more difficult for one group member than the other, leading to a bigger gap in scores — accentuating differences in performance. And finally, in a third variant, actual money was offered for getting it right.

So why do we do this? The authors, not surprisingly, point to the incredible power of human groups, and our dependence upon being good standing members of them:

By confirming themselves more often than they should have, the inferior member of each dyad may have tried to stay relevant and socially included. Conversely, the better performing member may have been trying to avoid ignoring their partner.

Great instincts in general — except, of course, when facts and reality are at stake.

So – do you do any of the above? Consider the above theories in your career and your life.

Just being aware of such things can help. Food for thought.

You have the power

Remember!….you have the power to create the naturally stress-free and tranquil life you deserve and that you desire. You can either activate thoughts that for distress within you or you can activate thoughts that make stress impossible. It’s your choice. Wayne Dyer

If you’ve put off saving, investing or even thinking about it, just take a quick look at this

If you’ve put off saving, investing or even thinking about it, just take a quick look at this

I personally have had ups and downs, and I used to save a lot, used to invest, then when things got tough, I just started putting things off, avoiding it, deferring it, or just plain pretending like I never thought of it, yet it was always in the back of my mind. So many people don’t talk about finances, don’t think about it, and just keep pushing it out until a later date for all sorts of reasons.

Please don’t. Please think about it now… is easier than you think. People with less brains and less talent have done it, so you certainly can.

Tony Robbins explains how you can attain financial security more easily than you think.


We might be conscious about what we eat, but sometimes we don’t consider the meaning or purpose behind that action. To understand the basis of nutrition, we must first answer a few fundamental questions. For example, Why do we eat? To energize, to grow and develop, to purify and cleanse, to prevent and fight disease, to nurture our outer beauty, to socialize and enjoy.

Next: Test your knowledge with Dr. Gundry’s six food and weight-loss myths:




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