Monthly Archives: March 2015

quick question….

You are not a manager of your circumstances, you are a creator of your life.

What do you want to create?

What can you do right now to do it – or work towards it?

Frey Freyday – Worry (don’t worry)

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.-Leo Buscaglia

A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of work.-John Lubbock

You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.-Walter Hagen

To be a champion, you have to learn to handle stress and pressure. But if you’ve prepared mentally and physically, you don’t have to worry.-Harvey Mackay

I think my mother… made it clear that you have to live life by your own terms and you have to not worry about what other people think and you have to have the courage to do the unexpected.-Caroline Kennedy

Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.-Dale Carnegie

Worry is a technique you created to fill the moments of your life. –Wayne Dyer

Don’t worry about the world coming to an end today. It is already tomorrow in Australia.-Charles M. Schulz

WORD TO (not) LIVE BY:
Worry: [wur-ee, wuhr-ee] – to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; fret.

Worrying is a learned habit. (It can be unlearned) Worrying is almost always useless. It has been said that worrying is like praying for bad things to happen. Worrying makes us feel worse, it makes us focus on things we don’t want, it makes us tense and unhappy, it takes us away from what we do want or hope for. We can interrupt the pattern of worrying anytime we want. We can choose to think of good things, hope for good outcomes, or even simply stop worrying and take action instead!

In our society, sometimes some of us think that worrying shows love or caring for another. Traditionally our grandmothers and mothers would say something like, “I worry about you” and maybe they sometimes mean, “I care about you.” We can care about someone or love them without worrying about them.

Instead of worrying, think about good things for our loved ones. Instead of worrying, write a list of things you’re grateful for, happy about, hopeful for, action steps – or just go take action. Write someone a quick positive letter instead of worrying. Send out some good energy!

I’ve heard someone say that ‘Worry makes us immobilized in the present moment as a result of things that may or may not happen in the future, or things that have already happened and we can’t change.’ So why do it? Does it help? No! Is it useful, no.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).
Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also
a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would
raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other
children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.
Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,
sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.
with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one
word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and
they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images
with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and
references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS Article:

Worried? How Not to Let It Get the Best of You<http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Eliminate-Worry-From-Your-Life-Wayne-Dyer#ixzz3Vc6budu1>

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Eliminate-Worry-From-Your-Life-Wayne-Dyer#ixzz3Vc6budu1

The dumber you are, the less you know it….

There is an interesting study out there that we all should think about – where are you in this study and in society?

………….the Dunning-Kruger effect — has at least halfway filtered into public consciousness. In the classic 1999 paper, Cornell researchers David Dunning and Justin Kruger found that the less competent people were in three domains — humor, logic, and grammar — the less likely they were to be able to recognize that. Or as the researchers put it:

We propose that those with limited knowledge in a domain suffer from a dual burden: Not only do they reach mistaken conclusions and make regrettable errors, but their incompetence robs them of the ability to realize it.

Some people believe that this helps to explain phenomena like vaccine denial, in which medical authorities have voiced a very strong opinion, but some parents just keep on thinking that, somehow, they’re in a position to challenge or ignore this view.

A new related study says that many people relate in a different way in some cases……Yes, that’s right — we’re all right, nobody’s wrong, and nobody gets hurt feelings.

The new study, just published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, is by Ali Mahmoodi of the University of Tehran and a long list of colleagues from universities in the UK, Germany, China, Denmark, and the United States. And no wonder: The research was transnational, and the same experiment — with the same basic results — was carried out across cultures in China, Denmark, and Iran.

Basically it reports the study authors, “the worse members of each dyad underweighted their partner’s opinion (i.e., assigned less weight to their partner’s opinion than recommended by the optimal model), whereas the better members of each dyad overweighted their partner’s opinion.” Or to put it more bluntly, individuals tended to act “as if they were as good or as bad as their partner” — even when they quite obviously weren’t.

The researchers tried several variations on the experiment, and this “equality bias” didn’t go away. In one case, a “running score” reminded both members of the pair who was faring better (and who worse) at identifying the target — just in case it wasn’t obvious enough already. In another case, the task became much more difficult for one group member than the other, leading to a bigger gap in scores — accentuating differences in performance. And finally, in a third variant, actual money was offered for getting it right.

So why do we do this? The authors, not surprisingly, point to the incredible power of human groups, and our dependence upon being good standing members of them:

By confirming themselves more often than they should have, the inferior member of each dyad may have tried to stay relevant and socially included. Conversely, the better performing member may have been trying to avoid ignoring their partner.

Great instincts in general — except, of course, when facts and reality are at stake.

So – do you do any of the above? Consider the above theories in your career and your life.

Just being aware of such things can help. Food for thought.

You have the power

Remember!….you have the power to create the naturally stress-free and tranquil life you deserve and that you desire. You can either activate thoughts that for distress within you or you can activate thoughts that make stress impossible. It’s your choice. Wayne Dyer

If you’ve put off saving, investing or even thinking about it, just take a quick look at this

If you’ve put off saving, investing or even thinking about it, just take a quick look at this

I personally have had ups and downs, and I used to save a lot, used to invest, then when things got tough, I just started putting things off, avoiding it, deferring it, or just plain pretending like I never thought of it, yet it was always in the back of my mind. So many people don’t talk about finances, don’t think about it, and just keep pushing it out until a later date for all sorts of reasons.

Please don’t. Please think about it now…..it is easier than you think. People with less brains and less talent have done it, so you certainly can.

Tony Robbins explains how you can attain financial security more easily than you think.

http://www.inc.com/tony-robbins/wealth-isnt-about-not-working-about-not-needing-to-work.html?cid=sf01002

THE TRUTH ABOUT 6 COMMON FOOD MYTHS

We might be conscious about what we eat, but sometimes we don’t consider the meaning or purpose behind that action. To understand the basis of nutrition, we must first answer a few fundamental questions. For example, Why do we eat? To energize, to grow and develop, to purify and cleanse, to prevent and fight disease, to nurture our outer beauty, to socialize and enjoy.

Next: Test your knowledge with Dr. Gundry’s six food and weight-loss myths:

from tonyrobbins.com

 

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Frey Freyday-Stories

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

The story of life is quicker than the blink of an eye, the story of love is hello, goodbye.-Jimi Hendrix

Technology can be our best friend, and technology can also be the biggest party pooper of our lives. It interrupts our own story, interrupts our ability to have a thought or a daydream, to imagine something wonderful, because we’re too busy bridging the walk from the cafeteria back to the office on the cell phone.-Steven Spielberg

The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short.-Abraham Maslow

You write your life story by the choices you make. You never know if they have been a mistake. Those moments of decision are so difficult.-Helen Mirren

You don’t just have a story – you’re a story in the making, and you never know what the next chapter’s going to be. That’s what makes it exciting.-Dan Millman

WORD TO LIVE BY:

STORY – [stawr-ee, stohr-ee]

  1. Story – everybody loves a story. Use storytelling when you can in education, business, whatever. Instead of just spouting facts or info, tell them a story. We understand, visualize and relate better with stories.
  2. We are defined by the stories that we tell ourselves. That story may limit you. The story may give you an excuse or be an excuse. Everyone has a story or a set of stories that define who he or she is. The question is: Is your story empowering you to maximize what life has given you, or is your story causing you to fall short? …….Your history isn’t your destiny—your decisions are. You see, it’s never the environment; it’s never the events of our lives, but the meaning we attach to the events – how we interpret them – that shapes who we are today and who we’ll become tomorrow. It is the new story that we follow that counts. All of us have the awesome ability to take any experience of our lives and create a story that disempowers us or one that can literally save our lives. What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs and the story about who we are. + What is a goal that you have always wanted to achieve and haven’t? Why haven’t you? Whatever your reason, there’s always a limiting belief, a limiting story. The first step in replacing old, disempowering Stories with new, empowering stories and beliefs.

 

An old story might be something like:

“You’re too young.” “You’re too old.” “You’re uneducated.” “You’re over-educated.” “You don’t have enough experience.” “You don’t have the right experience.”—This could be literally anything. Listen carefully and write it down word-for-word.

Evaluate whether this story is empowering. Is it enabling you to accomplish the outcomes you want or is it preventing you from doing so? Be honest. (Sometimes, people are addicted to their problems and the stories that create them.)

Write down a different story. I’m not talking about a bunch of positive thinking mumbo jumbo. I am talking about telling yourself the truth. And often, this is simply a matter of shifting your perspective.

-Start telling yourself the new story. Every time your inner narrator begins telling the old yarn, stop him. Say, “No! That’s baloney. Here’s the truth.” Then repeat your new story.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.

with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one

word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and

they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images

with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and

references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

Bonus Book suggestion

Change Your Story, Change Your Life: A Path to Success -by Jen Grisanti

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Just breathe….

Did you know that 70% of the toxins inside of your body are removed through the lungs? Breath is an essential element to life, and yet today we’re using less and less of our lung capacity. Think about it. When you’re stressed is your breath deep or shallow? You’d be surprised how often we hold our breath!

Breath is the key to physical and mental well-being, and if done properly, it can boost energy, relieve pain, and transform our lives.

To maintain your body’s optimal health, your cells must be oxygenated through proper breathing. Learn how to breathe properly by using this exercise.

Take 10 “power breaths” three times a day in the following ratio:

From Tonyrobbins.com

6 Guidelines for Creative Visualization

From tut.com- Mike Dooley

Here are the six visualizing guidelines that I personally follow when I visualize that allow me to get into the details. They’re not rules. You can come up with your own and develop your own patterns and habits. For me, these are what work and I’ve got some rationale behind each that I’ll share, but I don’t want you to think that these are rules. I’m always making exceptions to them and so can you. This exercise is simply based upon our thoughts becoming things, which is really the only “rule” there is.

1. Visualize once a day. Once a day is all that’s necessary. Of course, you can think happy thoughts on your way to work, or falling asleep at night, and you might even visualize a second or third time every now and then, but overall let this be an exercise that you do one time each day and then let it go. I’ve met too many people who’ve never visualized before in their life, yet suddenly they read or hear about visualizing, get very excited, and then want to do it forty-seven times a day! If you go overboard, thinking that if once is good a hundred times must be better, chances are you’re going to start comparing your champagne and caviar dreamed-of-life with where you now are and become overwhelmed with the disparity and the distance that it seems that you have to travel. You may even become discouraged to the point of quitting visualization altogether. Moreover, you’re constantly and perpetually living in some future world and you’re going to miss out on who you already are and all you already have. Don’t do that to yourself. Do it once a day and let it go.

2. Visualize no longer than five to ten minutes at a time. If you try to visualize longer, no matter who you are, you’re going to start day-dreaming…probably about sex! Or something else equally distracting. And then you’re going to get mad at yourself. You’ll label yourself, thinking you must have adult ADD. You’ll then draw the false conclusion that visualizing doesn’t work for you. It does work for you and it’s easy, just cut it off at no more than five or ten minutes. I visualize every morning before work for just four minutes.

3. Imagine every conceivable detail. Playfully create imaginative, elaborate scenes in your mind’s eye that depict your changed life. Imagine the sights, sounds, colors, textures, and aromas. Make the image in your mind as real and vivid as possible. Of course, I’m not talking about attaching to those details. Just use them to get excited about all the amazing changes that will soon be happening in your life. This how the details are valuable—priceless, even.

4. Feel the emotion. Feel what you’d expect to feel, experiencing the life you dream of experiencing. Feel the joy, the confidence, the satisfaction. No matter how silly it seems in that dark and quiet room when you’re shouting “whoo-hoo-hoo-hoo,” do it! How badly do you want what you want? Chances are you want it bad enough to feel a little silly, to get a little “stupid” in the dark quiet privacy of your own home when you’re visualizing. Emotion is truly the turbo-charger of change; it’s as if our emotions supercharge the thoughts associated with them and that extra charge gives them power over your other competing (or sometimes contradictory) thoughts, drawing circumstances into your path that facilitate your big dream’s manifestation. I tell anybody who wants to bring about major life changes that they should begin with a visualization program; however, I tell anyone who wants to bring about major life changes quickly to visualize with emotion. I’m actually told by many audience members that they aren’t able to imagine details. They tell me their mind doesn’t go there and they even wonder what it is everyone else is seeing. If this is you, perhaps you’re even at an advantage because the most important thing anyone can put in their mental imagery are not the physical details, but the emotional ones. Drop all of the physical details, and just feel the joy, which truly cuts to the chase, bypassing all cursed hows, giving the Universe maximum latitude to work out the details that will bring that smile to your face, the way you put it out there when you visualized.

5. Put yourself in the picture. You’ve got to be there, in the picture, if you want your manifestation to include you. For example, let’s just say one of the details you’re visualizing is a new car. Right before you close your eyes, look at the back of your hands. Your hands are different than anybody else’s: your fingers, finger nails, the hairs, wrinkles, and even the rings you wear are unique. Visualize your hands in your mind’s eye wrapping around the steering wheel of whatever it is that you most want to be driving. This was confirmed beyond doubt by someone who wrote me saying, “Mike, I’m having trouble visualizing. I want that new Volkswagen Beetle, retro-design, sapphire blue!” And of course I replied to her that this is not asking the Universe for too much; you know, there are a lot of those out there, you can have it, visualizing shouldn’t be hard. “Mike, you don’t understand. I was recently involved in a traffic accident…” Unh-oh, I thought. “I was rear-ended…by a sapphire blue, retro-design Volkswagen Beetle.” Ah-ha! “And, Mike, that’s just the half it…this morning…” (I could almost hear her crying between the words) “I watched my neighbor drive to work in her brand new, sapphire blue, retro-design Volkswagen Beetle!” The moral of this story? Put yourself in the picture. And for that matter, while we’re at it, include happy, smiling pictures of yourself on your vision board and scrap book! Feel your toes in the sand at the beach, or feel your hand in the palm of another as you walk together on a moonlit night. Smell the aromas of the scene you’re imagining, perhaps the salt in the air or the smoke from the fireplace. And of course, again, feel the joy. Emotions are powerful for yet another reason, as they automatically put you in the picture.

6. Dwell from the end results—or beyond. This is just one more way to say what I’ve already said many times: do not mess with the cursed hows. When visualizing go to the finished, completed picture—your dream already come true. Do not visualize how it will come true! The cursed hows are the banes of our primitive existence. Yet we’ve all been told since we could crawl that we should mess with the hows, that we’re irresponsible and reckless if we don’t. The truth of the matter, however, is that messing with the hows is what slows us down, tying the hands of the Universe and leading us to think that we must carry the weight of the world upon our shoulders. Incidentally, should you be wondering how it’s possible to take action while not messing with the cursed hows, that is addressed specifically in chapter four. For now, we’re talking about visualizing, and when you do this don’t even think about thinking about anything else. –

See more at: http://www.tut.com/article/details/12-6-guidelines-for-creative-visualization/?articleId=12#sthash.ABaHhdrH.pIGtxz9w.dpuf

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