Monthly Archives: May 2014

Facts of the Matter: Happiness

Here’s a great short article with things we already know and some new ideas on happiness

MONEY MIGHT buy happiness: New research found that the richer people are, the happier they are; there were zero unhappy millionaires in the study. Happiness correlates with living with others, renting, and better health, but not with the weather. Urban green space boosts happiness, as does listening to an upbeat song (but only if you know that you’re trying to lift your mood). Slackers are happier at work than their higher-performing colleagues. People are more likely to overeat when they are happy. Happy people sleep better, but only those who are consistently happy. Parents are happier watching TV or doing housework than being with their children. In a study from the University of Canterbury in New Zealand, people rated sex and partying as the activities that made them happiest. (Facebook came in second-to-last, ahead of being sick.)

ʼTIS BETTER to give than to receive: People report being happier when they spend money on others than on themselves, and acts of kindness boost moods (but not if you perform the same act too frequently). No matter how much you have, regularly recording what you’re grateful for in a gratitude journal is linked with increased life satisfaction, higher energy, and improved health. Variety may be the spice of life, but people are happier if they have their favorite doughnut every time they go to the bakery, as long as the visits are spaced out.

GENETICS ACCOUNT for 50 percent of happiness, life circumstances for 10 percent, and daily thoughts and actions for 40 percent. In comparisons of brain activity in the right and left prefrontal areas, happy people have a higher ratio of activity in their left prefrontal cortex, while those prone to anxiety and depression have more activity in their right. Neuroscience suggests that we all have a happiness “set point,” or typical mood range. Data show that big life events, such as winning the lottery or being in a major car accident, do not influence this point. But it can be changed by meditating about kindness and compassion for half an hour a day; scientists hypothesize that this strengthens neurons in the left prefrontal cortex.

THE TINY Himalayan nation of Bhutan measures its residents’ happiness based on 124 variables to arrive at the Gross National Happiness Index. In a 2010 survey, 40.9 percent of the country’s people attained “deeply happy” or “extensively happy” status. A British researcher ranked Bhutan, which is one of the poorest countries globally, the eighth happiest in the world. The United States ranked 23rd. France, Great Britain, and Canada also have measures of happiness in their official statistics. In 2011, the United Nations adopted a resolution, introduced by Bhutan, to take steps to make happiness and well-being more important when measuring economic and social development. – Diana Schoberg


Frey Freyday-Distractions

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

You can always find a distraction if you’re looking for one.-Tom Kite

Sometimes, I think if you get away from what you’re called to do, it’s more of a distraction.-Joel Osteen

Skip the religion and politics, head straight to the compassion. Everything else is a distraction.- Talib Kweli

Multi-tasking arises out of distraction itself.-Marilyn vos Savant

When there are thoughts, it is distraction: when there are no thoughts, it is meditation.-Ramanal Maharshi

I set a goal for myself everyday when I write – 10 pages a day – and it’s much harder because I’m too dumb to turn off my Twitter and everything so it’s always on and it’s a real distraction. It’s a major distraction.-R. L. Stine

By prevailing over all obstacles and distractions, one may unfailingly arrive at his chosen goal or destination.-Christopher Columbus

Work is hard. Distractions are plentiful. And time is short.-Adam Hochschild

If you dream of something worth doing and then simply go to work on it and don’t think anything of personalities, or emotional conflicts, or of money, or of family distractions; it is amazing how quickly you get through those 5,000 steps.-Edwin Land

One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.-Daniel Goleman

Happiness can only be found if you can free yourself of all other distractions.-Saul Bellow

Set your agenda each day or the world will do it for you. Don’t decide on your next move based on the demands of your inbox but on the direction of your dreams. –Brendon Burchard

It took me forever to assemble this week’s quotes, I kept getting distracted.-Jim Frey



Your Brain at Work: Strategies for Overcoming Distraction, Regaining Focus, and Working Smarter All Day Long by David Rock

Get off the bench….

Here is a simple but great one from Tony…..TOny1




Frey Freyday- Truth

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)
There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.-Buddha

Everything we hear is an opinon, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.- Marcus Aurelius

A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on.-Winston Churchill

I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.-Martin Luther King, Jr.

Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth.-Mahatma Gandhi

In a time of universal deceit – telling the truth is a revolutionary act.-George Orwell

All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third,
it is accepted as being self-evident.-Arthur Schopenhauer

There’s a world of difference between truth and facts. Facts can obscure the truth.-Maya Angelou

The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.-Robert H. Schuller

Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth.-Henry David Thoreau

All fixed set patterns are incapable of adaptability or pliability. The truth is outside of all fixed patterns.-Bruce Lee

A lot of truth is said in jest.-Eminem

Truth will always be truth, regardless of lack of understanding, disbelief or ignorance.-W. Clement Stone

Seek not greatness, but seek truth and you will find both.-Horace Mann

The inner vision that says yes to life and is open to all possibilities impels you to look about with a more intense vision, to anticipate things working out, and to jump on even the slightest omen that indicates you’re being guided. This is all about alignment; this is your Truth. – Wayne Dyer

All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.-Galileo Galilei

Tell the children the truth.-Bob Marley

How do you approach the day?

I feel alive today because today is a blessing.
In this moment, I can find misery or meaning, boredom or motivation.
I can expand the hatred in the world, or I can amplify love.
In all the chaos, I can find stillness and joy within.
All is well, and nothing has to happen to “give” me more happiness in life.
I simply choose to be happy now, to be grateful now, to be a source of love and light for others.
I am whole. I am ready. This is my day.

– Brendon Burchard – Live. Love. Matter.

Stairway to Success

a Re-blog from by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Stairway to Success

4/29/14 at 10:09 am –
by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Below is an excerpt from my memoir, I Can See Clearly Now:

It is April 1976, and I’m renting a house on Kime Avenue in West Babylon, New York. I’m continuing with my busy private counseling practice, along with my professional teaching duties at St. John’s University. I am also 100 percent determined that I’ll bring the message of Your Erroneous Zones to the world.

I’ve purchased 2,000 copies, which represents approximately one-third of the entire first printing, directly from the publisher. A few blocks from my home I’ve noticed a radio station’s call letters on the building: WBAB. I have no idea what kind of a format this station broadcasts, so I walk over one Friday afternoon and give the receptionist a copy of Your Erroneous Zones. I tell her I’ve just published this book, I live a couple of blocks away, and if they’re ever interested in interviewing a local author, I’d be delighted to be a guest on their station.

The next day I receive a call from the station manager, who had seen my book with my phone number on the receptionist’s desk. I am invited to be on the air that same day, as a guest they’d scheduled had suddenly canceled. I immediately accept.

That Saturday morning I spend a delightful hour being interviewed by a local disc jockey. It’s my first appearance on any media and I’m hooked. We take a few phone calls, and I talk off-the-cuff about my commonsense approach to creating a joyful life. The phones light up—all incoming lines are full, and every caller wants to know where they can buy the book. I give the address of a local bookstore in Huntington, which I drive to as soon as the radio show ends. I ask the manager to take ten books on consignment from me, since the book hasn’t been shipped from my publisher yet. The manager agrees—and I am now a writer, and a distributor as well! Within three days, this store has sold the ten books. I alert my publisher to make sure that the stores on Long Island are fully stocked, since I’ll be on WBAB regularly now.

I’ve discovered my own marketing scheme: I can voluntarily visit small radio stations, do interviews, and generate interest in my book. My publisher is not nearly as excited about the marketing and promotion of Your Erroneous Zones as I am, but I am bubbling over with enthusiasm. After my WBAB interview I can see myself doing precisely the same thing, not just here on Long Island, but all over the country as well. The possibilities seem to me unlimited. I feel myself being pulled in a new direction. I will have to extricate myself from so many of the obligations I have to clients in my growing practice and particularly my responsibilities as an associate professor at the university.

On Monday, April 5, I arrive at Schreiber High School in Port Washington to give my weekly lecture. The audience has been briefed that my book will be available for sale after the talk, and my wife and I unload 500 copies from our car. The place is jam-packed—more than 1,200 people have shown up, and we sell all 500 copies almost immediately. I am beyond flabbergasted! There’s something very exciting happening—I know I am on to something phenomenal.

The words I am a teacher flash across my inner screen. I can do this on my own. I can take total responsibility for all aspects of this enterprise. I can become my own bookstore if need be. I can market myself if the marketing division is not on board. I can distribute my own book. And most significantly, I can create the enthusiasm in potential buyers—not by selling my book, but by loving what I’m saying and selling that love. If they like what I’m saying, and if they like me, the person speaking, they will automatically want to purchase what I have written.

I Can See Clearly Now

The inner vision that says yes to life and is open to all possibilities impels you to look about with a more intense vision, to anticipate things working out, and to jump on even the slightest omen that indicates you’re being guided. This is all about alignment, which I’ve written about extensively in the years since Your Erroneous Zones was first published. I didn’t know it at the time, but by holding firm to an inner picture, I was aligning myself with the one Divine mind—of which I’m a fragment—and allowing this great Tao to offer up experiences in the physical world that matched up to my own Divine destiny.

Once I began to pay closer attention, I could see the magical synchronicities manifesting. At that time I attributed it to good luck or bizarre coincidence. Now I can see more clearly and I know better. I must have walked by that WBAB sign a thousand times before I looked at it with new, more awakened eyes. The teacher was always right there, but it took my new alignment to now view it as a golden opportunity.

I was guided to knock on that door, and there was an invisible connection between myself, the receptionist, the station manager, the guest who canceled, the people who were involved in that guest needing to cancel, the disc jockey, and on and on into infinity. The same holds true for all of the people involved in bringing me to station WMCA and everything else that is taking place in my life right up until this moment.

The key to my seeing more clearly is alignment. By maintaining a burning desire with an image that’s like an inner flame that is impervious to any distractions, I began to look outward at every circumstance as an omen. It wasn’t luck that pushed me then; it was my willingness to hold on to an inner vision until it became an intention—and then to humbly follow my instincts and say yes to every break that came along. By being active and fearless, I was allowing doors to open that would have remained locked or, worse yet, unnoticed.

I’ve always loved the film Coal Miner’s Daughter, the story of Loretta Lynn, the country singer from Butcher Hollow, Kentucky, becoming a legend. She went from radio station to radio station tirelessly hawking her recordings in hopes of just getting one played on the air. And I love my friend Joe Girard’s well-known quote, which I have lived by myself: “The elevator to success is out of order. You’ll have to use the stairs . . . one step at a time.”

I am grateful for having had the inner knowing to be willing to take that first step.