Monthly Archives: June 2013
A great post from Wayne Dyer’s blog
Why the Inside Matters
I’m in the middle of what has become my annual Canada tour and it’s such a pleasure to feel all the love from my spiritual kinspeople here. I think of myself as “almost Canadian” since my parents were both born in Ontario, my father in Chatham in 1914 and my mother in Hamilton in 1916. I grew up in Detroit and Canada is part of my world. Last month I spoke at the Hay House I Can Do It Conference in Vancouver—wonderful and beautiful as always. And on June 29, I’ll be speaking at the Hay House I Can Do It Conference in Toronto. It’s the weekend before Canada Day on July 1 so maybe we’ll have some early fireworks to enjoy.
I have some great Canada stories, like the time I got lost in Vancouver’s Stanley Park and instead of my usual six miles ended up running a marathon before I found my way out! Lately, I’ve been sharing one of my favorite Toronto experiences with my audiences. It happened several years ago when an unsuspecting young man helped me illustrate an eternal truth we all need to be reminded of:
I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting in the front row.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“No!” he laughed.
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point. “Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
I nodded. “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”
It’s one of the great lessons of life. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.
Thanks, my young friend, and here’s an orange for you!
First, Happy Father’s Day!
I lost my dad in 2009. He was a great dad.
Growing up, many of my friends liked him because he joked around, remembered their names, and was friendly. I was sometimes embarrassed by my dad then and thought he talked too much. Now that I’m a father, I strive to be like him. I am sometimes a bit silly with my daughters’ friends and I like to play jokes on them. I try to smile a lot like my father did. I’m sure my daughters get embarrassed by me now and then, but that’s OK.
I had the opportunity to work with my dad in a family business. We also traveled together on business trips. Looking back, I really feel fortunate for having done this with him. I gained so much. Years later having worked in many other business environments with many other managers, I know that my dad was giving, gracious, helpful and good boss. In life and in business, my dad gave me some guidance but also gave independence so that I would learn on my own, even if it meant having failures or mistakes come my way. He made his own mistakes and took risk, and he shared many of those lessons with me.
I look back and shake my head at those times I was embarrassed by him, times that I was impatient or angry at him. I used to feel sorry for myself because everyone always asked about my dad and not about me. My ego got in the way. I often felt that his ‘shoes were hard to fill’ and I felt inadequate in his shadow.
Today I just miss having him around.
The other day I saw someone cutting down a tree with a chainsaw. The saw dust, sound and smell triggered a moment when my father and I were cutting down a tree one hot summer day, years ago. The saw dust was sticking to our sweaty arms and we were moving the logs and branches around. I think we polished the evening off with a cold, refreshing iced tea and a nice walk with our dog Greta down the road we lived on, which was lined by large Scotch Pine trees. There was a gentle whisper as the warm summer breeze blew through the pine branches. I was glad that I was in the moment then. I try to be in the moment now with my own daughters; you never know what or which memory will stick with you.
If your dad is still around, tell him how you really feel and share a good memory with him, then go create a new one with him.
If your dad is gone, give thanks and share a good memory with someone else, and then go create a new one with someone you care about.
Dad taught me everything I know. Unfortunately, he didn’t teach me everything he knows.
To a father growing old nothing is dearer than a daughter.
It doesn’t matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.
(Simple Stuff is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)
Being in the right place at the right time, isn’t something you can force. It just happens when you keep busy. Effortlessly. Imagine that, The Universe (www.tut.com)
“Everything that happens in your life— both what you’re thrilled with and what you’re challenged by— began with a decision. I believe that it’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. The decisions that you’re making right now, every day, will shape how you feel today as well as who you’re going to become in the nineties and beyond.” —Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within, p. 32-33
Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. Buddha
“A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.” – Nelson Mandela
“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea how other people should lead their lives but none about his or her own.” – The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
It’s not the dazzling voice that makes a singer. Or clever stories that make a writer. And it’s not piles of money that make a tycoon.
It’s having a dream and wanting to live it so greatly that one would rather move with it and “fail” than succeed in another realm. Michael Dooley
I mentioned in another post that I am reading Deepak Chopra’s book “Twenty Spiritual Lessons for Creating the Life You Want”
It is about what Chopra calls “The Wizard” in all of us – another name for the Source, Universe, God, our Self, whatever we call that ‘magical’ strength, wisdom, and power inside of us all…….The Wizard is eternal, it is essentially our Spirit that is connected to all…..
I said that I’d pass along good lessons and ideas….
…here are a few more…
“The Return of the magical can only happen with the return of innocence…..
…The essence of the wizard is transformation.”
Think about when you were young – the dreams and things you thought of as a child…..
…you could get excited and super focused about “IT” and you could spend lots of time on it – and not even know how fast time flew by….
your thoughts, actions, intentions, feelings….they were pure, right? They seemed to be true to the real you.
There was an innocence about you wasn’t there – you didn’t worry about all of the things that could go wrong – you didn’t worry about it at all, right? You just dreamed it! You just wanted to go make it happen.
As we get well into adult life, we forget and even try to abandon our child, our innocence. Often it gets away from us and we all lose touch.
We get into our everyday lives and worry and forget about living in the moment, about our dreams, our innocence.
But it only takes a moment to relax, live in the moment, look for things to enjoy, and look for something to celebrate.
Meditate, focus, relax, get centered, and remember what you love. Take time for you. Go into nature,
Take time to find the innocence, the magic inside…
(This is a re-blog from the Huffington Post’s blog – http://www.huffingtonpost.com/noah-st-john/afformations—a-new-appr_b_192629.html )
Right now, many of us are questioning ourselves: “Am I doing the right thing? What happened to my 401K? Will I have any money left by next year?”
Me too. And about a billion other people.
These questions are perfectly natural in times like this. The good news and bad news about questions is that they contain assumptions, and not all of our assumptions are even close to being true (especially now).
That’s why the wrong questions can have a disempowering effect on us, when what we really need is to be empowered.
What if you could ask an empowering question instead?
“Why do I have so much?”
Try it. Ask yourself: “Why do I have so much?”
Do you know what your brain is doing right now? Searching for a positive answer to that question!
You create your life in two ways: by the statements you say to yourself and others, and by the questions you ask yourself and others. That’s why I named it The Afformations Method. Here are the 4 steps to create empowering Afformations that change your life:
Step 1: Ask yourself what you want.
You can use a goal you’ve previously written down, or start from scratch. You decide.
Let’s use Brandon from Utah as an example. Brandon was an insurance salesman who’d spent more than $30,000 on every “how to succeed” program out there, but was still struggling financially. For his goal, he wrote: “I want to be all I can be in life.”
Now, the breakthrough step…
Step 2: Form a question that assumes that what you want is already true.
Your life is a reflection of the subconscious assumptions you make, which are often formed by disempowering questions. That’s why Step 2 of The Afformations Method is to immediately change your communication with the world inside yourself, by asking empowering (rather than disempowering) questions.
For this step, Brandon began afforming: “Why am I allowed to be, do, and have all that I really want in life?”
Step 3: Give yourself to the question.
The point of Afformations is not to find “the answer”, but to ask better questions. That’s because, when you ask better questions, your mind automatically begins to focus on what you have instead of what you lack.
Once Brandon began to afform what he wanted, his mind automatically began to search for better answers. Because of this change of focus, he started thinking about his life differently. He started to see opportunity, where before he’d only seen obstacles.
Which brings us to Step 4 of The Afformations Method — the one you must do to get optimum results…
Step 4: Take new actions based on your new assumptions about life.
Even though Brandon had spent thousands of dollars on “how to succeed” programs, he subconsciously assumed they wouldn’t work for him. So they didn’t.
After hearing about Afformations, he realized that this was the very thing keeping him from what he really wanted. So he began to take new actions based on his new Afformations.
He began calling more people. He followed up with more confidence. By focusing on what he had instead of what he lacked, positive results naturally followed.
Once Brandon followed the four steps of The Afformations Method, his sales tripled in 30 days. In less than nine months, his income increased 560 percent and he was named Agent of the Year.
When you use Afformations, you form empowering questions that immediately change your subconscious assumptions about life and your relationship to it, which naturally changes your results.
Omar, a car salesman, had been selling only one or two cars per month and making less than $400 a month in commissions. Then he heard about Afformations and started afforming, “Why am I so successful at selling cars?” In the next 2 days, Omar sold four new cars, three used ones, and earned more than $1,800 in commissions in just 48 hours.
Using Afformations, you can take conscious control of your subconscious assumptions, stop asking disempowering questions and start asking empowering ones. No matter what’s going on in the economy, now you can change the questions, change your results, and change your life.
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Noah St. John, Ph.D. is the author of The Secret Code of Success: 7 Hidden Steps to More Wealth and Happiness (HarperCollins) and inventor of The Afformations Method.
He helps people get rid of head trash and get better results faster, easier and with less effort. Read a free book excerpt at SuccessClinic.com
Paulo Coelho is a great author
Here are some of his quotes. I hope they could help you ……..
- “Travel is never a matter of money but of courage.” – Aleph.
- “It’s the possibility of having a dream come true that makes life interesting.” – The Alchemist
- “It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary.” – The Alchemist
- “If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea how other people should lead their lives but none about his or her own.” – The Alchemist.
- “In love, no one can harm anyone else; we are each of us responsible for our own feelings and cannot blame someone else for what we feel.” – Eleven Minutes.
- “Insanity is the inability to communicate your ideas…and all of us, one way or another, are insane.” – Veronika Decides to Die.
- “At a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.” – The Alchemist.
- “And better still be alone with one’s books. They tell their incredible stories at the time when you want to hear them. But when you’re talking to people, they say some things that are so strange that you don’t know how to continue the conversation.” – The Alchemist.
- “Either you make a mark on the world or the world will make a mark on you.” – The Alchemist.
- “If you can go there, you can always come back.” – The Alchemist.
- “If you start by promising what you don’t even have yet, you’ll lose your desire to work towards getting it.” – The Alchemist.
- “If you loved in the expectation of being loved in return you are wasting your time.” – The Alchemist
- “Life moves very fast It rushes you from heaven to hell in a matter of seconds.” – Eleven Minutes.
Here are some of his personal thoughts:
- “Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering.”
- “Everything that happens once can never happen again. But everything that happens twice will surely happen a third time.”
- “Life was always a matter of waiting for the right moment to act.”
- “No one can lie, no one can hide anything, when he looks directly into someone’s eyes.”
- “The wise are wise only because they love. The fools are fools only because they think they can understand love.”
- “Every blessing ignored becomes a curse.”
- “Beauty is the greatest seducer of man.”
- “I think you can have 10, 000 explanations for failure but no good explanation for success.” – Paulo Coelho.