When you’re with a group of people, how do you want to feel?
Think about it….whether it is at work or socially…..
….in most cases people want to feel important (among other things)!
When someone in your past has treated you as an important person, or someone listens to you and your thoughts, or you’re a client and they treat you like a VIP – you feel important and that feels good.
Maybe you have a friend, a teacher, a mentor – someone that truly thinks you are important and they treat you that way.
You feel pretty good right?
You feel like you’re special, like you can do things and you have more confidence.
Do you make or let others feel important?
I know a gentleman, I don’t get a chance to see him much anymore, but he always made me feel special. He listened to me and I could tell he valued what I said.
I know that he was much smarter than I was and I probably didn’t have much new to say or much to add to his knowledge on things, but he never acted that way.
I had the chance to see him out in public somewhere – a group of us had to go to the supermarket to buy food for an activity.
It was amazing, he asked a clerk where something was and he made that clerk feel special! The guy left smiling and had a spring in his step!
Later at the cashier, he made her feel special, too! She smiled to herself and looked happy doing her job.
I wish I noticed more what he said – it wasn’t much….it was a few passing words, a smile, a question or two perhaps – but the ‘special’ part was no more than 2 minutes – probably 1 minute.
Some people are born with the gift, like he was, but we all can develop it.
Think of ways that you can make others feel special each day.
At work – your boss, co-workers, your clients, your support team, etc.
At home – your spouse, your children, neighbors
In life – friends, mentors, protégés, community members
It doesn’t matter what your job or career is – whether you’re in sales, teaching, medicine, art – making others feel important will help you and help them – and help you accomplish your mission – whatever that is.
Here’s a set of good Questions of Power:
- How can I make others feel important each day?
- What things can I say or to make others feel important?
- What makes me feel important?
- Why do I feel important?
Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying, ‘Make me feel important.’ Never forget this message when working with people. – Mary Kay Ash