Frey Freyday – When No One is Looking

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

 Quality means doing it right when no one is looking. Henry Ford

Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking. H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Golf is a game of ego, but it is also a game of integrity: like life, the most important thing is you do what is right when no one is looking. Tom Watson

Do your best when no one is looking. If you do that, then you can be successful in anything that you put your mind to. Bob Cousy

WORD TO LIVE BY:

When no one is looking…. still do your best.

It was said once to me that integrity is what you do when no one is looking.

That certainly makes sense if you’re an employee at work and you’re spending your day committed to work-related things, rather than personal things. We all get that.

Then there is the integrity with our friends and loved ones. We may agree as a group to do something – maybe lose weight together- but then we sneak a donut when no one is looking.

But I think a lot of us forget about integrity to ourselves. We say that we want to accomplish a goal or that we’re committed to change or something of that sort. But then when no one is looking, we do something contrary to that – or we don’t do something to follow through and commit. Maybe it is something as simple as setting a goal. Then during a weak moment we either skip a step, don’t do something towards the goal, or we do something against the goal when no one is looking. Even though ‘we’re looking at ourselves’ we feel like we may be getting away with something because no one sees us, but we’re not being committed, honest with ourselves, we lose the integrity we have with ourselves that way. This is sometimes the toughest, and most important thing in life.

I don’t think that we need to judge ourselves or beat ourselves up when we are weak when no one is looking – I think that we just need to be aware, catch ourselves, ask why it happened and do better next time. We are human and life happens, we just need to adjust and improve.

 

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Frey Freyday – Commitment

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

The veterans of our military services have put their lives on the line to protect the freedoms that we enjoy. They have dedicated their lives to their country and deserve to be recognized for their commitment.-Judd Gregg


Individual commitment to a group effort – that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.-Vince Lombardi


Desire is the key to motivation, but it’s determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal – a commitment to excellence – that will enable you to attain the success you seek.-Mario Andretti

The only limit to your impact is your imagination and commitment.-Tony Robbins


When you’re surrounded by people who share a passionate commitment around a common purpose, anything is possible.-Howard Schultz


It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.-Zig Ziglar

You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear.-Sammy Davis, Jr.

WORDS TO LIVE BY:
com·mit·ment
 – \kə-ˈmit-mənt\-  a promise to be loyal to someone or something

Sometimes the word commitment is used lightly, I think. Someone will say, “I’m really committed” but they aren’t willing to do the hard stuff that needs to get done. Sometimes we may not have commitment to ourselves- to the dreams and ambitions we have inside because of fears, challenges or other concerns.

Relationships can be hard but they can also be rewarding. Being committed to a relationship means that you actually have to put time and effort into the relationship, you have to work at it. A wise clergy man once said to me that, in his opinion, the only reasons that he thought were excuses not to be committed were the three A’s – Adultery, Abuse, Addiction. If someone commits adultery, they chose to break their commitment first and that sort of thing can immediately ruin a relationship. Abuse of one mate by the other is not acceptable and reason for departure. Addiction is a little different if someone is trying to recover, but if one mate is trying to help the other recover from addiction but they don’t want to help themselves, then it may be reasonable to depart the relationship.

Commitment in life is also important. Simply put, when you commit, you keep working at it until you accomplish it, despite the challenges, distractions, period of time, hurdles, or other things that get in your way, including excuses. Again, many people, including myself, say, “I’m committed” but sometimes when do stop. Being committed just means that you keep going until you achieve it.

We’ve all wanted to accomplish something; start a business, reach an athletic or physical goal (run a marathon, etc.), write a book, learn to play the guitar, volunteer at that charity, whatever. Yet we didn’t….because we really weren’t committed. We had other excuses like; it was just a busy time, I have so much work to do, I had to pick up the kids, etc. etc. I do it too – we make excuses and really don’t commit to the task. Other times we have committed and succeeded at sometime despite obstacles. What was the difference?

  • You can’t have commitment AND excuses.

John Grisham used to get up very early and write his first books on a small card table in the laundry room before going to his job at a law firm, countless people get up early and run many miles in order to train for marathons each day, people take time to volunteer despite having a family and job – in other words, it is a decision and discipline to commit more than anything else. Anyone can do it.

You can be committed to excellence. This doesn’t mean that everything is perfect but you can strive to put in more effort, raise your expectations, offer a better solution, cover all the details, and improve on what you’ve always done – in school, work, relationships, and in life. Like a relationship or life school or work, there are those that just go through the motions and there are those that really focus on what they can do for the moment and how they can do their best in that moment, despite the distractions and despite the chance to do a half-baked job. Often that commitment to just a little more effort pays off big.

We’ve all done some great things in life – when was the last time you were committed to a project or relationship? We all are capable of being committed. When was the last time you were great in a relationship? When was the last time that you were committed to a project of some kind, big or small? What did you do? How did you act differently? How was that different from when you just went through the motions?

I struggle with it, we all do. Often great achievements require great efforts, that’s why not everyone achieves. Focus on those successes and moments of true commitment, however big or small.

A Challenge; Commit to something, commit to doing something better, commit to spending time on something consistently….its your decision…

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

Frey Freyday – Habits

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Habit- noun -hab·it \ˈha-bət\ –a behavior pattern acquired by frequent repetition or physiologic exposure that shows itself in regularity or increased facility of performance

Your net worth to the world is usually determined by what remains after your bad habits are subtracted from your good ones. Benjamin Franklin

Young children need to develop good habits that will be useful to them the rest of their lives. It is important to keep the lessons age-appropriate. For example, when your children start earning allowances, that would be a good time to teach them how to put some money in the bank instead of spending it all. Bill Rancic

You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I release the need for this in my life’. Wayne Dyer

When we meet real tragedy in life, we can react in two ways – either by losing hope and falling into self-destructive habits, or by using the challenge to find our inner strength. Dalai Lama

Habits change into character. Ovid

The people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits. Dan Buettner

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Habit – a seemingly small thing that can add up and either improve your life, or not.

Habits aren’t destiny. We can substitute, change and interrupt habits, we can transform our businesses, our communities, and our lives.

Habits occur every day whether we’re aware of it or not. Habits shape our beliefs, our daily accomplishments, our moods, our health, our success, our relationship – habits are like the bricks in a large building – each one builds upon the other. They may appear meaningless or small but each is part of the building. If a brick – or a habit – isn’t a good one, it can weaken the whole building.

Good habits breed good health, success, happiness, good relationships, creativity, abundance.

Habits can be changed, interrupted and replaced.

First we must be aware of the habit and identify it. We need to identify what the trigger is, the routine, the reward and the cue. Interrupt the pattern.

If you eat chips at 10pm each night, ask why you do it, what is the trigger or cue, what is the real reward?

Once you identify the habit and uncover the possible reward(s), experiment with replacing the reward(s). So next time when you go for chips at 10pm, try eating an apple, celery or something healthy. Or instead of eating, go for a late walk, exercise a little, read something interesting, or do something fun/creative – something that provides a reward to you – experiment.

Also, think about habits that you can add or change that will further your goals. Knowledge and goals are nice but without action, they are nothing. Habits are small steps in action.

What steps can you take today to move towards a goal or dream – even a little. What habits can you start that will help you reach your goal or dream?

What habits can you do each day that will help you be happier, healthier, more successful, creative? What is important to you and how can changing/building habits each day improve your life?

Take a moment to think about each little thing you do every minute or hour and think about if that improves your day and life, or if it holds you back in some way.

  • Can you exercise more? Can you spend time reading more? Can you take time to be creative in some way? Can you eat less/healthier/something else? Can you save more? Can you volunteer/contribute? Can I meditate?
  • Can I spend time asking better questions? Can I visualize my goals? Can I think of a solution to a challenge rather than just complaining? Can I be proactive? Can I reach out to a loved one in some meaningful way? Can I get up/go to bed at a better time?

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS Resource: TED Talk

http://www.ted.com/playlists/321/talks_to_form_better_habits

Habits: How they form and how to break them

https://www.npr.org/2012/03/05/147192599/habits-how-they-form-and-how-to-break-them

How Habits Work https://charlesduhigg.com/how-habits-work/

Frey Freyday- Action

 

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is

over and gone. The future is not guaranteed. – Dr. Wayne Dyer


Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define

you.-Thomas Jefferson


When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the

action steps. –Confucius

I never worry about action, but only inaction.-Winston Churchill

Action expresses priorities.-Mahatma Gandhi

Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own

future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your

creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what

you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.-Bradley Whitford

Action is the foundational key to all success.-Pablo Picasso

A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no

action, you haven’t truly decided.-Tony Robbins

An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory.-Ralph Waldo Emerson

There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of

comfortable inaction.-John F. Kennedy

Never confuse motion with action.-Benjamin Franklin
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WORD TO LIVE BY:

Action – [ak-shuh n] – the process or state of acting or of being active

I believe that action is everything. Dumb or smart. Evil or well-meaning. Good ideas are all fine and good but without action, they are nothing.

Lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough. You must take action.

Success in any field comes from taking the initiative and following up… and then persisting and taking action on a consistent basis. To be successful, we must take control of our consistent actions.

It’s not what we do once in a while that makes us who we are, but what we do consistently.

Ask yourself, “What simple action could I take today to move toward a dream or towards success in your life? “

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….


BONUS-15 Ted Talks for procrastination

http://blog.ted.com/15-ted-talks-for-procrastination/

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Frey Freyday – Hunger

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.-Les Brown

Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.-Mother Teresa

Some people are born with very little; some are fortunate enough to have it all. When I grew up, we didn’t have much. I had to hustle to get what I wanted… but I had that hunger for more. I didn’t always make the right choices, but I learned from my mistakes.-Curtis Jackson

Leaders use the emotions of hunger and drive to compel them to where they want to go. Very simply, they defy the odds—by defying their fears, limitations, and even conventional wisdom at times as well as the cultural hypnosis that leads them to accept struggle, scarcity, hopelessness and loss as unavoidable. Willing to do everything necessary to achieve their vision, leaders have set a higher standard for what they want from their lives. They have decided to step up—to take immediate action to turn their dreams into reality-Tony Robbins

I like to feel the butterflies in the stomach, I like to go home and have a restless night and wonder how I’m going to be able to accomplish this feat, get jittery. That hunger and those butterflies in the stomach are very essential for all creative people.-Amitabh Bachchan

It seems to me we can never give up longing and wishing while we are thoroughly alive. There are certain things we feel to be beautiful and good, and we must hunger after them.-George Eliot

We have a hunger of the mind which asks for knowledge of all around us, and the more we gain, the more is our desire; the more we see, the more we are capable of seeing.- Maria Mitchell

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Hunger – [huhng-ger] – (n.) a strong or compelling desire or craving: (v.) to have a strong desire.

I am speaking of the hunger in our hearts; the hunger to do better, to improve something, to improve yourself, to work harder and smarter, to help others, to keep going, to keep working.

Often when we’re young and broke we have a hunger to do better. Sometimes when we have some kind of success or money come along, we lose that hunger. We need to keep the hunger alive, keep working and making constant, incremental improvements – even if it is not for our own benefit – perhaps it is to help others or contribute.

Hunger, not desperation, is not based in fear. It is the desire for something better and the commitment to take action until one reaches a result. The journey provides great experiences, knowledge and education. The result provides satisfaction, accomplishment and growth. Essentially if we don’t have hunger we’re not growing. If we’re not growing, are we then dying?

Hunger can be for knowledge, creativity, money, business growth, helping others, expanding and improving relationships, and much more. This type of hunger keeps successful people going and growing even after they have ‘reached success’ in our society. Hunger is defined and generated by you and you alone.-

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By”(WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

……So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

 

Frey Freyday – Brave/Bold

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

BRAVE – [brāv] -ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage:

BOLD-[bōld]-of a person, action, or idea) showing an ability to take risks; confident and courageous.

I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but they whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves their conduct, will pursue their principles unto death. -Leonardo da Vinci

Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.-Indira Gandhi

We could never learn to be brave and patient, if there were only joy in the world.-Helen Keller

Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.-Paulo Coelho

People often fool themselves into the comfortable life by reasoning that taking “baby steps” are sufficient. But if we are forever taking baby steps — living life without bold steps and those chancy bets of courage that are the mark of greatness — then our character and dreams will forever languish in their infancy. To live a fully charged life, we must allow the risk and vulnerability of those great leaps into the unknown. Let us be so brave.- Brendon Burchard

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Be brave enough to live life creatively. The creative place where no one else has ever been.-Alan Alda

Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are often stiffened.-Billy Graham

Fortune and love favor the brave.-Ovid

WORDS TO LIVE BY:

Brave/Bold – someone who exhibits bravery or boldness can fully live life, they can help others, they can do well in their careers and in relationships. They can look back at their lives and know that they tried, they lived. Someone with bravery/boldness AND some compassion can evolve to the next level and help others too.

WHATEVER YOU CAN DO OR DREAM YOU CAN DO, BEGIN IT. BOLDNESS HAS GENIUS, POWER AND MAGIC IN IT!

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

This is dedicated to the men and women that have helped make and continue to keep this Country independent with their brave actions.

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Bonus: TED Talks

http://www.ted.com/playlists/268/talks_to_help_you_claim_your_i

Claim your independence

Brave, personal stories of people who make bold moves to claim a better life.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

How to have a better relationship with money

http://money.cnn.com/2018/06/22/pf/improve-your-relationship-with-money/index.html

How to have a better relationship with money

Relationships with money can be complicated.

Most of us worry about our finances, but on the spectrum of money worriers, some people ignore their financial problems, while others focus on them too much.

“Either people are avoiders and they stick their heads in the sand, or they are worriers and those tend to be the people who want all the detail, and over-plan and over-analyze everything,” said Amy Mullen, a certified financial planner and vice president of Money Quotient.

To get your money back in balance, experts offered the following tips:

Identify your money story

We all have a money story. You just might not know how it started.

Much of how we interact, manage and talk about money stems from lessons we learned (intentional and unintentional) as a child.

How parents and other role models approached money rubs off on us and influences our money decisions as an adult. It’s important to evaluate why we take a certain approach to saving, spending and investing.

“A lot of people aren’t even aware of their beliefs and how their behaviors form, and when you are not aware of these automatic behaviors, you aren’t really in a position to make a decision to change them,” said Mullen.

Set your goals

A major source of money anxiety stems from not having goals and a plan to achieve them.

Take the time to identify your goals — and get very specific, recommended Steve Martin, a certified financial planner and director at BKD Wealth Advisors

It’s not enough to want to retire early. Calculate when you want to leave the workforce and how much savings you will need to fund your desired lifestyle.

“When you have a specific goal, now it’s a math problem of how you can get from where you are now to where you want to go,” he said.

Schedule a weekly 20-minute money date

Having a little face time with your money will help foster a stronger relationship.

Sit down every week for about 20 minutes to review your checking and savings accounts, credit card balances, check in on your budget, and make any changes to help improve your finances.

“Being able to see where you are can improve your finances and be realistic with changes,” said Stephanie Genkin, a certified financial planner and founder of My Financial Planner.

Ignore the Joneses

When it comes to you and your money — three’s a crowd.

“Don’t compare yourself to others,” said Martin. “When you do that, you are chasing goals that aren’t your own and aren’t tied to what is going to make you happy.”

Make small, but effective changes

Small changes can lead to big improvements with your financial security.

“Automate savings, even if it’s a small amount to come out of your paycheck and right into a separate account,” said Genkin. “Try to participate enough in your 401(k) to get an employer match to reduce your taxable income.”

Reduce your dependency on plastic

Putting everything on your credit card can lead to overspending and a debt spiral.

But you don’t need to cut credit cards completely out of your life.

“Remove all the credit card information you have saved online,” suggested Genkin. “Take the numbers out to make it a little less convenient for you to spend.”

 

http://money.cnn.com/2018/06/22/pf/improve-your-relationship-with-money/index.html

 

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