Frey Freyday – Emotion

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.-Joel Osteen

– Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.-Gretchen Rubin

– Emotions are contagious. We’ve all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.-Daniel Goleman

– No man has the right to dictate what other men should perceive, create or produce, but all should be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative spirit.-Ansel Adams

– What you believe is very powerful. If you have toxic emotions of fear, guilt and depression, it is because you have wrong thinking, and you have wrong thinking because of wrong believing.-Joseph Prince

– Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.-Brian Tracy

– The advantage of the emotions is that they lead us astray.-Oscar Wilde

– Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge.-Plato

– When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.-Dale Carnegie

WORD TO LIVE BY emotion-[ih-moh-shuh n] /ɪˈmoʊ ʃən/ – an affectivestate of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.

Being Aware of, Using, Controlling, your emotions are something each of us can benefit from doing. Most people go through life never controlling their emotions, perhaps not even being aware of them – instead they are controlled by emotions, and they ride a draining, unsatisfying roller coaster.

It’s ok to feel an emotion – let’s say you’re scared. OK that’s a valid emotion. Be aware that you are scared. Why are you, really? Is it real or perceived? Can you change the situation? Are you being rational? Can you re-frame the situation? Can you use that fear to motivate yourself in a positive manner?

Everyone has negative emotions – it is what we do with them that determine the path of our lives. We can control how we handle an emotion even if we can’t control the situation.

I don’t recall where but recently I read that it might be helpful to think of your emotions as a garden. With that in mind, one way to ensure a great harvest from this garden is to plant seeds like love, warmth, gratitude, and appreciation —instead of seeds of desperation, disappointment, anger and fear.

  • Passion/Hunger/Desire – These are not emotions that many refer to in life. I think that we can benefit from them . Benjamin Disraeli, “man is only truly great when he acts from passion.” This can mean that passion gives us the juices, the fire or the force that wakes us up and keeps us moving at a great speed. In many ways, I think that Hunger can be one of the most important emotions ever. If you hunger to be better, to help others, to love, to do anything then that hunger keeps you going despite your age, success, status or wealth. Hunger gives you that commitment, drive, fire to make change happen.
  • Acting in a loving manner can help remove conflict, stress and other negative emotions. Think about a recent stressful situation or tense moment with another person. Did you or that person act in a loving manner? What would have happened if you just reached out or spoke in some caring manner? How can you do so in your everyday life with both strangers and those close to you? We often overlook how simple, small loving gestures can mean a lot.
  • Happiness/Joy/Cheerfulness – whatever you call it, when you’re happy, you radiate happiness. If you’re happy, you face life in a better way, you probably will attract others that are happy, and you’ll likely face challenges better. Being happy doesn’t mean you’re ignoring that challenges in life, you’re just happily moving ahead. Reality is still there but you’re OK with it. Humor is certainly part of the equation.
  • Gratitude is typically not considered an emotion. We can argue if it really is – but I challenge you – next time you’re scared, fearful, or desperate, take a breath and try to be grateful. List things in your mind, in your life, on a piece of paper. Deepak Chopra describes gratitude as an “immensely powerful force that we can use to expand our happiness, create loving relationships, and even improve our health.” If you are grateful and showing gratitude about something, then you can’t fear. It changes your focus.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By”(WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally.

……So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.

with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one

word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and

they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images

with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and

references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

How Acting “As If” Can Change Everything (Fast)

How Acting “As If” Can Change Everything (Fast)

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It was the day before New Year’s Eve 2014. I woke up in the morning to sad news: my husband’s grandfather had passed during the night. We knew this meant an unplanned road trip from New York—where we currently live—to the funeral in Texas.

Except we were flat broke.

After he told me the news, my husband said to me, “How are we going to afford this trip when we don’t have any money?” This type of question wasn’t uncommon for us. We spent a lot of time struggling financially over the years.

But something felt different that morning.

I had, at the time, been doing a lot of work around manifestation and using the law of attraction to bring my dreams to life. And one of the things that was stressed in my training was acting “as if” you already have what you want.

So I had a thought: What if we just pretend we have the money for the trip?

My response to my husband was that we needed to focus on love, not fear, and that meant we had to spend the day acting “as if” the Texas trip was already a done deal. And that’s exactly what we did.

First, we got our suitcases out and started packing. Then I made a list of everything we’d need to do in order for us to get on the road within the next 24 to 48 hours.

Since we knew we’d be driving down, my husband took the car over to our friend’s shop, to see what it would cost to do the repairs. While he did that, I got on the phone and canceled or rescheduled all of the appointments we had that week.

About an hour went by and he called to tell me the repair total: about $200. Both of us knew we didn’t have the money to cover this. But since we were acting “as if,” I told him to go ahead and do the repairs, even if that meant going negative in the bank account.

Within a couple hours of taking these actions, something beyond incredible happened. I can, without a single doubt in my mind, say that this was Universal magic in action.

I had a payment come in from a new client that I wasn’t expecting. And he paid in full. Somehow, within a few hours of making the decision to act “as if” our Texas trip was happening, I manifested $2,500—and made the trip a done deal.

Acting “as if” is a powerful manifestation tool that not enough people use. So here’s how to use it in your life:

  • Figure out what you want—Get really clear on it. Until you are clear, you can’t manifest anything.
  • Work backwards—Once you know what you want, you can work backwards to determine the actions you would have to take to get it. For example, if you want to manifest a new car, you know automatically you’ll need to do things like, decide exactly which one you want, go test drive it, look into auto financing, etc. Start taking whatever actions you can right away.
  • Play pretend—The element of magic comes in when you start pretending. Not just taking actions you know you should take, but also pretending to be the person who already has what you want. For example, what would a person who already owns the car you want be doing? How would she act? How would she feel? Playing pretend will inspire you to take actions you weren’t even considering before. As another example, whenever I want to bring new clients into my business, I act “as if” I already have the new clients. I do things, like set up their contracts and prep their course materials. Doing this brings me the clients I’m asking for every single time.Adults don’t often spend time playing or pretending, because we’re taught that those are children’s games. But playing and pretending are two of the biggest ways to start manifesting the things that you want for your life.

What actions have you taken to manifest things in your life?

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Frey Freyday – Blame (don’t blame)

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. -WAYNE DYER

The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it.-LOU HOLTZ

Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses. -GEORGE WASHINGTON CARVER

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. -JIM ROHN

A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit.-Arnold H. Glasow

– We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s almost always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change.-Katharine Hepburn

– My life motto is ‘Do my best, so that I can’t blame myself for anything.’-Magdalena Neuner

Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer. Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility for the future.-John F. Kennedy

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.-J. Michael Straczynski

Why should we think upon things that are lovely? Because thinking determines life. It is a common habit to blame life upon the environment. Environment modifies life but does not govern life. The soul is stronger than its surroundings.-William James

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Blame – [bleym] – to take or place the responsibility for

Taking 100% responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all of your experiences. If you want to be really successful, then you will have to give up blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for your life—that means all your results, both your successes and your failures. That is the prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.

If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. That means giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons why you can’t and why you haven’t up until now, and all your blaming of outside circumstances. You have to give them all up forever. You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result. For whatever reason—ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to feel safe—you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why? It doesn’t matter.

The past is the past. All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose—that’s right, it’s a choice—to act as if you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you


Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.

with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one

word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and

they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images

with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and

references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Frey Freyday – Forgive

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.-Mahatma Gandhi

Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.-Henri Nouwen

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.-Martin Luther King, Jr.

You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it.’-Maya Angelou

Forgive yourself for your faults and your mistakes and move on.-Les Brown

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. Mark Twain

WORD TO LIVE BY

Forgive – [fer-giv] – to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.

 

Forgiveness is necessary, it is a must. It is the right thing to do, for you and the person that you are forgiving. You, the person that is carrying a grudge, cannot move on or progress on that part of your life until you forgive. I advise that, as soon as possible and with sincerity, stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense and forgive them now.

Carrying around a grudge or anger is like carrying around a poison or toxin inside you. It burns you up and eats you alive. The more intense the emotion, the more damage that it can be done.

Example: I knew a relative that held a grudge against two others for 20 years. She didn’t talk to them and felt angry about something all of that time. The two never knew it, they didn’t know she was mad at all. So who lost here? The two who allegedly did something ‘bad’ never carried the guilt or remorse and just plain didn’t know. The other person carried around that anger, that weight, and that negative emotion for 20 years. She thought about it often and couldn’t move on. Had she forgiven them years ago, she could have moved on and probably enjoyed that large part of her life much more.

Want to live a long, happy life? Forgive the unforgivable. It really is the kindest thing you can do for yourself. Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain and sadness and suffering purposefully inflicted on your life, but you deserve to be free of this evil. As Ann Landers often said, “hate is like an acid. It damages the vessel in which it is stored, and destroys the vessel on which it is poured.”

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally….

…………….So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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quick question….

You are not a manager of your circumstances, you are a creator of your life.

What do you want to create?

What can you do right now to do it – or work towards it?

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