10 Scientifically Proven Ways To Stay Happy All The Time

10 Scientifically Proven Ways To Stay Happy All The Time
by Robert Locke | http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-scientifically-proven-ways-stay-happy-all-the-time.html

How do you stay happy all the time? Is it possible? Is there any proof ?
1. Exercise more
Lots of studies on this one. Exercising releases the good mood endorphins so that you are always in a better mood after a workout or simply a walk to the supermarket. I have never met a person in a bad mood after a workout! But where is the scientific evidence?
The University of Toronto did a great job on this and analyzed no less than 25 research studies. The conclusion was that physical activity can and does help to keep depression at bay.
The best study I know is where three groups of depressed people are put on a regime of anti-depressants, exercise or a combination of the two. No surprise to know that all three groups were happier, but did it last? Six months later, the group who had been treated with exercise only, had a very low relapse rate of 9%. The other two groups had relapsed and how! Their rates were ranging from 38% to 31%, so about a third of them were now depressed again.
2. Positive thinking affects your performance
“Happiness is the precursor to success.” – Shawn Achor – Sounds like pie in the sky? Well, according to Shawn Achor, if he knows everything about what factors are impinging on your happiness such as stressors, hassles, successes, economic circumstances, relationships and so on, then he can only predict 10% of your long term happiness. The remaining 90% is how you process the world around you. If happiness is on the other side of success, it is unlikely you will get there as you continually strive to get better grades, higher salaries and so on.
Positive thinking raises energy levels, creativity and productivity by as much as 30%. The secret is to use positive thinking now, rather than when you are rich and famous. Watch the video below for a very entertaining outline of this.
3. Trash your negative thoughts
Some people are overwhelmed by their negative thoughts and they have real problems in getting rid of them. A University of Madrid study found that by actually writing these thoughts down on a piece of paper and then destroying them was effective. They recommended that you either tear them up, throw them in the trash or burn them! The fact of discarding them physically does help in reducing their toxic effects. Psychologists suggest doing this on a regular basis.
4. Treasure your experiences more than your possessions
Thomas Gilovich, a psychologist at Cornell University has done quite a lot of research as to why it is better to treasure memorable and pleasant experiences rather than the material things we buy. There are many reasons for this as outlined in his study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Comparing possessions and looking at better objects after purchase can be demoralizing and ruin the initial pleasure we got when purchasing and taking possession of that new car, TV or computer.
But treasuring experiences is not nearly as destructive. They belong to us, they are special and they provide longer lasting happiness. We should always aim to visit a new place or just go trekking. Local authorities should be able to provide the facilities in towns and cities so that people may experience more enjoyable and pleasurable activities, rather than building more shopping malls.
5. Write down why you are grateful
Feeling and thinking about the things you are grateful for as you wake up is a great way to build more happiness.
Research on our brain shows that we always tend to focus on the negative things of life like those worries, tragedies, failures, and discontent. Negativity is the default position. “We’ve got this negativity bias that’s a kind of bug in the stone-age brain in the 21st century,” – Rick Hanson, neuropsychologist.
This is why we need to focus on the good and more especially, we need to hone in on what we should be grateful for. There are various ways you can do this. Here are some ideas:
When you wake up, remind yourself mentally of three things that you can be grateful for.

Some people prefer to write down three things and keep the list to remind themselves every now and again.

Express gratitude by phoning your significant other or by treating a colleague to coffee for their help with a project or task.

Try giving back by helping a person or by volunteering for a few hours a week.

But is there any scientific proof that this actually works? Check out this link to see just some of the numerous studies on gratitude.
6. Practice mindfulness
What does mindfulness mean? It just means that you concentrate and pay full attention to the present moment and accept it in a non-judgmental way. This is now becoming a popular trend in psychology and medicine. When done regularly it can boost mood, reduce stress levels, and lead to a better quality of life.
Focus on the present moment means that you can savor touch, smell and other physical sensations but also happy feelings. Concentrate on the joy they are giving you. It is really effective in forgetting about the past and not fretting about future, fearful scenarios.
But can this really make us happier and what is the scientific evidence? Watch the video where Harvard researcher Matt Killingsworth explains that we are happier when we are mindful of the moment and the least happy when the mind is wandering all over the place. He has come to this conclusion after studying 15,000 people!
7. Don’t forget your beauty sleep
When you do not get enough sleep, your negativity takes over big time. This was the conclusion researchers came to after several experiments. One of these is particularly interesting. The researchers homed in on the hippocampus which is the part of the brain which processes our positive thoughts. When we are sleep deprived, this function starts to creak and negative thoughts muscle in much more than before.
To illustrate this, researchers asked sleep deprived students to remember a list of words. They were getting a high score on all the negative words (81%) but when it came to the positive ones or neutral ones, they were only getting about 31% of these right. Dr.Robert Stickgold has conducted similar experiments on sleep and memory. Now you know why people are always in a bad mood when they do not get enough sleep.
8. Dedicate a little time to helping others
People buy bigger houses, cars and phones but it does not seem to increase their overall happiness in the long term, although it might cause a brief spike in happiness. That is short lived. Researchers have found that when we dedicate a little time or money to helping others, this has a significant effect on our own happiness.
9. Focus on the life you want to live
“The heart goes where the head takes it, and neither cares much about the whereabouts of the feet.”- Dr. Daniel Gilbert.
We often talk about winning the lottery and where we would go and above all what we would buy. We might even talk about giving to charity. But we never or rarely talk about what our state of mind would be and how much happier and carefree we would be. This is why focusing on priorities to get the life you want to live is so important.
10. Focus on your strengths
Are you curious, open-minded or brave? How are you using these strengths to improve your life and that of others? These are key questions but people who exploit their strengths rather than dwelling on their weaknesses are generally much happier.
Being able to realize our full potential through exploiting our strengths is one of the best ways of finding happiness and helping to make the world a better place.
 

Frey Freyday – Courage

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.-Steve Jobs

– I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.-Nelson Mandela

– Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.-Winston Churchill

– He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.-Muhammad Ali

– You will never do anything in this world without courage. It is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor.-Aristotle

– You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.-Eleanor Roosevelt

– Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.-John F. Kennedy

– Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.-W. Clement Stone

– Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.-Miguel Angel Ruiz

– One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.-Maya Angelou

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Courage – [kur-ij, kuhr-] – the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery.
I know people that say ‘I’m scared, therefore I have no courage.’ Everyone gets scared. It takes courage to move ahead and face the things we’re scared of….

I believe that, while knowledge and education are necessary, action takers rule the world. Action requires courage, of course. We’re all scared of failing, of rejection, of the unknown, of things outside our comfort level.

One thing that I believe some people do incorrectly is believe that they need “a bunch of courage” and to bet the farm. I think it is just as or more important to have courage to take small steps, incremental improvements each day. What can you do today to move ahead towards your goal or dream. Those little things need courage too.

Sometimes courage is required in a single moment. Like the movie We Bought a Zoo says, ‘all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage’. You can do it. Go for it. Live.

Remember, too, that the word ‘encourage’ means inspiring or supporting others with courage. Courage inspires others. Courage is contagious.

This post is dedicated to those people, those loved ones and those service men and women, that are now passed away but have inspired courage or have shown courage in their lives.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally.

……So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Bonus – From the Ted Radio Hour on npr.org – several links to great TED Talks about Courage

http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/368757408/courage?showDate=2014-12-12

Frey Freyday – Emotion

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.-Joel Osteen

– Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.-Gretchen Rubin

– Emotions are contagious. We’ve all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.-Daniel Goleman

– No man has the right to dictate what other men should perceive, create or produce, but all should be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative spirit.-Ansel Adams

– What you believe is very powerful. If you have toxic emotions of fear, guilt and depression, it is because you have wrong thinking, and you have wrong thinking because of wrong believing.-Joseph Prince

– Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.-Brian Tracy

– The advantage of the emotions is that they lead us astray.-Oscar Wilde

– Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge.-Plato

– When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.-Dale Carnegie

WORD TO LIVE BY emotion-[ih-moh-shuh n] /ɪˈmoʊ ʃən/ – an affectivestate of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.

Being Aware of, Using, Controlling, your emotions are something each of us can benefit from doing. Most people go through life never controlling their emotions, perhaps not even being aware of them – instead they are controlled by emotions, and they ride a draining, unsatisfying roller coaster.

It’s ok to feel an emotion – let’s say you’re scared. OK that’s a valid emotion. Be aware that you are scared. Why are you, really? Is it real or perceived? Can you change the situation? Are you being rational? Can you re-frame the situation? Can you use that fear to motivate yourself in a positive manner?

Everyone has negative emotions – it is what we do with them that determine the path of our lives. We can control how we handle an emotion even if we can’t control the situation.

I don’t recall where but recently I read that it might be helpful to think of your emotions as a garden. With that in mind, one way to ensure a great harvest from this garden is to plant seeds like love, warmth, gratitude, and appreciation —instead of seeds of desperation, disappointment, anger and fear.

  • Passion/Hunger/Desire – These are not emotions that many refer to in life. I think that we can benefit from them . Benjamin Disraeli, “man is only truly great when he acts from passion.” This can mean that passion gives us the juices, the fire or the force that wakes us up and keeps us moving at a great speed. In many ways, I think that Hunger can be one of the most important emotions ever. If you hunger to be better, to help others, to love, to do anything then that hunger keeps you going despite your age, success, status or wealth. Hunger gives you that commitment, drive, fire to make change happen.
  • Acting in a loving manner can help remove conflict, stress and other negative emotions. Think about a recent stressful situation or tense moment with another person. Did you or that person act in a loving manner? What would have happened if you just reached out or spoke in some caring manner? How can you do so in your everyday life with both strangers and those close to you? We often overlook how simple, small loving gestures can mean a lot.
  • Happiness/Joy/Cheerfulness – whatever you call it, when you’re happy, you radiate happiness. If you’re happy, you face life in a better way, you probably will attract others that are happy, and you’ll likely face challenges better. Being happy doesn’t mean you’re ignoring that challenges in life, you’re just happily moving ahead. Reality is still there but you’re OK with it. Humor is certainly part of the equation.
  • Gratitude is typically not considered an emotion. We can argue if it really is – but I challenge you – next time you’re scared, fearful, or desperate, take a breath and try to be grateful. List things in your mind, in your life, on a piece of paper. Deepak Chopra describes gratitude as an “immensely powerful force that we can use to expand our happiness, create loving relationships, and even improve our health.” If you are grateful and showing gratitude about something, then you can’t fear. It changes your focus.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By”(WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally.

……So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.

with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one

word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and

they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images

with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and

references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

How Acting “As If” Can Change Everything (Fast)

How Acting “As If” Can Change Everything (Fast)

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It was the day before New Year’s Eve 2014. I woke up in the morning to sad news: my husband’s grandfather had passed during the night. We knew this meant an unplanned road trip from New York—where we currently live—to the funeral in Texas.

Except we were flat broke.

After he told me the news, my husband said to me, “How are we going to afford this trip when we don’t have any money?” This type of question wasn’t uncommon for us. We spent a lot of time struggling financially over the years.

But something felt different that morning.

I had, at the time, been doing a lot of work around manifestation and using the law of attraction to bring my dreams to life. And one of the things that was stressed in my training was acting “as if” you already have what you want.

So I had a thought: What if we just pretend we have the money for the trip?

My response to my husband was that we needed to focus on love, not fear, and that meant we had to spend the day acting “as if” the Texas trip was already a done deal. And that’s exactly what we did.

First, we got our suitcases out and started packing. Then I made a list of everything we’d need to do in order for us to get on the road within the next 24 to 48 hours.

Since we knew we’d be driving down, my husband took the car over to our friend’s shop, to see what it would cost to do the repairs. While he did that, I got on the phone and canceled or rescheduled all of the appointments we had that week.

About an hour went by and he called to tell me the repair total: about $200. Both of us knew we didn’t have the money to cover this. But since we were acting “as if,” I told him to go ahead and do the repairs, even if that meant going negative in the bank account.

Within a couple hours of taking these actions, something beyond incredible happened. I can, without a single doubt in my mind, say that this was Universal magic in action.

I had a payment come in from a new client that I wasn’t expecting. And he paid in full. Somehow, within a few hours of making the decision to act “as if” our Texas trip was happening, I manifested $2,500—and made the trip a done deal.

Acting “as if” is a powerful manifestation tool that not enough people use. So here’s how to use it in your life:

  • Figure out what you want—Get really clear on it. Until you are clear, you can’t manifest anything.
  • Work backwards—Once you know what you want, you can work backwards to determine the actions you would have to take to get it. For example, if you want to manifest a new car, you know automatically you’ll need to do things like, decide exactly which one you want, go test drive it, look into auto financing, etc. Start taking whatever actions you can right away.
  • Play pretend—The element of magic comes in when you start pretending. Not just taking actions you know you should take, but also pretending to be the person who already has what you want. For example, what would a person who already owns the car you want be doing? How would she act? How would she feel? Playing pretend will inspire you to take actions you weren’t even considering before. As another example, whenever I want to bring new clients into my business, I act “as if” I already have the new clients. I do things, like set up their contracts and prep their course materials. Doing this brings me the clients I’m asking for every single time.Adults don’t often spend time playing or pretending, because we’re taught that those are children’s games. But playing and pretending are two of the biggest ways to start manifesting the things that you want for your life.

What actions have you taken to manifest things in your life?

See more at: http://www.tut.com/article/details/66-how-acting-as-if-can-change-everything-fast/?articleId=66#sthash.tlTQNW31.cHmWgmq4.dpuf

Frey Freyday – Blame (don’t blame)

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. -WAYNE DYER

The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it.-LOU HOLTZ

Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses. -GEORGE WASHINGTON CARVER

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. -JIM ROHN

A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit.-Arnold H. Glasow

– We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s almost always your fault, because if you wanted to change you’re the one who has got to change.-Katharine Hepburn

– My life motto is ‘Do my best, so that I can’t blame myself for anything.’-Magdalena Neuner

Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer. Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility for the future.-John F. Kennedy

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.-J. Michael Straczynski

Why should we think upon things that are lovely? Because thinking determines life. It is a common habit to blame life upon the environment. Environment modifies life but does not govern life. The soul is stronger than its surroundings.-William James

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Blame – [bleym] – to take or place the responsibility for

Taking 100% responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all of your experiences. If you want to be really successful, then you will have to give up blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for your life—that means all your results, both your successes and your failures. That is the prerequisite for creating a life of success. It is only by acknowledging that you have created everything up until now that you can take charge of creating the future you want.

If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. That means giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons why you can’t and why you haven’t up until now, and all your blaming of outside circumstances. You have to give them all up forever. You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result. For whatever reason—ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to feel safe—you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why? It doesn’t matter.

The past is the past. All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose—that’s right, it’s a choice—to act as if you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you


Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).

Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also

a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would

raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other

children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally,

sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc.

with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one

word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and

they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images

with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and

references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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Complement with how to have more confidence……..

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