Frey Freyday – Rejection

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

rejection -[rəˈjekSH(ə)n] –NOUN the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea,

We all learn lessons in life. Some stick, some don’t. I have always learned more from rejection and failure than from acceptance and success. Henry Rollins

The biggest hurdle is rejection. Any business you start, be ready for it. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is the successful people do all the things the unsuccessful people don’t want to do. When 10 doors are slammed in your face, go to door number 11 enthusiastically, with a smile on your face. John Paul DeJoria

I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat. Sylvester Stallone

Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions. Harvey Mackay

 WORD TO LIVE BY:
Rejection – a necessary thing that we all go through, it’s how you frame it that matters.

Some of us may think rejection is this thing that happens all the time, so what happens is that so many people guide their life based on this fear that they’re going to be rejected, so they don’t take action and don’t start new things or chase their dreams because they’re worried about what other people are going to think. It may be love, sports, business, education, whatever….

They’re going to be rejected and deemed unworthy, unlovable or not adequate in some way or another and you think, that’s so sad, because rejection, the actual form of rejection that shapes people’s identity and hurts them, happens so rarely. If you don’t believe it then that’s an internal fear, not the reality of the universe.

According to Brendon Burchard, there is some real, basic data. Brendon has traveled around the globe, well over most of the globe now, and here’s what he found out over and over again.

He always do this little simple activity where he says, ‘if you’ve ever been rejected in a way where it hurt, it actually hurt and formed and shaped your identity in a way, it was a significant hurt that you felt and it changed how you felt about yourself and what you might want to accomplish in the world. If you’ve ever felt that before would you raise your hand?’ Everyone raises their hand.

Then Brendon says, ‘if you’ve ever been rejected by, let’s say, three people, who really rejected you in that way that you were shot down, hurt and it changed who you are and what you wanted to accomplish in life. How many times has that ever happened with three people?’.. A bunch of people raise their hands again and he starts escalating that number from three, to five to seven, to ten, fifteen, twenty. and thirty.

Here’s what’s amazing. Brendon states that he has done this all over the world with audiences with thousands of people in them and here’s the average across all those audiences, all around the world, it doesn’t matter the culture. The average number is about seven.

So anywhere between five and seven, meaning, people say between five and seven people hurt their feelings enough with a real rejection, not one of those, “Well I’m sorry I can’t go out with you I’m washing my hair” stuff. I mean someone who really criticized you and rejected you in a way that it hurt. The average person says five to seven people rejected them like that.

There are some people who have more than that. I’m saying the average is five to seven and yet so many people when this is asked, how many of you are so scared of rejection that almost everyone raises their hand.

It’s like wait a second, we’re scared of something that barely ever happens?

 

If you think about it, we get rejected all the time – from when we were a baby. Rejection is a necessary way of learning, improving, making our approach better. Too often we get scared of the simple idea that we may get rejected and overlook the benefits of the experience, what we’ll learn from the rejection, the efforts, the new relationships, the new steps we’re taking, etc. – and we often lose sight that we may not get rejected at all and we may succeed. It is worth the risk.

 

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

BONUS  :

TED Talks to help you shake off rejection

Everyone faces rejection, sometimes on repeat. These speakers experienced a barrage of ‘no’s, but were able to push past the disappointment and keep on going. May their resilience inspire you.

https://www.ted.com/playlists/234/talks_to_help_you_shake_off_re

Frey Freyday – Freedom

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect,
smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

free·dom-[ˈfrēdəm] NOUN
– the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint

Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue
to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Kevyn Aucoin

A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself. Jim Morrison

The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage. Thucydides

Every human has four endowments – self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The
power to choose, to respond, to change. Stephen Covey

Money won’t create success; the freedom to make it will. Nelson Mandela

If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter. George Washington

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor
E. Frankl

Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you. Jean-Paul Sartre


Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, None but ourselves can free our minds. Bob Marley

We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among
these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Thomas Jefferson

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Freedom – we all define it differently but in so many ways…basically freedom is the ability to do what we want; to go where we want, to be what we want, to say what we want. We take many freedoms in this country for granted – free speech, the ability
to earn a living as we please, to travel where and when we want, and generally to live as we want.

 

We might feel ‘enslaved’ or trapped by a job, relationship, a situation. Maybe its freedom from a bad habit. Free from sin? Guilt? Disease? Often we discuss
financial freedom – what does that specifically mean? What have others done to get out of similar situations? Others have become ‘free’, can we follow their success? How can you be free of that thing?

 

We all want freedom – or at least we say it. Many times I know I’ve said that I wanted to be free of something so that I could really go for it. But then
I actually get a chance to really go for it and that freedom is a little scary.

 

We all say we want freedom but sometimes the security of limitations is comforting and freedom is intimidating.

 

With freedom there is growth and change. This is good for us. We are living, growing beings and growth and change is good and natural. Depending on our
perspective and how we frame it, these can be good things or things that make us uneasy.

 

What if you had freedom to do exactly what you wanted to earn a living? Would you do it?

What if you had financial freedom so that all your bills were paid – what then would you do with your time? Your life?

 

Often we believe that we’re tied to one thing or another and that we have no freedom.

Often our own beliefs limit us and take away freedom, consciously or unconsciously.

 

Did you ever take just a moment to define what freedom means to you? What does freedom look like?

How can you pursue it if you don’t define it? 

Also take a moment to distinguish between what it means for us to be
free 
from something and to be free to do
or be something.

 

Maybe freedom is just a state of mind? Like Bob Marley sings above, “None
but ourselves can free our minds”

 

Best wishes for freedom and happiness to you and yours…..

Frey Freyday was actually born
out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise
my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes
intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s
input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got
older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from…

Frey Freyday – State of Mind

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Some people, say life is hard. It is not. Some people say it’s easy. It is not.
Some say it’s lonely, tricky, or a test. It is not. Life is only a reflection, of whatever you say. What say you? The Universe (www.tut.com)

Conflict is very much a state of mind. If you’re not in that state of mind, it doesn’t bother you. -Unknown

Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.-Napoleon Hill

In words are seen the state of mind and character and disposition of the speaker.-Plutarch


A good stance and posture reflect a proper state of mind.-Morihei Ueshiba

It is not a dreamlike state, but the somehow insulated state, that a great musician achieves in a great performance. He’s aware of where he is and what he’s doing, but his mind is on the playing of the instrument with an internal sense of rightness.-Arnold Palmer


Fear seems to have many causes. Fear of loss, fear of failure, fear of being hurt, and so on, but ultimately all fear is the ego’s fear of death, of annihilation. To the ego, death is always just around the corner. In this mind-identified state, fear of death affects every aspect of your life.-Eckhart Tolle

People may hear your words, but they feel your state of mind.-John C. Maxwell


My state of mind is that if you push me towards something that you think is a weakness, then I will turn that perceived weakness into a strength.-Michael Jordan

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way, to choose one’s own state of mind.-Victor E. Frankl

Words To Live By:

state of mind –noun attitudeperspectiveoutlookapproachmooddisposition,frame of mindmindset, way of looking at things.

Your state of mind is everything.

We all face challenges, stresses, ‘challenging people’, and difficult situations

We also face unique opportunities, chances to excel, and each day we have a wide open future.

In either case, a challenging one or a great one, we can benefit greatly by being in the right state of mind.

Some say it’s peace of mind, some say you’re ‘being you’, some say you’re ‘connected’, etc.

Think about when you’re in a great state of mind. You’re connected, you’re in a zone, you’re making things happen and your performance, thought processes, feelings are all good. It sometimes seems like magic happens here.

What if you were in a great state of mind when you did your work? When you interacted with a loved one or friend or coworker? What if you took a moment to pause, relax, and shake off the initial reaction you have next time something ‘bad’ happens and you instead face it with a great state of mind?

How you stand and move affects your thoughts and attitude. Shoulders back, check back and up, head up, deep breaths and you feel confident. Shoulders and head down, shallow breathing and you’re depressed or fearful, etc. Similarly, the language and questions you use all day long affect you. Do you ask, “Why am I so lucky?” or do you ask “What’s wrong with me?”-Your brain will search for an answer to each. Do you say “I don’t know” “I don’t care” or “Whatever” a lot? Is that useful? What you focus on expands- focus on what works in your life, focus on what you want and what you can take action to reach your dreams and goals. Focus on what you are- or could be- grateful for. There are still negative things in life, hurdles, setbacks and irritating things/people but focusing on the good stuff makes life better.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from…

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Frey Freyday-Gratitude

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Gratitude – [grat-i-tood, -tyood] – the quality or feeling of being grateful or thankful:

You can’t be grateful and angry simultaneously. You can’t be fearful and be grateful simultaneously. So gratitude is really the reset button.-Unknown

Most of us never stop to consider our blessings; rather, we spend the day only thinking about our problems. But since you have to be alive to have problems, be grateful for the opportunity to have them. Bernie Siegel –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Gratitude – Give thanks for everything, big and small, good and bad.

As I look back over the past years, I’ve been downsized a few times, I’ve worked at places that were not fun, I’ve worked with people that were not ideal, and I’ve been at banks that were not very good about approving many loans.

Then I thought that I’m grateful right now; grateful to be working with nice people- I really like the team at my job, I am grateful for my family and friends, I am grateful for my health and such. I am grateful that 87 years ago today, my late father was born.

At this time of year, many of us have or know some young people that are graduating from something to another thing, and I’m grateful my youngest is moving from high school to college and I’ll soon be an ‘empty nester’. (I thought that was for old people.) I am grateful for all of that. Life isn’t perfect but I am grateful for the tough times and times like now, which seem to be good.

I know that this sort of thing has been covered in countless articles and blogs by others. In many ways we all know that giving thanks and showing gratitude makes sense and that we should do it, but many of us don’t consistently do it. It does work…..

Here is an exercise that I recently read, and something I don’t do often but hope to do more often…fyi….

“There are so many things that we take for granted. We live in a free country, we have food, shelter, education, safety, we have beauty in nature and in each other, we have so many people in this world that want to help, heal, give, teach and share. Look at your coffee cup in the morning. Someone made that cup, created it so that you could enjoy the coffee. Someone took great pain to package your coffee in a secure, healthy, clean, sanitary container. People worked years to improve the freshness and flavor.

Most of us have so many people that care for and about us….friends, family, co-workers – you’d be surprised who cares for you. Think about all of the people, strangers included, that somehow touch your life each and everyday. When we have what we call a ‘bad day’ we are often in a negative mindset or one of fear or scarcity. We are looking at, focusing on what we don’t have, what we lost, what we are lacking. It has been said that wherever there is appreciation, there will be duplication. It can be said that what we focus on expands – so if you are grateful for something, you will have more of it. If you have gratitude for challenges and ‘bad’ things in life, it helps to re-frame them. An experience that we could say is ‘bad’ can instead be thought of as experience, education, wisdom. We learned from the situation, didn’t we? We are wiser and stronger for making it through. Because of that experience, we are better people, and that’s worth being grateful. Think about it, we all have things in life that we may have considered ‘bad’ as they were happening to us. If you instead think that life is there happening for us rather than to us, and once we gain some perspective on it, we can see that that same event may in fact be a good thing for our life. When you look at a problem like that, it is no longer a ‘bad’ one. Gratitude helps us re-focus. We can’t be fearful if we’re grateful. We can’t be angry if we’re grateful. We can’t feel scarcity if we have gratitude.”

 

On this Memorial Day weekend, certainly I am glad for all those who have died while serving in the United States Armed Forces.

 

 

 

P.S. My older daughter is in Finland with a group, the Finnish word for gratitude is kiitollisuus

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

Frey Freyday – incremental

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Break any problem into, or make any changes in, small increments. Anne Grant

Whoever wants to reach a distant goal must take many small steps. Helmut Schmidt

You have to have a big vision and take very small steps to get there. You have to be humble as you execute but visionary and gigantic in terms of your aspiration. In the Internet industry, it’s not about grand innovation, it’s about a lot of little innovations: every day, every week, every month, making something a little bit better. Jason Calacanis

Incremental improvements can generate geometric growth. Tony Robbins

WORD TO LIVE BY:

Baby Steps/Little Things/Incremental improvements – effective ways to build good habits, enact change, reach goals, and build a better life.

We’ve all had some attempt at change. Often we look for the ‘sexy’ solution, the big revolutionary action that we can take, all at once, to change. It may be something to do with dieting, saving money, paying off debt, exercising, whatever.

“This week I’m not eating any carbs and I’ll eat less than 1800 calories….”

“I am going to wait until I earn that bonus and then just sock all of it away in savings.”

“From now on, I’m going to _____ for 2 hours a day, even though I never have before….”

I think maybe society encourages the big swing, the one-time hit, and our expectations are such that we think we can do something once, or maybe just a few times, and change will occur. Typically it doesn’t work.

Often if we can be aware of the issue each day, and then look to change one little thing, and just focus on that, we find that we can build momentum. Then we can increase that one thing – or add another thing.

I first tried this by just cutting back on diet soda – I used to drink too much, and it’s really not good for you at all. So first, I just reduced it by one a day. Easy. Then I reduced it to only one a day. Weeks later, I decided to only have one 2 times a week….and so on.

During that process I gained momentum and confidence, and I decided to add in another habit. I decided to replace the diet soda with an apple – so when I had the urge for a soda, I grabbed an apple. That continued. Later I decided to also add some exercise, etc. etc.

Small incremental changes can be unexciting and unemotional….almost boring. That is both the weakness and the strength of it. Maybe we won’t get all excited but maybe we won’t skip it when things get tough.

Let’s say you want to write a book. You can try to spend a whole weekend starting it in a marathon session. Chances are that even if you do that, it may be a while before you get back to it and consistently add to the book. More often successful authors spend time each day; maybe a period of time or a set number of pages, not an overwhelming amount….they know that they have to write some, not a lot. It is manageable and they can do it, then move on. The task isn’t so large that one avoids it. It is a small incremental step of words and pages, and pretty soon you have a book.

A continual improvement process, also often called a continuous improvement process (abbreviated as CIP or CI), is an ongoing effort to improve products, services, habits, or processes. These efforts can seek “incremental” improvement over time or “breakthrough” improvement all at once.

Kaizen is a term that states, “Improvements are based on many small changes rather than the radical changes.”

We all know that we have habits – maybe coffee in the morning, for instance. We do these things almost without thinking. What if you added, or replaced, a habit with a small incremental item that made something better. What if you created a habit that provided constant and never ending improvements?

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

Frey Freyday – Thought

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

  Thought-[THôt]-NOUN-an idea or opinion produced by thinking, or occurring suddenly in the mind.

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. Willie Nelson

A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes. Mahatma Gandhi

Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live! Bob Marley

The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. Confucius

Our life is what our thoughts make it. Marcus Aurelius

If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. Peace Pilgrim

WORD TO LIVE BY:
Thoughts – something that we can control, something that affects and influences our attitude, habits, beliefs, identity and more.

Everything in your life right now once started as just a thought, a desired, and inspired moment.

They say that we have as much as, or more, than 60,000 thoughts each day.

We have the power to control, change and improve our thoughts each day.

Thinking about what you want, think about your goals, think about action steps that you can take now towards that.

(avoid thinking about what you Don’t want!)

This also goes for feelings! – if you want to feel relaxed (not stressed), feel inspired (not frustrated), feel happy (not down) then spend time each day thinking about that simple goal, and what you can do to get there. Avoid thinking about the negative feelings. What you focus on expands.

The simple act of thinking about goals, writing it down, repeating it, focusing on it will help.

We can prime ourselves – studies show that if you look at and focus on certain things, later on you’ll ‘see more’ of that stuff and typically you’ll act with that stuff in mind.

So prime yourself the Right way. (We prime ourselves each day no matter what with the news, social media, etc. – often in a bad way with gloomy/negative news, etc. Take control)

In our daily lives we can’t control much; other people, weather, the economy, the news, etc. – but we CAN control our thoughts – and our thoughts influence our day, our beliefs, our habits, our identity.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

BONUS  :  TED TALK: In an exclusive preview of his book <i>The Stuff of Thought</i>, Steven Pinker looks at language and how it expresses what goes on in our minds — and how the words we choose communicate much more than we realize.

https://www.ted.com/talks/steven_pinker_on_language_and_thoughtWTLB book image

Frey Freyday – Advice and Wisdom

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Good advice is always certain to be ignored, but that’s no reason not to give it. Agatha Christie

To profit from good advice requires more wisdom than to give it. Wilson Mizner

My mother gave lots of good advice and had a lot to say. As you get older, you realize everything she said was true. Lenny Kravitz

Good advice is something a man gives when he is too old to set a bad example. Francois de La Rochefoucauld

To think well and to consent to obey someone giving good advice are the same thing. Herodotus

 WORD TO LIVE BY:

 Good advice and wisdom – the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the quality of being wise

While watching a documentary on Warren Buffett, I heard Warren Buffett’s son, Howard, say something that reminded of a piece of advice that I believe is universal and applicable to all of us at any age.

I have tried to offer this advice to my daughters, to a friend, and frankly I try to remind myself at least once a year….

Listen, no matter what weaknesses you may think you have, you have some talents, some strengths, some unique ‘things’ that you can contribute to others and ‘stuff’ with which you can build a nice life. You may be bright, talented, you may have a great personality, people like to be with you, you mayhave a sense of humor, you probably are a hard worker, and you have a huge potential- probably more than you realize. In many ways, we all easily forget that the future is open wide.

As I’ve tried to explain to my daughters, as I try to remind myself; make sure about one thing; Define the life that you want. Create a vision for YOUR life. Only you can find that. You’ll get feedback, good and bad, from friends, family, society, even parent. Some of those people only know their own world. Some are fearful and protective of you. Some of us may not even understand your vision. But ultimately it is you who will live your life and you are the one who will live with the consequences, good or bad. (by the way, it is never too late to create a vision for your life!)

Whether you live by someone else’s rules and expectations, or whether you create your own vision and follow your own path, someday you’ll be older and look back upon your life. At that point you will either be very satisfied with your life or partially or completely dissatisfied. I’m not super old but when I look back, there are choices that I made because I worried what other people thought – and I’m not totally satisfied with those things. There are other choices where I am satisfied and I feel at peace. A large number of people in the world look back on their lives with regret because they did (or didn’t) do something because of someone’s opinion/ideas/whatever.

Also, another great piece of advice; In baseball, perfection is referred to as batting 1000. I don’t expect anyone to, or want you to try to bat 1000. No one should expect to be perfect – in fact I hope that more of us do fail a little, and what I mean by that I hope that more of us are willing to take chances! Take sensible risks! You can’t satisfy everyone, so that’s futile. Take risks and don’t be afraid to fail and you will learn and grow in your failures more than most of your successes. Be at peace with making a mistake, be at peace with taking a risk, be at peace with others disagreeing with you and let go of the concern of others opinions. I try to remember that each day.

If you think about what humans can do and be, if we’re bold and focuses, it is exciting.

With love,

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

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