you will succeed if you do this…

You will ‘inevitably succeed’ if you follow these 5 steps

Billionaire Ray Dalio has built the largest hedge fund in the world. Bridgewater Associates has $160 billion in assets under management. And according to Dalio, there is a five-step formula to guarantee success.

Here are the five steps, with descriptions by Dalio, as told to Recode executive editor Kara Swisher on her podcast, Recode Decode.

  1. Set goals. “You have to have your audacious goals.”
  2. Notice your mistakes. “As you go to those, you are going to encounter your failures, your mistakes. You have to identify those and not tolerate them.”
  3. Understand why you are making those mistakes. “You have to get the diagnosis to the root cause of them, which could be that you have a weakness or somebody has a weakness.”
  4. Fix your mistakes. “You have to design what you are going to do about it to get around it.”
  5. Persevere. “You have to push through to results”

“And if you keep doing that over and over again, you will inevitably succeed,” says Dalio, 68. “You do it over and over again because you have determination — you will inevitably succeed.”

Source: cnbc.com

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Frey Freyday – Potential

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

potential-adjective po·ten·tial \ pə-ˈten(t)-shəl \ -existing in possibility :capable of development into actuality

A word of encouragement from a teacher to a child can change a life. A word of encouragement from a spouse can save a marriage. A word of encouragement from a leader can inspire a person to reach her potential. John C. Maxwell –

Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit. We are all the same in this notion: The potential for greatness lives within each of us. Wilma Rudolph –

With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world. Dalai Lama –

Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential. Bruce Lee –

Everybody has a creative potential and from the moment you can express this creative potential, you can start changing the world. Paulo Coelho –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

POTENTIAL – talents, gifts, and good stuff that all of us have inside of us, ready to go, ready to be shared, ready to benefit the world.

I was traveling this week out of state. I had multiple items to mail, some personal notes, birthday notes, etc…..and sometimes when I travel to a different town, I’ll mail things from there so it has a different postmark, for those who notice the details.

I put the mail in my backpack and carried it to and from my destination. When I arrived home in Pittsburgh airport, I still had the mail. I finally mailed it with Pittsburgh’s boring postmark on the way home.

Simultaneously, I was having thoughts about some things I wanted to accomplish in life. I feel that I have some talents inside me and I want to get busy doing these things. Many of us want to do things; write a book, take a class, help others, and generally use our talents in some way or another.

I thought that it was simple metaphor – I was carrying around this mail in my backpack and no one, including me, would benefit from the notes and messages in the envelopes until I mailed them. There were times that I thought about the envelopes, and other times that I didn’t.

Similarly, we all carry around talents – potential – inside of us. Sometimes we are aware of what we can offer, sometimes these are hidden talents. In either case, like the envelopes full of good stuff, if we don’t put our talents out there, if we don’t exercise our potential, our brilliant, creative talents may just be a simple old ordinary envelope.

About a week ago, there was a guy sitting behind me talking to his friends, I didn’t know him. He was talking a lot! But he was talking and talking about all of the talents he had and how he was naturally good at this or that. But it became clear in his conversation that he wasn’t using these talents, he wasn’t using his potential.

In my mind, I was casting judgement on him, judging him that he wasn’t using his talents, that he was just talking about it. But I’m the same way with certain things, we all are. We all have at least one or two things that we know that we can do, that we may even know that we’re called to do, but we’re ‘just too busy’ or ‘will do later in life’ or something else like that.

I had a revelation one Saturday morning; I woke up early, lying in bed in a hypnopopic state, sort of half away, half asleep. I was thinking about something I wanted to accomplish for many years and thought, I’ll do that later in life. Then I woke up suddenly and thought about how long I’ve been telling myself that. I think it has been over ten years, in reference to this one item. I’ve been putting myself off for over 10 years! I wouldn’t accept that from my boss, my friends or a stranger but I’ve allowed me to do that to me. Sometimes we have to take a stand, make a decision and take a step.

Let’s go out and ‘mail’ our talents and potential. Let the world, let us see what we can really do, what we really have inside.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

 

Frey Freyday – Progress/Improve

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

im·prove -[imˈpro͞ov] –VERB make or become better:

There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. Ernest Hemingway

What you do today can improve all your tomorrows. Ralph Marston –

We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. Bill Gates –

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often. Winston Churchill –

Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning. Benjamin Franklin –

The power to question is the basis of all human progress. Indira Gandhi –

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. George Bernard Shaw –

Our ambition should be to rule ourselves, the true kingdom for each one of us; and true progress is to know more, and be more, and to do more. Oscar Wilde –

WORDS TO LIVE BY:

Progress and/or Improvement – something we all need to do; both incrementally and when possible, in large steps.

I think Tony Robbins said that most people tend to overestimate what they can accomplish in one year but underestimate what they can do over 10 years, and I paraphrase.

In other words, we truly have the ability to improve and make our situations, our selves better. Speaking for myself, I used to look more for the ‘big step’ where I could make one big change and improve myself a lot at once.

As I became ‘wiser’ I now understand that the small incremental changes; the little habits and things that we do each and every day have huge repercussions in our lives – changing something little each day can change your destiny. As corny as that may sound, it is true.

I also think that we need to think of progress with only ‘us’ in mind. In other words, progress and improvement isn’t about me and other people, it is about me today and me yesterday. If I can improve something about me versus the old me, that’s great. We should not be comparing ourselves to others or , “we will become vain and bitter.” (Desiderata by Max Ehrmann)

Personally, I often think, and I mean a few times a day at least, ‘how can I make this better’. I’ve learned that it isn’t always good to ask that in every situation or relationship. Sometimes it is best to just live in the moment, enjoy what we have, be grateful, and accept the present. I’ve also found that there are times that, if you ask the question in a poor state of mind or in a negative way, it can be counterproductive.

Change can be scary. Progress and improvement is about change. We’re pushing ourselves, we’re going beyond our comfort zone, we’re getting better but we may make mistakes or fail. That’s all good but again, it can bring about fear.

For some people, fear of failure/mistakes is sometimes too much to take a chance or to make a change. For others, going outside the comfortable zone they have now is too much. For others, it might even be the fear of success, fear of one’s own greatness, also sometimes referred to as the Jonah Complex.

If we have a vision for our lives, if we think from the end with the end in mind, if we have goals of some kind, we can focus on the end results and work towards these things – we can more easily progress and improve along the way if we keep reflecting upon this vision.

If we simply wander around without an end result in mind, we may have more difficulty focusing on making consistent progress, on improving where and how that we might benefit most.

My psychology teacher, Mr. Henderson, often said, “Pay now and play later or play now and pay later.” This is true with progress. Small or large actions today can change our tomorrows.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

 

TWO BONUSES:

  1. TED TALK – THE POWER OF BELIEVING THAT YOU CAN IMPROVE – https://www.ted.com/talks/carol_dweck_the_power_of_believing_that_you_can_improve#t-25157
  2. If you want to improve, here’s some ideas to change your habits: https://onewebstrategy.wordpress.com/2014/11/12/how-to-make-new-habits-stick-for-good/

Frey Freyday- Hope

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

Hope- [hōp]- hopes (plural noun)-a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen:

Where there is no vision, there is no hope. George Washington Carver –

Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth. Bradley Whitford –

Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. Desmond Tutu –

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. Martin Luther King, Jr. –

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein –

WORD TO LIVE BY:

HOPE- Hope is about keeping perspective. We’ve all had good and beautiful days before and we need to remember that they will come again. It is the remembering, the perspective and the focus on the good stuff that sustains our hope.

Remember…..if you’re in a tough spot and struggling, think about those times when things did go well. Remember those you surprised yourself with how well you did something. Remember how kind you were or how kind others were to you. Recall those good times, those times that there was success, those times that good things did happen. Give yourself some credit. Give others some credit, too.

Author Brendon Burchard says, “Look at nature and realize how lucky we are to be here. Go for a stroll outside and look at people as they smile and realize how lucky you are to be here. Walk into a restaurant and see people flirting with each other and having fun at dinner or celebrating, and you start getting a different sense of life. Sometimes you have to get out of your house to feel hope, to keep perspective.”

From time to time we can all become myopic to our own ego, emotional reality, and little worlds. We can miss world all around us.

In my own instance, when I feel down or lose hope, I step back, and really try to look at my life and give thanks. You can’t be both grateful AND hopeless. Also, it helps immensely if I go and do something to help someone else. I see that others may not have it as good as I do, and my actions create good feelings, goodwill and by my own actions, I create hope.

Remember one more thing: Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people, just like you, who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. –

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

  BONUS: Ted Talk: Street art with a message of hope and peace

https://www.ted.com/talks/el_seed_street_art_with_a_message_of_hope_and_peace

Inspiration from within

It doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 80 – you still need something to drive you forward.  The inspiration you seek is found within, waiting to be called upon by an unforeseen challenge or inspired request. -Tony Robbins

Frey Freyday – Music inside

 

( Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

 

Music inside you  – whatever you think about, your interest, passion, purpose- regardless what your ‘job’ is……

Don’t die with your music still inside you.Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul. – Wayne Dyer

WORD TO LIVE BY:

 

So what does it mean, “Don’t die with your music still inside you”? -Basically, it means to listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs you.

This means that maybe you always wanted to paint, write a book, go travel somewhere, start a business, talk to someone, resolve something, achieve something – whatever! Go do it. Now.

Can you imagine being on your deathbed knowing that you always wanted to write a book and not having even tried? (to try and fail is OK) Some say the regrets from not doing something are much greater than regrets from doing something. To have a dream or passion and ignore it will eat at you until you die.

But sometimes fear stops people. Fear of failure, embarrassment, even fear of success.

If we feel fear, a few things a person can do to erase fear include: being thankful, thinking from the end as if you already have it, put ourselves in a good emotional state and focus on action steps that we can take Now, today.

It’s been proven that the thoughts we choose have everything to do with our emotions. I can tell you that a commitment to feeling good can take away a stomach ache, fear, depression, sadness, anxiety—you name it.  .

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB).  Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education.

Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BONUS:

Video and article

https://www.drwaynedyer.com/video/dont-die-with-your-music-still-in-you-wayne-dyer-and-daughter-serena/

 

Frey Freyday – Moments

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff….)

mo·ment-[ˈmōmənt]- a very brief period of time:

Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life. Omar Khayyam

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. Buddha

No matter how dark the moment, love and hope are always possible. George Chakiris

If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment. Carlos Santana

You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Henry David Thoreau

Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life. Eckhart Tolle

WORD TO LIVE BY:

MomentsSmall points in time which we can intentionally enhance. These moments define our own experiences and the experiences of those around us. In the moment, can intentionally enhance our own lives and the lives of those around us.

Think about a memory. Any memory, good or bad, old or new. You can basically put yourself in that moment; you can feel the emotion, maybe even recall the sounds, smells? You were present in that moment, you were aware and living. At that moment, you weren’t worrying, you weren’t anticipating something in the future, and you weren’t looking into the past. You have that memory because you were ‘in that moment’.

Moments happen ‘to us’ in life. Sure. But we can also create moments. We can create experiences.

Let’s face it, moments and experiences are our lives. Our memories are moments and experiences. What else is there? Things that happened in school, with our parents, tough times, good times, playground things, moments with someone we like, moments when we feel fear, moments of joy and bliss.

We live life in the moment. When we worry about the future, or anticipate it, or when we ponder over the past, we’re not able to see the moment, we don’t have awareness of the moment, and we miss it – we miss life.

There are moments in history, in sports. These can be defining moments for a person, a group, a nation.

We can think about a moment in politics, in civil rights, with a sports team at school, on TV – in a moment something happened, and then things were different. One minute a group felt one way, and then a few minutes later, the consensus changed, consciousness elevated. We can make those moments happen in our lives, too.

Our lives are very different from one another. However, how we experience a moment is the same. We can learn to create moments. There’s a book that breaks down moments; The Power of Moments, by Chip Heath and Dan Heath. They state that, ‘our most memorable positive moments are dominated by four elements: elevation, insight, pride, and connection. If we embrace these elements, we can conjure more moments that matter. What if a teacher could design a lesson that he knew his students would remember twenty years later? What if a manager knew how to create an experience that would delight customers? What if you had a better sense of how to create memories that matter for your children?

This book delves into some fascinating mysteries of experience: Why we tend to remember the best or worst moment of an experience, as well as the last moment, and forget the rest.’
Today, as you go into the world, be in the moment and look for ways that you might be able to create a defining moment for yourself, for loved ones, for others.

+ Thanks for taking a moment to read this.

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.

So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

You can read more at www.onewebstrategy.com

BONUS:

Podcast – How to create life-changing moments – https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/tony-robbins/the-tony-robbins-podcast/e/51637803

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