Frey Freyday – Resilience

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work though difficult problems.-Gever Tulley


Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive.-Jamais Cascio

The moment we believe that success is determined by an ingrained level of ability as opposed to resilience and hard work, we will be brittle in the face of adversity.-Joshua Waitzkin


Obstacles, of course, are developmentally necessary: they teach kids strategy, patience, critical thinking, resilience and resourcefulness.-Naomi Wolf

Because, you know, resilience – if you think of it in terms of the Gold Rush, then you’d be pretty depressed right now because the last nugget of gold would be gone. But the good thing is, with innovation, there isn’t a last nugget. Every new thing creates two new questions and two new opportunities.-Jeff Bezos


Resilience isn’t a single skill. It’s a variety of skills and coping mechanisms. To bounce back from bumps in the road as well as failures, you should focus on emphasizing the positive.-Jean Chatzky

WORD TO LIVE BY:

re·sil·ience [rəˈzilyəns] – the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness

Put simply, Resilient people are able to utilize their skills and strengths to cope and recover from problems and challenges.

Someone said adversity builds character, but someone else said adversity reveals character. This is often true. To persevere, and not just blindly, to proactively take the best, get rid of the rest, and move on, realizing that you can make a choice to take the good.
Let’s face it, there are always things in our world that come into our lives and challenge us; adversity. These arrive in various guises. Some are the result of low socioeconomic status and challenging home conditions. Other threats are things we see or experience –  experiencing or witnessing a traumatic encounter, accidents, health issues. Experts say that what matters is the intensity and the duration of the stressor

In a study done by psychologists, several elements predicted resilience. Some elements had to do with luck: a resilient child might have a strong bond with a supportive caregiver, parent, teacher, or other mentor-like figure. But another, quite large set of elements was psychological, and had to do with how the children responded to the environment. From a young age, resilient children tended to “meet the world on their own terms.” They were autonomous and independent, would seek out new experiences, and had a “positive social orientation.” “Though not especially gifted, these children used whatever skills they had effectively,” a psychologist wrote. Perhaps most importantly, the resilient children had what psychologists call an “internal locus of control”: they believed that they, and not their circumstances, affected their achievements. (See below linked article)

The good news is that positive construal can be taught. We can make ourselves more or less vulnerable by how we think about things. In short, it has been shown that teaching people to think of stimuli in different ways—to reframe them in positive terms when the initial response is negative, or in a less emotional way when the initial response is emotionally “hot”—changes how they experience and react to the stimulus. You can train people to better regulate their emotions, and the training seems to have lasting effects.

There are some books and thought on being resilient like a palm tree: “Resilience during tough times is about being flexible like a palm tree rather than unbending like an oak. Accepting rather than breaking.” This refers to the fact that, for instance in the very high winds of a hurricane, a palm tree will bend very far but not break. Other trees often crack or fall. We can bend like the palm and bounce back…..People who flex and bend with life’s twists and challenges are healthier and less stressed than those who stand relentlessly steadfast and unwavering – what my mother would call “being hard-headed.”

So can you train yourself to be more resilient? Yes, you can. Even places like the Mayo Clinic say so – “Resilience can help protect you from various mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. Resilience can also help offset factors that increase the risk of mental health conditions, such as being bullied or previous trauma. If you have an existing mental health condition, being resilient can improve your ability to cope.” They have training and videos, too. http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/resilience-training/in-depth/resilience/art-20046311

Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.
So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from..

 

Bonus: Article

How People Learn to Become Resilient

http://www.newyorker.com/science/maria-konnikova/the-secret-formula-for-resilience

 

the single most effective way to get rich is….

A self-made millionaire says the single most effective way to get rich is a simple decision most people don’t make

Business Insider

“If you want to be rich, all you have to do is make a decision to do something that most people don’t do,” writes David Bach, who became a millionaire by age 30, in his book “The Automatic Millionaire.”That decision is to pay yourself first.

“What most people do when they earn a dollar is pay everyone else first,” Bach explains. “They pay the landlord, the credit card company, the telephone company, the government, and on and on.

“The reason they think they need a budget is to help them figure out how much to pay everyone else so at the end of the month — or the year, or their working life — they will have something ‘left over’ to pay themselves.”

This mindset plagues many of us, and is “absolutely, positively financially backwards,” he emphasizes. “And because this system does not work, Americans wind up trying some pretty strange ways to get rich.”

These routes to wealth include: winning it, marrying it, inheriting it, or suing for it. But there is only one proven way to get rich, Bach writes, and it also happens to be the easiest way: “Nothing will help you achieve wealth until you decide to pay yourself first … [It] means just what it says. When you earn a dollar, the first person you pay is you. Most people don’t do this.”

Bach recommends starting simple, by putting at least 10% of your gross income into a pretax retirement account, such as a 401(k), Roth IRA, or traditional IRA.

If you’re not comfortable making a 10% contribution, it’s better to start small than not start at all. In fact, Bach started by setting aside a mere 1%. Over time, he gradually increased his percentage — from 3% to 10% to 15% — until he reached 20%.

Once you’ve decided on a percentage to contribute, make it automatic, Bach stresses. This way, you’ll never even see the money and you’ll learn to live without it.

“You’d be amazed how effortlessly you can learn to live on a little less,” he assures. “You can’t spend what you don’t have in your pocket.”

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/self-made-millionaire-says-single-160000519.html

Italy – Italia

I want to give a ‘shot out’ to different countries that have visited my site in 2015.

Thank you for visiting http://www.onewebstrategy.com !

Please make a comment!

Now- in 2015, 22 people from Italy visited this website, thank you!

Voglio dare un ‘colpo ‘ di diversi paesi che hanno visitato il mio sito nel 2015.

Grazie per aver visitato http://www.onewebstrategy.com!

Si prega di fare un commento!

Ora-nel 2015, 22 persone dall’Italia hanno visitato questo sito, grazie!

Frey Freyday – Be Bold

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

Be bold, be bold, and everywhere be bold- Herbert Spencer 

Be bold, be brave enough to be your true self.Queen Latifah

Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.-Helen Keller

Freedom lies in being bold.-Robert Frost

We are all ordinary. We are all boring. We are all spectacular. We are all shy. We are all bold. We are all heroes. We are all helpless. It just depends on the day.-Brad Meltzer

Often, in the real world, it’s not the smart that get ahead but the bold.-Robert Kiyosaki

Leadership comes in small acts as well as bold strokes.Carly Fiorina

Laugh at yourself, but don’t ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don’t leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.-Alan Alda

Do not love leisure. Waste not a minute. Be bold. Realize the Truth, here and now!-Swami Sivananda

No discovery was ever made without a bold guess-Sir Isaac Newton

Business is about people. It’s about passion. It’s about bold ideas, bold small ideas or bold large ideas.-Tom Peters

All you need is 20 seconds of insane courage – the movie “We Bought a Zoo”

WORD TO LIVE BY:

bold [bōld] – showing an ability to take risks; confident and courageous:

Most of us here in the US have pretty good lives these days. We really don’t suffer much, at least most of us. We have what we need.

It is true that we don’t always get what we want and we are stressed out sometimes, but much of that might be self-imposed.

Can we achieve more? Can we contribute more? Can we be more? Absolutely.

Can we accomplish our 10 year plan in 1 year? Yes.

It is just a decision, a basic plan, and some passion/courage.

 

We live in a great world, generally speaking. We are comfortable. We are often complacent.

So many of us can be, and perhaps want to be, more. Yet because we are comfortable, and because we all have some fears, it is sometimes tough to be bold and go for it.

….stop thinking about acting and actually do something! Stop the paralysis of analysis. Stop trying to make it perfect.

Just go do it. You will learn and grow and become someone new just by doing. Others will respect you just for trying.

Here’s a suggestion from a wikiHow writer (http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Bold)

boldness, what would they do in your shoes? If you already know someone who’s bold, imagine how they’d act.

  • Your bold inspiration doesn’t have to be ‘real’. You could even think of a character from a movie or book who’s daring and brave. Then, imagine their boldness in your life.

Ask for what you want. Rather than waiting to be recognized for your efforts, or expecting someone to consider your needs, step up and ask. This doesn’t mean you should demand what you want or be aggressive. Instead, confidently and tactfully choose your words

Take risks and create opportunities. There’s a difference between being reckless and accepting risks. Reckless people don’t accept risks because they don’t even think about them. A bold person, on the other hand, has learned about the risks, and decided to go through with the decision anyway, ready and willing to accept the consequences if things don’t work out

Did you ever do something bold? It felt scary before and during, right? But after, it was incredible!

You did it. You stretched yourself. You grew! You can be bold any moment.

from the site : boldlife.com – “A bold life requires that you consistently take action in order to build your confidence and courage. When you hold back out of doubt and fear, you live small, settle for less, and cheat yourself out of an adventurous life.

Afraid? Everyone is. Don’t allow fear to stop you. Don’t allow the monsters in your head to steal your joy and opportunities.

When you act boldly, you summon mighty forces. Anything can happen. Everything is possible!”

Bold Questions: Why am I bold at just the right moment? Why do I make wise, bold choices? Why am I bold?

How can I be bold and contribute right now?

If your life is the same as it is today, one year from now, are you good with that?

Be Bold. Dream Big. This is it, there are no rehearsals. This is our life. Make it happen, now.

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Frey Freyday was actually born out of something I created called “Words To Live By” (WTLB). Going forward, I will now not only share the quotes, as you may be used to receiving, but also a related (WTLB). In 1999, when we had our first daughter, I was contemplating how I would raise my new beautiful child, and I was thinking about how I can best educate her and my other children about values, morals, and other key thoughts about life. School offers education. Religion offers some values and morals. Parents offer most of it, sometimes intentionally, sometimes accidentally.
So I created a (WTLB) book, like a dictionary, which lists things like honesty, love, persistence, etc. with a definition that I created, with my wife’s input. I then turned it into a workbook with one word per page and space below for notes. For years we would discuss with my two daughters and they would draw pictures and make notes in the blank space. I may share some of those images with you. As they got older, they were less inclined to draw and more open to quotes and references from adults, hence where Frey Freyday came from….

BOLD BONUS: A great podcast

http://fourhourworkweek.com/2014/10/07/global-learning-xprize/

 the Magic of Thinking BIG and Bold!

Pilipinas – Philippines

I want to give a ‘shot out’ to different countries that have visited my site in 2015.

Thank you for visiting http://www.onewebstrategy.com !

Please make a comment!

Now- in 2015, 85 people from the Philippines visited this site, thank you!!

Gusto kong bigyan ng isang ‘pagbaril out’ sa iba’t-ibang bansa na may bumisita sa aking site sa 2015.Thank sa pagbisita http://www.onewebstrategy.com! Mangyaring gumawa ng isang komento! Ngayon-in 2015, 85 binisita ang site na ito, salamat sa iyo !!

Brazil – Brasil

I want to give a ‘shot out’ to different countries that have visited my site in 2015.

Thank you for visiting http://www.onewebstrategy.com !

Please make a comment!

Now- in 2015, 44 people from Brazil visited this website, thank you!

Eu quero dar um ‘tiro fora’ para diferentes países que visitaram meu site em 2015.

Obrigado por visitar http://www.onewebstrategy.com!

Por favor, faça um comentário!

Agora-em 2015, 44 pessoas do Brasil visitaram este site, obrigado!

Saudi Arabia

I want to give a ‘shot out’ to different countries that have visited my site in 2015.

Thank you for visiting http://www.onewebstrategy.com !

Please make a comment!

Now- in 2015, 15 people from Saudi Arabia visited this website, thank you!

أريد أن أعطى ‘بالرصاص’ إلى مختلف البلدان الذين زاروا الموقع الخاص بي في عام 2015.

شكرا لكم لزيارة http://www.onewebstrategy.com!

الرجاء الإدلاء بتعليق!

الآن–بحلول عام 2015، 15 شخصا من المملكة العربية السعودية بزيارة هذا الموقع،

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