Vision, Values, Methods, Obstacles, and Measurement

Here is a great set of ideas created by the founder of Salesforce.com, Marc Benioff.

A good, quick list to remind you of the power of good questions and thoughts, each day….

V2MOM

It stands for Vision, Values, Methods, Obstacles, and Measurement

1. What do I really want? (Vision)

2. What is important about it? (Values)

3. How will I get it? (Methods)

4. What is preventing me from having it? (Obstacles)

5. How will I know I am successful? (Measurements)

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Frey Freyday-Adversity

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

The perfection of your every “issue” is beyond human comprehension. Don’t be fooled. You’ve made no mistakes. The territory behind you and the challenges at hand were precisely crafted to deliver the wisdom and insights that’ll make possible the most joyful time of your life, so far. You didn’t come here to face hurdle after hurdle after hurdle. It’s not as if by mastering your issues today, more issues will be added tomorrow. That only happens when you deny them today. Master your issues, today, and be free. Get through what you must get through, today. Understand what troubles you, today. Do what you can, today. And all the rest will be made easy. So little can yield so much. A new perspective, an admission, a surrender to truth – however painful – changes everything. You are so deserving of everything you now want…The Universe (www.tut.com)

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Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.-Abraham Lincoln

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All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.-Walt Disney

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In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.-Lee Iacocca

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When adversity strikes, that’s when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on.-LL Cool J

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Adversity causes some men to break; others to break records.-William Arthur Ward

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Just as we develop our physical muscles through overcoming opposition – such as lifting weights – we develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and adversity.-Stephen Covey

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I haven’t always acted or reacted in a way that made me proud, but I didn’t make that same mistake twice, and I think that’s what I love about adversity is that it always reminds me of what’s really valuable in life.-Sandra Bullock

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Sometimes adversity is what you need to face in order to become successful.-Zig Ziglar

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Education is an ornament in prosperity and a refuge in adversity.-Aristotle

Bonus: Ted Talk on Adversity

http://www.ted.com/talks/andrew_solomon_how_the_worst_moments_in_our_lives_make_us_who_we_are

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3 Decisions That Will Change You

The 3 Decisions That Will Change Your Life

From entrepreneur.com Nov 19, 2014

Decision 1: Carefully choose what to focus on.
At every moment, millions of things compete for your attention. You can focus on things that are happening right here and now or on what you want to create in the future. Or you can focus on the past.

Where focus goes, energy flows. What you focus on and your pattern for doing so shapes your entire life.

Which area do you tend to focus on more: what you have or what’s missing from your life?

I’m sure you think about both sides of this coin. But if you examine your habitual thoughts, what do you tend to spend most of your time dwelling on?

Rather than focusing on what you don’t have and begrudging those who are better off than you financially, perhaps you should acknowledge that you have much to be grateful for and some of it has nothing to do with money. You can be grateful for your health, family, friends, opportunities and mind.

Developing a habit of appreciating what you have can create a new level of emotional well-being and wealth. But the real question is, do you take time to deeply feel grateful with your mind, body, heart and soul? That’s where the joy, happiness and fulfillment can be found.

Consider a second pattern of focus that affects the quality of your life: Do you tend to focus more on what you can control or what you can’t?

If you focus on what you can’t control, you’ll have more stress in life. You can influence many aspects of your life but you usually can’t control them.

When you adopt this pattern of focus, your brain has to make another decision:

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Decision 2: Figure out, What does this all mean?
Ultimately, how you feel about your life has nothing to do with the events in it or with your financial condition or what has (or hasn’t) happened to you. The quality of your life is controlled by the meaning you give these things.

Most of the time you may be unaware of the effect of your unconscious mind in assigning meaning to life’s events.

When something happens that disrupts your life (a car accident, a health issue, a job loss), do you tend to think that this is the end or the beginning?

If someone confronts you, is that person insulting you, coaching you or truly caring for you?

Does a devastating problem mean that God is punishing you or challenging you? Or is it possible that this problem is a gift from God?

Your life takes on whatever meaning you give it. With each meaning comes a unique feeling or emotion and the quality of your life involves where you live emotionally.

I always ask during my seminars, “How many of you know someone who is on antidepressants and still depressed?” Typically 85 percent to 90 percent of those assembled raise their hands.

How is this possible? The drugs should make people feel better. It’s true that antidepressants do come with labels warning that suicidal thoughts are a possible side effect.

But no matter how much a person drugs himself, if he constantly focuses on what he can’t control in life and what’s missing, he won’t find it hard to despair. If he adds to that a meaning like “life is not worth living,” that’s an emotional cocktail that no antidepressant can consistently overcome.

Yet if that same person can arrive at a new meaning, a reason to live or a belief that all this was meant to be, then he will be stronger than anything that ever happened to him.

When people shift their habitual focus and meanings, there’s no limit on what life can become. A change of focus and a shift in meaning can literally alter someone’s biochemistry in minutes.

So take control and always remember: Meaning equals emotion and emotion equals life. Choose consciously and wisely. Find an empowering meaning in any event, and wealth in its deepest sense will be yours today.

Once you create a meaning in your mind, it creates an emotion, and that emotion leads to a state for making your third decision:
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Decision 3: What will you do?
The actions you take are powerfully shaped by the emotional state you’re in. If you’re angry, you’re going to behave quite differently than if you’re feeling playful or outrageous.

If you want to shape your actions, the fastest way is to change what you focus on and shift the meaning to be something more empowering.

Two people who are angry will behave differently. Some pull back. Others push through.

Some individuals express anger quietly. Others do so loudly or violently. Yet others suppress it only to look for a passive-aggressive opportunity to regain the upper hand or even exact revenge.

Where do these patterns come from? People tend to model their behavior on those they respect, enjoy and love.

The people who frustrated or angered you? You often reject their approaches.

Yet far too often you may find yourself falling back into patterns you witnessed over and over again in your youth and were displeased by.

It’s very useful for you to become aware of your patterns when you are frustrated, angry or sad or feel lonely. You can’t change your patterns if you’re not aware of them.

Now that you’re aware of the power of these three decisions, start looking for role models who are experiencing what you want out of life. I promise you that those who have passionate relationships have a totally different focus and arrive at totally different meanings for the challenges in relationships than people who are constantly bickering or fighting.

It’s not rocket science. If you become aware of the differences in how people approach these three decisions, you’ll have a pathway to help you create a permanent positive change in any area of life.

This piece was adapted from Tony Robbins’ new book, Money Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom.

How do you handle criticism

Here is a great video and audio that I think we may all need to reflect upon from time to time……from Joe Polish

What’s more important…The criticism of someone whom you respect and know, or the opinion of someone you don’t know?  Of course, you should put more weight on the opinions of those you know, but most of us let the opinions of the “haters” bother us…

This quote by Johannes Kepler says it all…

“I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.”

This episode is part 2 of the awesome interview that Joe and Dean did with Sean Stephenson.  This time, he shares a really interesting perspective on how your marketing may provoke “haters” and what you should do about it…

http://ilovemarketing.com/176

Here’s what you’ll learn…

  • Sean shares his definition of marketing and how it helped him heal after having a terrible accident
  • Joe asked Former President Bill Clinton, “How do you handle criticism?” Here’s what Bill told Joe…
  • Sean explains why “haters hate” and his 3-step system for handling them
  • The 5 dials of A Perfect Life (This is how to have REAL wealth in your life)
  • How to use marketing and advertising to win the game of life and get what you want
  • Dean gives you a safe, easy way to create a quick cash windfall in your business

Check it out now and share your thoughts in the comments section. 

http://ilovemarketing.com/176  

JK Rowling: The fringe benefits of failure

My daughters are big fans of the Harry Potter series. I respect the wonderful, huge, imaginative world that J.K. Rowling has created, yet I never really heard her speak.

While trolling around TED, I found this video, and I encourage anyone to view it.

Very worthwhile

Check out “J.K. Rowling Speaks at Harvard Commencement” by Harvard Magazine on Vimeo.

The video is available for your viewing pleasure at http://vimeo.com/1711302

At her Harvard commencement speech, “Harry Potter” author JK Rowling offers some powerful, heartening advice to dreamers and overachievers, including one hard-won lesson that she deems “worth more than any qualification I ever earned.”

JK Rowling penned the bestselling Harry Potter page-turners — a spellbinding, seven-installment fantasy of wizards, warlocks and decidedly British texture that brought her from rags to riches.

 

Frey Freyday- Patience

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

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Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.-Carl Jung

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Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.-Joyce Meyer

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Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.-Jean-Jacques Rousseau

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Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed to develop good character.-Heraclitus

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Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.-Napoleon Hill

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All we need is just a little patience.- Axl Rose

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With love and patience, nothing is impossible.-Daisaku Ikeda

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We could never learn to be brave and patient, if there were only joy in the world.-Helen Keller

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Have patience with all things, But, first of all with yourself.-Saint Francis de Sales

Dogs of War and Paws & Stripes

Are you a dog lover?
Do you know someone that was in combat?

Here’s a cool show starting on A & E

 

http://www.aetv.com/dogs-of-war

service dogs

Resources

http://www.aetv.com/dogs-of-war/exclusives/resources

Paws and Stripes, the shelter they work with at Animal Humane New Mexico, and lots more.

What is Paws and Stripes?

Paws and Stripes was founded in 2010 by Jim and Lindsey Stanek after Jim was injured during his third deployment to Iraq. During the nine months he spent at Brook Army Medical Center in San Antonio, Lindsey noticed how therapy dogs at the hospital eased the effects of his disabilities.

Their mission now is to assist U.S. military veterans with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and traumatic brain injury (TBI), as well as local shelter dogs, by providing integrative service dog training and mental health support to veterans and their families.

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