(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

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When you encourage others, you in the process are encouraged because you’re making a commitment and difference in that person’s life. Encouragement really does make a difference.-Zig Ziglar

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Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.-Barbara de Angelis

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I think one of the best words in the English language is ‘compassion.’ I think it holds everything. It holds love, it holds care… and if everybody just did something. We all make a difference.-Michael Crawford

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For a successful entrepreneur it can mean extreme wealth. But with extreme wealth comes extreme responsibility. And the responsibility for me is to invest in creating new businesses, create jobs, employ people, and to put money aside to tackle issues where we can make a difference.-Richard Branson

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It’s easy to make a buck. It’s a lot tougher to make a difference.-Tom Brokaw

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That’s the beauty of coaching. You get to touch lives, you get to make a difference. You get to do things for people who will never pay you back and they say you never have had a perfect day until you’ve done something for someone who will never pay you back.-Morgan Wootten

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When your heart speaks to you about what you need to do to sustain life on this planet, listen to it, make a difference, and be an inspiration for generations to come. Be inspired by people like Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King, Christopher Reeve, Albert Schweitzer, Helen Keller, and many others.-Bernie Siegel

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No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world and make a difference.-Robin Williams

a great story I am reporting,……..

How do you get out of a mood or feeling that’s hurting you?

We all have times when we “know better” but can’t shake an emotion that’s holding us back. Often we know the emotion is bad for us, but we still can’t shake it. Weird, huh? And it eats away at everything in your life.

So today I want to share with you a strategy Tony used to help a woman to overcome a crippling emotional pattern that had nearly destroyed her career, her marriage, and family. She was “stuck” and didn’t know how to get out.

This strategy is so powerful, it transformed this woman’s life in the space of 20 minutes.

Click here to see it.

To Your Breakthrough!

Mark Peysha
CEO and Cofounder
Robbins-Madanes Training

Meditation

Posted: August 25, 2014 in meditate, meditation, Uncategorized
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Do you meditate? I’ve been trying to get on a meditating routine for over a decade of my life. I am really trying to focus on consistency now.

I want to share with you how. One of my biggest frustrations when I started learning to meditate was how complicated it was, because honestly, I would read entire books on how to meditate and they’d never teach you. They just talked about how meditation is great and the evidence is conclusive.

Every scientific study ever done from neuroscience studies to psychological studies to self-report studies have found over and over the incredible benefits of meditation, from lowering people’s stress and anxiety to helping them have more attention and focus, to literally helping them do better on tests, activities at work, and allowing them to increase their reported happiness.

It is the magic method for improving people’s lives mentally and psychologically, and many people would argue spiritually as well.

The challenge is that you have all these books that talk about the benefits but never teach you how. Or, they really make it so complicated or not fun, so you’re like, what is this? Or maybe they’re religion-based and people don’t really vibe with that particular religion or spiritual style.

Here is a video from Brendon Burchard that is going to teach you a very basic tool and strategy for meditation that’s caught on.

Click HERE http://youtu.be/v2mY36Ho1Sk or below

http://brendonburchard.tumblr.com/post/95006757308/how-to-meditate-release-meditation-technique

Today!……..

Posted: August 21, 2014 in Uncategorized

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By Kare Anderson
Emmy-Winner | TEDx | Connective Behavior | Speaker | Columnist | Author | Strategist
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Breandan and Emma, the couple up the hill from me in Sausalito have been married 54 years, they proudly told me last year. They walked, hand-in-hand past my home each morning, usually laughing, smiling and pointing out things to each other along the way.

Originally from Ireland, they listened, in bed, to BBC News at dawn so they usually had a tidbit of news to share with me if they happened to pass my home when I was finishing my lame attempt at morning exercises in the back yard.

When Emma died suddenly, Breandan stopped walking. He stayed inside their home and ignored my knock on their door. Several times. Later, when he started walking again, he told me his son, a motivational speaker on leadership, suggested that he start saying positive self-affirmations every morning “to lift his mood.”

He retorted, “My mood doesn’t need lifting! It’s right where it’s supposed to be.” So his well-intentioned son then mailed him a card pack with cheery faces on one side and, on the other, a series of upbeat daily affirmations. The card pack was entitled ”Yes, I Can!” to which Breandan hotly responded (to me, but not his son, I gather) “No I won’t!”

Write Yourself Through Your Journey to a Better Emotional Place

That gift inspired Breandan to get out of the old chair he sat in most days, with a morose look on his face, and take action, but not in the way his son intended. He wrote his own collection of “realistic affirmations.” I figured that the sentiments reflected his way of responding to grief, his stubborn resistance to being told to feel better and his core attitude about living life as it happens. Some were darkly funny. Yet his basic resilience started to shine through as he finished writing his sayings by the end of the year. “Not every cloud has a silver lining so start liking the clouds.”

I thought of Breandan when I read that Norman Vincent Peale may have been wrong, at least for some people, when he advocated saying positive self-affirmations to lift one’s mood. That’s a startling revelation for many of us Americans who have been bombarded with self-help messages based on the belief that positive affirmations are entirely beneficial.

“Repeating positive self-statements may benefit certain people, such as those with high self-esteem, but backfire for the very people who need them the most,” concludes social psychology professor Dr. Joanne Wood. Even those with high self-esteem felt only slightly better after repeating a positive self-statement.

The news gets worse for those with a low self-image Wood and her colleagues found:

• People with high self-esteem are more likely than those with low self-esteem to try to improve their moods when they are sad, as well as to savor their moods when they are happy.

• Those with low self-esteem sometimes even try to dampen their happiness, and engaging with others on Facebook seems to reinforce that reaction.

Don’t Fight Those Feelings. Instead, Notice Them, Then Choose What to Feel

Like obsessing more about the elephant in the room after being told to ignore it, being told to repeat “get happy” sayings, when sad, can make us feel even more sad. As Ed Yong concluded, “Statements that contradict a person’s self-image, no matter how rallying in intention, are likely to boomerang.“ “Don’t believe everything you think. “Thoughts are just that – thoughts,” wrote Pocket Peace author Allan Lokos.

Instead, of trying to change your feelings (as cognitive therapy attempts to do) change how you choose to view your thoughts. That approach calls on us to be mindfully observing what we are thinking and feeling from a calm pool, so to speak, without getting repeatedly sucked into the downward swirl of them. As Thich Nhat Hanh wrote, “Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.”

Practicing this way we can notice what we are feeling in the moment without immediately reacting, thus becoming better at choosing how we want to act. This approach is called ACT:Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. To reinforce that practice, “think of yourself as a kind friend,” suggests Duke University psychology professor Mark Leary. That bolsters yourself-compassion and thus your happiness. “One is a great deal less anxious if one feels perfectly free to be anxious, and the same may be said of guilt,” Alan Watts wrote.

Breandan, by the way, has begun writing his memoir, describing some of the adventures he shared with Emma, the people they met and the joy of living with her “through thick and thin.” His writing enables him to take the ACT approach, to observing and accept his sadness at his wife’s passing and to choose to focus, instead, on the many of the happy times they enjoyed together. He showed me the quote he chose for the first page:

“In the end, just three things matter:

How well we have lived

How well we have loved

How well we have learned to let go” ~ Jack Kornfield

As Byron Katie would say, he is “loving what is.” See more ideas at my Quotable and Connected column at Forbes.

https://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20140716144633-7216756-choose-how-you-want-to-feel?_mSplash=1%5C&published=t

(Frey Freyday is simply a bunch of inspirational, motivational and other quotes meant to make you think, reflect, smile, even laugh a bit. Hopefully helpful, useful stuff..)

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Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.-Buddha

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Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.-Omar Khayyam

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Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.-Barbara de Angelis

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It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Decide today who you will become, what you will give and how you will live. -Tony Robbins

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In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.-Theodore Roosevelt

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There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.-Jiddu Krishnamurti

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Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.-Miguel Angel Ruiz

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Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.-Oprah Winfrey

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How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.-Anne Frank

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Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.-Gilda Radner

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If you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back to pain and regret.-Jim Carrey

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When you take a flower in your hand and really look at it, it’s your world for the moment. I want to give that world to someone else. Most people in the city rush around so, they have no time to look at a flower. I want them to see it whether they want to or not.-Georgia O’Keeffe

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A question to ask yourself each moment that really lights fires, gongs bells, and summons resources is “What little, mortal, baby steps can I take today that will demonstrate expectancy, prepare for my dream’s manifestation, and above all, place me within reach of life’s magic?” –Please, ask this question and then take those steps, and I promise you’ll go down in history as a giant among your kind. It’s never too late, –    The Universe (www.tut.com) Mike Dooley

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I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.-Mahatma Gandhi

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The brain is a wonderful organ; it starts working the moment you get up in the morning and does not stop until you get into the office.-Robert Frost

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the 6 E’s of Leadership

Posted: August 14, 2014 in Uncategorized
the “E6 of Leadership” by Brendan Burchard (from his video “What Great Leaders Actually Do”)
 
  • Envision a vibrant, clear future (alternative). What does tomorrow look like?
  • Enlist others, share ideas, dreams, desires  – people support what they create – believe in the dream together.
  • Embody – a leader embodies it by the way she/he acts, talks, behaves, integrity, etc.
  • Empower people, give the team decision making authority, respect and trust.
  • Evaluate the skills of the team, the needs, ethics, decisions, resources, excellence.
  • Encourage the team – be the champion, cheerleader, motivate with passion and example. When the days are in turmoil, be solid, see the next step, help and support.

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